Engagement ring advice?

Park@82 said:
Slinky the OP was written kinda tongue in cheek. I do love her and I do want to spend the rest of my life with her. But to me a ring is just that - a formality -a material thing and not a token of my everlasting love. At the end of the day that it is just a thing and that is not what is most important to me or her.
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OK. I obviously had the wrong impression.

Good for you - don't let it become a chore though. Trust me: the last 2 months before the big day is enough to put anyone off for good!
 
jip. in my case she had a 5 figure engagement ring in mind...(something like 3 times my monthly salary - apparanetly the tradition)...I wanted a mountain bike of equal value...(opened the impasse)

R3k did the job and she loves it.....its about what the two of you want. She's obviously not so into 'the ring' thing, but she wants to feel special and proud wearing it....
 
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the graduate said:
jip. in my case she had a 5 figure engagement ring in mind...(something like 3 times my monthly salary - apparanetly the tradition)...I wanted a mountain bike of equal value...(opened the impasse)

R3k did the job and she loves it.....its about what the two of you want. She's obviously not so into 'the ring' thing, but she wants to feel special and proud wearing it....
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good on you guys!
 
Park@82 : Remember to make sure you get proof from the jeweler that you are not buying conflict diamonds (blood diamonds) :)
 
This is the most beautiful ring ever created:

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My words of wisdom on the matter.

Decide what price range you need to be looking at.
If your significant other is fine with a simple setting with a single small diamond on it then 10K will be enough.

However if your SO likes bling (like my wife does) then 10K just isn't going to cut it (bling is 20K-40K minimum).
You better make plans to save/borrow/steal so that you can get her something nice because it will be worth it - trust me!
My wife loves her ring and appreciates that I got her the best ring I could afford. She looks at it every now and then and then gives me
that soft, lovey-dovey look and that is worth more than the hardship of scraping money together.
I am so glad I didn't skimp on her rings. My feeling is that if I'm only doing something once then I better do it properly.
I'd hate myself if I skmiped on her rings and then later wished I had bought her something better.
Regret is a killer.

I just don't understand how guys can spend 15K on a gaming PC, 300K on a hot hatch, 2K on booze for a weekend with pals and then when it comes
to giving the love of their life a ring they fork out a measly 10K. That's an insult!
Sell the car, make a plan or forget about marriage because marriage is all or nothing. There are no half measures, no half commitments or "I'll love you while it's convenient for me" nonsense.

I bought her rings at Diamond Source.
Their service and quality is excellent and they're about 25% to 30% cheaper than the jewellery stores you'll find in the malls.
You'll most likely find that most independent jewellers are a fair bit cheaper than the flashy, high rent paying stores.

The only downside to having a blingy ring is that my wife had some slightly awkward encounters when comparing her engagement ring with her friends engagement rings.
41 diamonds vs 1 tiny diamond and she's doing the whole "oh that's beautiful" thing while at the back of her mind she's reading the thoughts on her friends faces.
 
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Paul_S said:
My wife loves her ring and appreciates that I got her the best ring I could afford. She looks at it every now and then and then gives me that soft, lovey-dovey look and that is worth more than the hardship of scraping money together.
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:erm:

The only downside to having a blingy ring is that my wife had some slightly awkward encounters when comparing her engagement ring with her friends engagement rings. 41 diamonds vs 1 tiny diamond and she's doing the whole "oh that's beautiful" thing while at the back of her mind she's reading the thoughts on her friends faces.
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Seems kind of shallow ... ?
 
Paul_S said:
My words of wisdom on the matter.

Decide what price range you need to be looking at.
If your significant other is fine with a simple setting with a single small diamond on it then 10K will be enough.

However if your SO likes bling (like my wife does) then 10K just isn't going to cut it (bling is 20K-40K minimum).
You better make plans to save/borrow/steal so that you can get her something nice because it will be worth it - trust me!
My wife loves her ring and appreciates that I got her the best ring I could afford. She looks at it every now and then and then gives me
that soft, lovey-dovey look and that is worth more than the hardship of scraping money together.
I am so glad I didn't skimp on her rings. My feeling is that if I'm only doing something once then I better do it properly.
I'd hate myself if I skmiped on her rings and then later wished I had bought her something better.
Regret is a killer.

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I bought her rings at Diamond Source.
Their service and quality is excellent and they're about 25% to 30% cheaper than the jewellery stores you'll find in the malls.
You'll most likely find that most independent jewellers are a fair bit cheaper than the flashy, high rent paying stores.
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thanks for the advice and link Paul, appreciate it.
 
blunomore said:
:erm:
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What I meant is that it means a lot when you can see that the one you love appreciates what you have done for them or given them.

Seems kind of shallow ... ?
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No not really. My wife doesn't brag about her ring - it's just that you can spot jealousy and disappointment quite easily.
Same happened with our house. She invited her friends for a house warming and some of them rent tiny one bedroom apartments.
They walked into our house (which is really just an ordinary 3 bedroom house under 1 million) and you could see how the expression and body language of some of them changed instantly.
Disappointment, mild jealousy, etc. Some people don't take life's unfairness very well.

The same happened with the ring. Some of her friends engagement ring had a single diamond so small that it was hard to spot (0.2ct is very small) and secretly they were a bit disappointed with what they got.
For most women an engagement ring is a big deal.
 
I would hope that my (eventual) wife knows that I love her more than money could ever express. If I have to spend a lot of money to convince her that I love her, well.....
 
Ancalagon said:
I would hope that my (eventual) wife knows that I love her more than money could ever express. If I have to spend a lot of money to convince her that I love her, well.....
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There's a big difference between spending money to "prove your love" (which is pointless and empty) and spending money because you love someone and want the best for them.
My point is that if men can spend so much money gratifying their personal needs and then skimp on something that is really significant and important to their woman, then there is something seriously wrong.
If there is no willingness to sacrifice for the benefit of the loved one then it's not true love. True love has no bounds or limits ...
 
Paul_S said:
What I meant is that it means a lot when you can see that the one you love appreciates what you have done for them or given them.



No not really. My wife doesn't brag about her ring - it's just that you can spot jealousy and disappointment quite easily.
Same happened with our house. She invited her friends for a house warming and some of them rent tiny one bedroom apartments.
They walked into our house (which is really just an ordinary 3 bedroom house under 1 million) and you could see how the expression and body language of some of them changed instantly.
Disappointment, mild jealousy, etc. Some people don't take life's unfairness very well.

The same happened with the ring. Some of her friends engagement ring had a single diamond so small that it was hard to spot (0.2ct is very small) and secretly they were a bit disappointed with what they got.
For most women an engagement ring is a big deal.
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I guess it depends on the type of person. I have met with people who live in abject poverty and I have been around people who do not know the ends of their wealth. The people in both those situations are just humans. I fail to see why people would be jealous or envious of another person's house or car or ring or whatever.

To me it all comes down to superficial things. Is it not better to admire someone's kindness, patience, wisdom, etc than that which they have amassed ? It can take all be taken from you in the blink of an eye.

I am not judging you, just saying ... :)
 
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