Feeling like a failure?

TJ99 said:
That's either BS, or a large percentage of the people on here are liar liars with their pants on fire.

In the salary surveys MyBB always has, around 30% or so claim they make over 70k a month, and the next group below that (50-70k I think) has almost the same percentage. So we are dealing with some high rollers up in here.
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That was my point in an earlier post. On Mybb everyone is a bajillionaire when there are threads about money, comfortably living etc.
We have the wealthiest and smartest people in the world posting here daily...recognize!
 
TJ99 said:
Really? Men generally don't give a shyte how much money you make or what your career is, and wouldn't consider you a "failure" because of your job or lack thereof. That's a strongly womyn thing.
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Disagree slightly. These days women want men to contribute 50% of the chores, cooking and childcare duties etc.

My wife brings home about 40% of what I do and when she nags about the fact that she does a little more laundry than I do or cooks once or twice more than I do in a week a part of me would like to bring up that I contribute a lot more in other ways.

Yeah, I am a bit of an arsehole, but f-it. Human nature.
 
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Kilgore_Trout_Redux said:
Disagree slightly. These days women want men to contribute 50% of the chores, cooking and childcare duties etc.

My wife brings home about 40% of what I do and when she nags about the fact that she does a little more laundry than I do or cooks once or twice more than I do in a week a part of me would like to bring up that I contribute a lot more in other ways.

Yeah, I am a bit off an arsehole, but f-it. Human nature.
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But do you work 60% harder than her?
 
TJ99 said:
Really? Men generally don't give a shyte how much money you make or what your career is, and wouldn't consider you a "failure" because of your job or lack thereof. That's a strongly womyn thing.

Of course, yes this is a generalisation (hence the word "generally"), there are probably some men who do care about that sort of thing, but I've never met one.
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Haha this makes me feel a bit better, thanks. He'll always have more money than me although its not about that, more that I'm still not working in the industry I've always wanted to and feels like I'm wasting my life a little.
 
OrbitalDawn said:
But do you work 60% harder than her?
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Probably not. I am self aware enough to understand that overall contribution to the household is an unfair metric in this case.

I do think it is a case where asymetric earning power can contribute to friction.
 
TJ99 said:
That's either BS, or a large percentage of the people on here are liar liars with their pants on fire.

In the salary surveys MyBB always has, around 30% or so claim they make over 70k a month, and the next group below that (50-70k I think) has almost the same percentage. So we are dealing with some high rollers up in here.
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Possibly because people earning those salaries think that earning 30k at age 32 or whatever, isn't particularly impressive and would be pretty depressed themselves...
 
Kilgore_Trout_Redux said:
Probably not. I am self aware enough to understand that overall contribution to the household is an unfair metric in this case.

I do think it is a case where asymetric earning power can contribute to friction.
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Yeah. I think one must be careful of heading down that road. Like not wanting to do the dishes because you make more money.

Even if it doesn't go into full blown conflict it could still breed resentment.

And the reason I mention work effort is because earning more than someone doesn't always mean you work harder. The context of the work is very important.
 
Kilgore_Trout_Redux said:
Probably not. I am self aware enough to understand that overall contribution to the household is an unfair metric in this case.

I do think it is a case where asymetric earning power can contribute to friction.
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Do you help with any household chores at all?
 
OrbitalDawn said:
Yeah. I think one must be careful of heading down that road. Like not wanting to do the dishes because you make more money.

Even if it doesn't go into full blown conflict it could still breed resentment.

And the reason I mention work effort is because earning more than someone doesn't always mean you work harder. The context of the work is very important.
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can echo this. help with the household chores. will help getting some nookie as well. that's why we do anything right?!
 
bokdrol said:
Do you help with any household chores at all?
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Yes. Everything is pretty much a 50/50 split. I am also a better cook and take care of all the "masculine" chores and repair work/DIY over and above that. Also do the school run every morning and some afternoons.

Every now and again when I am under massive work stress/deadlines or work late I might slack off for a day or two.

So not exactly as if I refuse to do the dishes because I make more money.
 
Funnily enough, it isn't a good idea to help out with all chores.

Research has shown that men who do more of the manly chores get more sex. If you share all chores equally, including the traditionally "feminine" ones, you will have less sex.
 
Ancalagon said:
Funnily enough, it isn't a good idea to help out with all chores.

Research has shown that men who do more of the manly chores get more sex. If you share all chores equally, including the traditionally "feminine" ones, you will have less sex.
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Wife's at home all day, I'm at work all day. Of course it makes sense that she does most of it. Unlike some on here though, she's not full of **** about it - she understands the dynamic.

If she gets a job again, obviously the sharing of chores will even up again, as it will need to be done after work/on weekends.
 
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