Well EVE is a slow game. If you want action-packed instant satisfaction, you probably won't like EVE as much. Imagine needing a real life week to train a skill, imagine it training while you're offline...that's EVE

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EVE feels alot more like a strategy/empire building game the last time i played it. You know like X2 , Master of Orion , Galactic Civilisations..probably some Homeworld in there too.
Obviously it makes the game somewhat more "intelligent" than say WoW, but it's not always everyon'es cup of tea.
As for EQ2 , dunno, EQ1 was a big grind feast , i don't think i would bother with EQ2 at this stage considering the effort you might need to get into it [getting the actual game+patches] . I'd rather wait and see what happens with Warhammer [coming out in a month] or even Wrath of the Lich King [WoW expansion] which should be coming i'd say end of the yearish.
And there's always Age of Conan that can keep you busy for a month or 3 until you hit the non existing high level content [which may or may not have appeared by then].