Divorced and Coparenting

[RedViking]

She's on here, but hasn't logged in in months...

Please tell her to log in and point her to this thread.

 

[I.am.Sam]

yeah we must hear her side of the story as well but we all know what drunks are and how they cause issues to families and society

 

[R13...]

I didn't really disappear. I just started posting less and focusing more on work. Then my mother had a stroke and was in ICU. She passed away last Sunday morning so I was in PE on Fam Resp leave and then worked from there. I only got back to CT this morning.

Ah okay. Sorry to hear about your mother man. Strongs.

 

[I.am.Sam]

@Pineapple Smurf please get your new gf to come in and give her side of the story

you see why alcohol is bad for you mkay

 

[RedViking]

Mrs. Badger. Where Art Though.

 

[R13...]

I started talking to the ex only after myself and the wife agreed to split.

Hopefully not the same ex who landed you and your wife in jail, right?

 

[Alton Turner Blackwood]

Hopefully not the same ex who landed you and your wife in jail, right?

Your memory is impressive. All 3 of us got locked up.

But no, it's not her

 

[R13...]

It's not going to work in the long term.
My ex and I did it for 8 years until the shyte hit the fan, and now, if I ever see him again, I think I'll stab him.
My kids were more or less the same age as yours are now when he came out to me in 2012. I accepted it, they accepted it, I saw other men, he saw other men and it was working just fine, but just over a year ago it all went downhill.... A lot of it had to do with alcohol, and I know you have the same problem (don't take it the wrong way, you already know my thoughts on this matter), and then my "love" for him became hate which then became rage towards him.... Here was someone I was living with in complete harmony and then everything went tits up. Never ever in my life did I ever think I would say that I hate the man... but I do.
I think you should part ways while you're still on good terms, for your sake, your wife's sake, and especially your girls sake.

Why'd your arrangement not work? I mean it's not like either of you can be jealous of the other as you accept he's gay and he won't want you seeing as he prefers men.

 

[Steamy Tom]

Why'd your arrangement not work? I mean it's not like either of you can be jealous of the other as you accept he's gay and he won't want you seeing as he prefers men.

but she could want his man?

 

[ShaunSA]

but she could want his man?

@Nick333 does swing both ways

 

[EMAM]

Why'd your arrangement not work? I mean it's not like either of you can be jealous of the other as you accept he's gay and he won't want you seeing as he prefers men.

He hit the bottle after being sober for 19 years and became abusive

 

[Kornhub]

Unfortunately I think you can't live together. I know some crazy women and the hell they will unleash will not be worth it. They will find revenge in something and it wont be logical.

*Disclaimer I might just know crazy women in my family.

 

[HunterNW]

He hit the bottle after being sober for 19 years and became abusive

Drunk and gay.... What a combination.

 

[The_Mowgs]

I can already see how this is going to pan out, especially now that there is an ex also in the picture.

Remember when I told you your family is going to find you in a ditch somewhere one day? Well that day is nearing quickly.

My advice, divorce and start working on yourself, you know what Im talking about. Leave the ex alone, work to get yourself back on track.

 

[Ninja]

but she could want his man?

he blows a better flute

 

[RedViking]

I can already see how this is going to pan out, especially now that there is an ex also in the picture.

Remember when I told you your family is going to find you in a ditch somewhere one day? Well that day is nearing quickly.

My advice, divorce and start working on yourself, you know what Im talking about. Leave the ex alone, work to get yourself back on track.

To work on oneself. One has to first admit one has a problem.


My wife makes sure I know I need to keep working on myself.

 

[Smokey mcpot]

To work on oneself. One has to first admit one has a problem.


My wife makes sure I know I need to keep working on myself.

My wife gives me about 500 things to work... I make sure I work on at least one a year to show her I'm putting in effort.

 

[ToxicBunny]

I can't comment on the kids aspect and coparenting, but the co-habiting part I have done before and I can only say that you should avoid it... Whilst it seems like a good/easy option initially, it quickly spirals out of control and gets unpleasant even if things "look" cordial on the surface. There is always stuff that starts bubbling underneath and both parties start getting annoyed/pissed off about the smallest things and fights start. What could have been an amicable friendship if the co-habiting thing hadn't happened invariably ends up being completely destroyed.

 

[Senor]

Tried it, quite a few times actually, always ended up same way.... Now permanently Seperate.... Peace at last.... Kids spend nearly equal time with both parents.

Important thing is for both parents not to try and alienate or bad mouth each other to the kids.... This will mess them up.

 

[Slav]

To work on oneself. One has to first admit one has a problem.


My wife makes sure I know I need to keep working on myself.

Yes and maybe refrain from referring to ones self as the one.