I have ordered many items from websites like Banggood, Gearbest and eBay with their basically free "60-day" international shipping option (including two phones and an action camera). This shipping method, as far as I know, makes use of some international mailing system until it gets to the beloved South African post office where everything slows down. Mostly actually received my packages (at least all the expensive stuff, maybe one cheap thing never came - but then again maybe they sent it back to the sender who never gave me a refund).
Usually, the package is in SA within less than a month according to the tracking info, but it takes the post office and customs FOREVER (two months plus) to get it to me. Here's the thing: because the letter to come and get my package from the post office arrives most of the time around 100 days after purchase, it hurts the Chinese who are exporting because I have twice asked for and got a refund before receiving the item (after the 60-day mark) on items valued around R2500. When I received the item I paid them back the refund they gave me, but not all people will do that.
A quick tip: I think there is some sort of limit on the number of "gifts" (as the Chinese label their exports) an individual can receive in a year, so just use your family member's names who can then collect your items with their ID's!