Exchanging GIFTS

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Maelly

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I believe we all exchange gifts throught the year, whether for certain events (Valentines, Christmast, etc) or just randomly buy a gift for your loved ones.


So, what happens when you part ways with your partner/lover/other-half, etc? Do you return/demand the gifts? Is there a contract drawn wrt gifts exchanges? What if you bought/received a substantial gift (e.g, Car), what do you do?


I must admit that I used to demand them back and/or return them. But wifey taught me that it was such a stupid and childish thing to do, so now I know that a gift is a GIFT irregardless of what happens to the relationship!


What are your views guys?
 
well I've never bought anything like a car for someone :eek: but I have never expected/tried to get back any gift given .......... you gave it, it's not yours anymore is my view regardless :D
 
Never ask for a gift back. In a marriage of course, it may be a different story when people divorce. The law entitles you to certain things.

But even then, I think, if at all possible, just walk away.
 
I've never asked for anything back or given anything back, it just seems tacky to me.
 
Syndyre said:
I've never asked for anything back or given anything back, it just seems tacky to me.
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Same here. Might be different for very valuable items though (cars, houses, etc) if you've been married. But for a general "dating" gift, it's tacky to ask for it back and/or return gifts you've been given.
 
Gifts are gifts. But I won't give a car, thats so impersonal. However I did spend thousands on gifts before. I really don't care about the money, only the reaction of the person.

My ex girlfriend/friend (you all know her, the chick I was going to ask me to marry me, haha) cried.... TWICE.... on her 21st birthday in June when I gave her my gifts.

I just do what is thoughtful and personal. And if we break up or the relationship goes bad, at least I know they have some good memories to take with them.

Letters I usually throw out after a few years.
 
Maelly said:
I believe we all exchange gifts throught the year, whether for certain events (Valentines, Christmast, etc) or just randomly buy a gift for your loved ones.


So, what happens when you part ways with your partner/lover/other-half, etc? Do you return/demand the gifts? Is there a contract drawn wrt gifts exchanges? What if you bought/received a substantial gift (e.g, Car), what do you do?


I must admit that I used to demand them back and/or return them. But wifey taught me that it was such a stupid and childish thing to do, so now I know that a gift is a GIFT irregardless of what happens to the relationship!


What are your views guys?
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Do YOU have a view? :)
 
AcidRaZor said:
Gifts are gifts. But I won't give a car, thats so impersonal. However I did spend thousands on gifts before. I really don't care about the money, only the reaction of the person.

My ex girlfriend/friend (you all know her, the chick I was going to ask me to marry me, haha) cried.... TWICE.... on her 21st birthday in June when I gave her my gifts.

I just do what is thoughtful and personal. And if we break up or the relationship goes bad, at least I know they have some good memories to take with them.

Letters I usually throw out after a few years.
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So sorry, I just couldn't resist :)
 
Okay firstly I agree. Asking for gifts back is silly and just weird actually. People will think you are crazy because its not the done thing.

However on a different prospective. if you have given the person some gifts what do they actually want with it in the end? Lets say you bought them certain cute things that they can use.. wear look at etc whatever...

Do they surly still want it as part of their room, fashion accessories, daily life after a break up? Personally if I decide to break up and leave someone behind everthing and anything that connects me back to a Ex will eventually be removed from my life.. basically as soon as I find it. Pointless to go on with someone to remind you of past relationships, good times or bad times... remembering bad times always leads to good times and vise versa. roller coaster ride imo
 
In my opinion this constant appending or prepending of "in my opinion" (IMO)'s is lame, If you're giving somebody else's opinion, say so, otherwise it's assumed that it's your opinion, IMO.

You give the gift.
If you're lending somebody something, it's called lending.
 
How the hell can someone ask for something back? That's just weird... Even if it's an expensive gift like a car. That's assuming the car was bought cash. If you have to pay it off, don't give it as a gift.
 
I've found that if you enrage the person just enough they'll insist on returning most things . . . provided they can be thrown at your head.

Fortunately chicks can't throw and to add a little impetus you can point that out while they're trying. :D
 
Yes, take it all back...

The gay little teddy bears, the awesome ring that doesnt fit your finger, the bracelet that will snap around your arm... Why? Because you can get a cupboard and call it your GIFT BASKET and in your next relationship you can give the gifts again... That is what you call the Gift for Life rather than the Gift of Life...

Just remember to take the gifts back once you are done, otherwise your Gift for Life Cupboard will run out of stock... Items that really work are rings, bracelets, diamonds, money, cars (Might need a room cupboard) stuff that dont is Flowers, they tend to die after a week and the next chick wont really apreciate some *&#$ed up Roses...

:D
 
if the person wants to get rid of the gifts you gave them after the breakup let them. But don't ask for it back. Thats just lame because #1 you show you're hurt by the entire breakup and now just being childish in wanting those things back.

If the person keeps using the gifts because its pratical/cute and you didn't break up and became a total childish idiot ******* and they want to keep using it then fine.

Remember, the gifts you give won't make them think of the entire breakup etc, it would normally remind them of a good memory and/or the feeling they had when they received it.

Leave it be. don't give a car as a gift, thats just stupid and don't expect anything back when you give a gift (not even a gift in return)

I mean seriously... the person who has received the gifts have to make the choice in keeping them. And even if she doesn't want to keep them, its not in your right to ask for them back (or expect them back)

If she wants to throw them in a dustbin and burn them while chanting naked in the rain... okay I think I lost my train of thought there...
 
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