Ex bf becoming a problem

spiff

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Croxley said:
Good afternoon everyone.

I'm in a relationship for almost a year now. Love the girl and all that soppy stuff, blah blah blah!

However! I'm dealing with an annoying ex bf. My gf used to date this guy for almost 6 years, he was her first and only bf before me. He cheated on her and broke her heart, she eventually broke up with him and moved on. Now for the last couple of months, he has been texting her, saying stuff like "he's glad she found someone that loves her and he can see she is happy etc". A week or two after that he'll text her and say something like "He misses her, and she hurt him by leaving him etc".

My gf always shows me the msgs and she never replies however this is getting very annoying and i'm at the point where i want to punch a hole in his face! He has got a new gf but keeps on texting. I've never confronted this guy, by texting him or going to speak to him, due to the fact that my gf wants me to leave it, but i feel like a fool for just sitting back and doing nothing.

Should i text him and tell him to back off? What should i say? I can easily strip "my moer" and i'm afraid i'll say some stuff that might come back to bite me in the ass in the future.
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there is a forum here that discussed the new "Protection from Harassment Act (Act 17 of 2011)" - can't find the link now but her is some of it, Just make sure your GF is on your side - otherwise just walk away from both of them!
You can inform him of this ACT and if he does not stop this harassment you will take it further.



The Protection from Harassment Act (Act 17 of 2011) came into operation on 27 April 2013, aimed at stopping “the pain and suffering of being harassed”.

The Protection of Harassment Act, which was adopted by Parliament towards the end of 2011, provides for an inexpensive civil remedy to protect a person from behaviour which may not constitute a crime but which may impact negatively on various rights of an individual.

The Act aims to address harassment by means of a court order, in terms of which the harasser is prohibited from continuing with the act of harassment.

Any person who contravenes such an order is guilty of an offence and liable on conviction to a fine or imprisonment for a period not exceeding five years.

In terms of the Act, the court may order –

Electronic communication service providers to provide the court with the name and address of a person who harasses another person in cyber space; and
The South African Police Service (SAPS) to investigate instances of harassment in order to ascertain the name and address of harasser whose particulars are not known by the complainant.
The SAPS may in certain circumstances also investigate a complaint of harassment made directly to the SAPS to ascertain the identity and address of the harasser.

If a person is being harassed, he or she may apply for a protection order against such conduct at a magistrate’s court.

The procedure for applying for a protection order is straight forward and inexpensive. Legal representation is not required.

When a court grants a protection order, a warrant of arrest will automatically be issued for the harasser.

The execution thereof will be suspended, pending any non-compliance with a condition of the protection order.
 
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I've just finished reading a book about Stalkers.
Scary stuff ....
For all you know he is also watching her at a distance.
 
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