Do you have friends?

Mila

Mila

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While on holiday i did a lot of thinking. I am a sad loser with no fiends:(
I like to tell myself it is because i moved around so much and just never do the BFF thing.

Where do you get these things other people call friends?

And does this mean i'm a really irritating anoying loser nobody wants to be friends with?

And how do i start to change my nasty friend off putting habits?
 
I think you should watch the movie "I Love you, man" you will relate to the storyline. ;)
 
Don't have many friends either. Hell, even the people at work don't socialize with me much.
You can't really blame them though, as I know I'm a hard to please person when it comes to standards of what I expect from them. That being said, I'm not at work to make friends.

Making new friends has become a lot more difficult as I've grown older!
 
Ask yourself if you would like to be friends with yourself, if the answer is no look at the reasons and improve on those qualities.
If the answer is yes you shouldn't have a problem :D
 
Mila said:
While on holiday i did a lot of thinking. I am a sad loser with no fiends:(
I like to tell myself it is because i moved around so much and just never do the BFF thing.

Where do you get these things other people call friends?

And does this mean i'm a really irritating anoying loser nobody wants to be friends with?

And how do i start to change my nasty friend off putting habits?
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Well if you have enough money ill be your friend :p:D

scotty777 said:
hmmm... Mila, maybe you should just get drinks with your colleagues or something :)
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Yeah thats a good place to start.

spiderz said:
Mila - start by joining [http://mybroadband.co.za/vb/showthread.php?t=162923]

"a Small step is all that's need to start a journey - me, today"
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+1 :D come join the dark side :p If all else fails you can just be there for food and drinks :p
 
I think most of us only have a few true friends - you know, the ones who will be there for you if/when the **** hits the fan in your life. I reckon I only have 2 or 3 of those.
 
scotty777 said:
hmmm... Mila, maybe you should just get drinks with your colleagues or something :)
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I work with a bunch of laaities. And they do not like me. They are all a bunch off lazy ass slackers and i have told them that. The world does not owe you anything. :o
 
90% of my friends I know through my church. ok, it is a failry large church, but...

I don't know how people survive without a church family. If one of us gets sick or we need help with the kids, we have ten families we can call on in a heartbeat... in fact we don't even have to call them, they are beating down our door to help.

When my wife was in hospital for a week last month, we had cooked meals every night and people to watch the kids for us.

We get together frequently for socials, braais, dinners, etc.

Those people are my friends.

Go to a good church Mila... make some useful friends.
 
What are friends? Are they people you keep in contact with regularly?
 
Don't you have any school friends? Family friends? Friends from university/college? The friends you make from staying in residence are generally friends for life.

Most of my friends are from the above categories. I dont really have too many people i socialise with from work. I keep work and play separate.
 
blonde one said:
Ask yourself if you would like to be friends with yourself, if the answer is no look at the reasons and improve on those qualities.
If the answer is yes you shouldn't have a problem :D
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Not that simple - how do you meet people, without already having friends? Or going to church (that seems like a great place to meet people!) Plus there's shyness, and all those sorts of issues :)
 
Garyvdh said:
90% of my friends I know through my church. ok, it is a failry large church, but...

I don't know how people survive without a church family. If one of us gets sick or we need help with the kids, we have ten families we can call on in a heartbeat... in fact we don't even have to call them, they are beating down our door to help.

When my wife was in hospital for a week last month, we had cooked meals every night and people to watch the kids for us.

We get together frequently for socials, braais, dinners, etc.

Those people are my friends.

Go to a good church Mila... make some useful friends.
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To me a true friend is one that will stick with you through thick and thin. Would a church friend remain close with you if for some reason you were to lose your faith? (Not saying it will happen to you specifically, just basing this on my own and other's experiences where all the support and friendship of church people melted away when there became differences in beliefs).

Of all those dozens of people queuing up to help, maybe one or two would stick with you, and those are the real friends.
 
BCO said:
I think most of us only have a few true friends - you know, the ones who will be there for you if/when the **** hits the fan in your life. I reckon I only have 2 or 3 of those.
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Have about 5-6, but I agree most people will have to be lie to convince themselves they have more than 10 true friends. (Ps: True friend isnt a drinking buddy or someone you have to ask how it is going :p:D)
 
We are your friends Mila.

I work almost 24/7 so I do not spend a lot of time with friends - at this stage, most of it is keeping in touch via SMS/E-mail/Phone/Facebook.

I have also encountered a lot of 'friends' who only surface when they need something. I guess they actually do not belong in the catergory of friend.
 
Devill said:
Have about 5-6, but I agree most people will have to be lie to convince themselves they have more than 10 true friends. (Ps: True friend isnt a drinking buddy or someone you have to ask how it is going :p:D)
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+10 I need the buddy kind and i hate leeches. I am prone to the leech kind:o
 
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