Divorce question

celeste_love said:
It is stated in the Law, i every country i think that like that, if i'm not mistaken. that when you and your spouse got divorced, the Guy should still support the ex-wife, though she can support herself, and specially when they have a child. half or percentage of his income goes to the ex-wife and the child. That's the law.
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Wrong just been through this. As a "husband" I have no duty to support my wife only my children. The cost of raising the children is now split between the husband and wife regardless of who the kids stay with. The expenses to raise the kids is proportionality split between husband and wife based on Salary %. If the wife has not been working the court may order you to pay your wife a "salary" while she gets on her feet but it is normally accompanied by a time limit.
 
smalltownsky said:
thank you



she is and he is 2. i still love her, she doesn't love me, all i can think is to get a divorce and throw her back into the ocean
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I've done this 12 yrs ago and it's not easy brother. If there's any way at all that you can resolve your issues, try to fix it.
This brings up the question; why doesn't she love you anymore? Did you give her a reason or is this all her? Just asking
 
web said:
If the wife has not been working the court may order you to pay your wife a "salary" while she gets on her feet but it is normally accompanied by a time limit.
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Wrong.

In some instances (depends on the ex-wife's circumstances, e.g. women with a bad education and no real chances of getting a decent job) she may get alimony for life. Even after her ex-husband has died, she can claim that alimony from his deceased estate.
 
blunomore said:
Wrong.

In some instances (depends on the ex-wife's circumstances, e.g. women with a bad education and no real chances of getting a decent job) she may get alimony for life. Even after her ex-husband has died, she can claim that alimony from his deceased estate.
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The logic behind that being? Her duties as a wife prevented her from furthering her education?
 
abzo said:
The logic behind that being? Her duties as a wife prevented her from furthering her education?
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There is no logic and no explanation is required by the court. It is simply a factual question of whether the ex-wife's education, skills and experience is likely to get her employed or not.
 
celeste_love said:
It is stated in the Law, i every country i think that like that, if i'm not mistaken. that when you and your spouse got divorced, the Guy should still support the ex-wife, though she can support herself, and specially when they have a child. half or percentage of his income goes to the ex-wife and the child. That's the law.
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go recheck your law stats. there is not a chance in hell the man must support the ex-wife if she is able to support herself. he is only liable for the child. the woman must find her own way. and that's my opinion.
 
blunomore said:
Wrong.

In some instances (depends on the ex-wife's circumstances, e.g. women with a bad education and no real chances of getting a decent job) she may get alimony for life. Even after her ex-husband has died, she can claim that alimony from his deceased estate.
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You studied the divorce law lately ? Trust me just been through it. Although it might happen but then my lawyer isn't doing his job properly. I went through all of this in the last two months. She can claim certain things like a portion of your pension and such like. My wife thought she was going to have a nice income from me for the rest of her life because she got bad advice from friends who thought they new the law. I got a good lawyer who quickly sorted it out. All I have to pay for is for the kids but I did add more to the monthly figure because I know if I made life too hard for her at the end of the day my girls would suffer.

The whole problem with divorce is people get bad advice, she got advice from a friend who is getting divorced and whose husband never got a lawyer he is paying far too much but that is what happens...
 
blunomore said:
Wrong.

In some instances (depends on the ex-wife's circumstances, e.g. women with a bad education and no real chances of getting a decent job) she may get alimony for life. Even after her ex-husband has died, she can claim that alimony from his deceased estate.
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blu even if the woman is not educated enough to get a decent job, the court will only award her something like R1 a year in alimony for herself. the man is not responsible for her after the divorce, only his children.
 
blunomore said:
Wrong.

In some instances (depends on the ex-wife's circumstances, e.g. women with a bad education and no real chances of getting a decent job) she may get alimony for life. Even after her ex-husband has died, she can claim that alimony from his deceased estate.
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She might decide to seat on her ass and not try to improve her life because she knows she's going to get paid for life. This law must change. Can you imagine she chows your money with her new boyfriend?
 
Celine said:
blu even if the woman is not educated enough to get a decent job, the court will only award her something like R1 a year in alimony for herself. the man is not responsible for her after the divorce, only his children.
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You are wrong Celine. If a woman cannot earn for herself (because of poor education etc) her ex-husband will have to pay her alimony.
 
Fuma said:
She might decide to seat on her ass and not try to improve her life because she knows she's going to get paid for life. This law must change. Can you imagine she chows your money with her new boyfriend?
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So you imply that a woman, whilst still married, does not improve her education in the hope that if/when she gets divorced, she will get alimony?

The court has also said many a time that a woman must not treat her ex-husband like a meal ticket for life. In other words, if there is any chance that she can earn a living herself, she can and should not leech off him forever.
 
blunomore said:
There is no logic and no explanation is required by the court. It is simply a factual question of whether the ex-wife's education, skills and experience is likely to get her employed or not.
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How is that the ex-husband's responsibility?
 
blunomore said:
So you imply that a woman, whilst still married, does not improve her education in the hope that if/when she gets divorced, she will get alimony?

The court has also said many a time that a woman must not treat her ex-husband like a meal ticket for life. In other words, if there is any chance that she can earn a living herself, she can and should not leech off him forever.
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I meant after getting divorced she might decide not to do anything since she guaranteed an income for life, like you said.
 
blunomore said:
You are wrong Celine. If a woman cannot earn for herself (because of poor education etc) her ex-husband will have to pay her alimony.
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nope you are wrong might have to contribute for a set period but after that she is on her own.
 
web said:
nope you are wrong might have to contribute for a set period but after that she is on her own.
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Wrong. Unless she gets a job that pays a decent salary, his obligation will continue until she dies - if she dies first.
 
web said:
No he does not.
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abzo said:
Did you check this before you got married? :p
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As I tried to explain to you guys before, if the husband earns more and the wife is not in a position to earn a decent living, the court will grant her alimony to be paid by him.

Abzo, I am very well qualified, so the court will never grant me alimony. They will tell me to get a job :)
 
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