Ex bf becoming a problem

[Croxley]

Good afternoon everyone.

I'm in a relationship for almost a year now. Love the girl and all that soppy stuff, blah blah blah!

However! I'm dealing with an annoying ex bf. My gf used to date this guy for almost 6 years, he was her first and only bf before me. He cheated on her and broke her heart, she eventually broke up with him and moved on. Now for the last couple of months, he has been texting her, saying stuff like "he's glad she found someone that loves her and he can see she is happy etc". A week or two after that he'll text her and say something like "He misses her, and she hurt him by leaving him etc".

My gf always shows me the msgs and she never replies however this is getting very annoying and i'm at the point where i want to punch a hole in his face! He has got a new gf but keeps on texting. I've never confronted this guy, by texting him or going to speak to him, due to the fact that my gf wants me to leave it, but i feel like a fool for just sitting back and doing nothing.

Should i text him and tell him to back off? What should i say? I can easily strip "my moer" and i'm afraid i'll say some stuff that might come back to bite me in the ass in the future.

 

[I.am.Sam]

happens ..he was an a$$ and now he wants her back

cause he knows what he lost ...it normally ends but if he is still doing it after a year then tell him nicely you will break his knee caps

and call him so there is no trace hopefully

and only if you can do ..cause no use making an a$$ of yourself as well

 

[Pavan]

reply back from her phone (the next time he texts) and say 'lets meet at xxxx'. Then you go instead and have fun

 

[Kornhub]

Tell the gf to sms him to back off? I would just ignore it and eventually he will stop =/

 

[scudsucker]

Up the ante.

Send him suggestive, flirtatious messages for a while, then tell him you love him and miss him.

Then try for a date.

 

[nfbs]

Best case scenario he will get the message by her not responding. Unfriend on facebook also will put the message across. If he starts calling she must block his number on her cell. If they don't have mutual friends the boundary is at least clear.
Worst case scenario is still far away. Keep the text messages (forward/backup to yours delete from hers) in case the worst case scenario happens so you in the event of a worst case scenario you got proof he is psycho.

 

[Cool E]

How do you know that your girlfriend does not send him messages?
Your gf is still is love with the guy.

 

[azbob]

What's wrong? feeling threatened?

 

[scudsucker]

Suggest a threesome, so the g/f can choose which of you is worthy.

 

[Pavan]

lol @ Cool E... heavy man!

 

[nfbs]

Up the ante.

Send him suggestive, flirtatious messages for a while, then tell him you love him and miss him.

Then try for a date.

THere's a show on MTV called catfish where people create fake facebook profiles and flirt with others. Could be a fun game if you have time for it and want to get back at someone or prove they are a douche.

 

[shogun]

My advice:

Step 1: Tell the gf to inform him to stop in no uncertain terms. If she doesn't, or it doesn't stop, explain that it opens you up to talking to him.
Step 2: Call him up and talk to him.

This way you've given her the opportunity, and she can't get mad at you, because you've laid the ground rules.

You aren't in the wrong here. I would recommend dealing with it, not just keeping quiet. The guy will likely back off only once he knows the both of you want him out of your lives. Her ignoring his messages clearly doesn't cut it. Bear in mind though, that the most successful outcome will likely be from her telling him in no uncertain terms to f**** off ("please stop" will unlikely help, the stronger the language the better). If it just comes from you, he might not back off as easily.

 

[I.am.Sam]

cool e could be right and kornolio ..it stops after few months not after a year

 

[I.am.Sam]

i say yingyang can help you break a knee cap

he has done it before

 

[gregmcc]

Why doesnt she just blacklist his number? Maybe she really likes getting his SMS's?

 

[Cool E]

lol @ Cool E... heavy man!

Eish this guy is not trusting himself.

 

[azbob]

Eish this guy is not trusting himself.

+160 too insecure.

 

[Pavan]

you think she could be sms'ing herself and making the whole thing up?

 

[DJ...]

THere's a show on MTV called catfish where people create fake facebook profiles and flirt with others. Could be a fun game if you have time for it and want to get back at someone or prove they are a douche.

Have you seen the Catfish documentary? Scary stuff!

If it's true...

 

[Fuma]

Don't fight your gf's battles. If she likes the attention she's getting from him, then it's time to RUN.