Feeling like a failure?

CDP said:
That was not my intention as I am well aware that others are worse off than I am. My problem is not with my salary per se but my salary at my age you must have misunderstood.
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No one misunderstood you numpty.
 
xeslaro said:
Become a man. Acknowledge who and why you are. Take control of your own aspirations. If you believe money equates happiness, you will remain eternally unhappy. If your friends measure your worth by your possessions - lose them. Engage only in that which makes you content. Good luck. Should unhappiness befall you, re-read from point one. R32k ain't the problem mate.
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Thank you. My mates are not the problem though, I am.
 
Deadmanza said:
His error is thinking that coming to MyBB is the way to solve any kind of depression, especially considering he is crying about earning R32k.
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Not crying, just wondered if anyone ever feels the same and how they deal with it. I am well aware that there are people earning much less than me (and probably work harder for that matter).
 
CDP said:
Not crying, just wondered if anyone ever feels the same and how they deal with it. I am well aware that there are people earning much less than me (and probably work harder for that matter).
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You really shouldn't feel this way.
Dealing with it is something you'll have to do on your own.
No one can help you with that.
 
How about you donate some of your salary to the SPCA or a childrens shelter, that will make you feel good.
 
CDP said:
That was not my intention as I am well aware that others are worse off than I am. My problem is not with my salary per se but my salary at my age you must have misunderstood.
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My problem is with your age at that salary. You come across as spoilt brat that doesn't appreciate a damn thing, tbh. Lemme say that as much as you think you deserve more, your lack of maturity and desire to keep up with the Joneses tells me that at R32K a month for a kid you're overpaid.

Take it on the chin - and learn a lesson or two.
 
If you want to be really depressed. Go read some of the other MyBB threads like how much do you earn and how much is required to live a comfortable life.

People were talking about needing to clear 40k a month at one stage..
 
syntax said:
If you want to be really depressed. Go read some of the other MyBB threads like how much do you earn and how much is required to live a comfortable life.

People were talking about needing to clear 40k a month at one stage..
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That's probably "comfortable" with a house worth 1.5 million and a financed 3 series BMW.

Plenty of us live on much less than that (myself included and I'm quite happy with what I earn).
By living within my means I manage to invest R6000 per month which is more than most people I know earning R50,000+ per month. It's all about priorities.
I bought a fixer upper house, bought a vehicle I could actually afford (not a 3 series BMW, Fiesta ST, Golf GTI, etc.), scaled back on luxuries and now I'm starting to reap the rewards a few years later.
Too many people (OP included) want everything now and are not willing to sacrifice in the short term to reach their long term goals.
R32K per month is plenty for a 32 year old.
 
CDP said:
Not crying, just wondered if anyone ever feels the same and how they deal with it. I am well aware that there are people earning much less than me (and probably work harder for that matter).
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Difficult to answer a question when it appears, to me, that the underlying emotion does not actually manifest from money/age concerns but rather latent issues of debt management/lifestyle choices, and that you not acutely aware of it. You may very well be intelligent guy, but are you emotionally intelligent. You need to figure that out.
 
How do you struggle to make ends meet on that salary? Is the amount of money you earn dependant on your happiness? I think you need to re-evalute your life and the purpose of it. its good to have money, but it it shouldnt dictate your happiness and self-worth.
 
Jesus, man. If you can't live on 32k then you need to make some changes.

Are you trying to fly high with those friends? Heard many a story of business owners pissing their companies away trying to keep up with wealthier mates. You need to reevaluate what you are doing with your money. But still. Depressed on 32k makes no senses unless you are in the club every weekend or have an incredibly expensive hobby trying to impress or keep up with richer friends.
 
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Either find new friends or grow up and stop trying to keep up with the Joneses.
 
I can understand where OP is coming from, but I may be interpreting it wrong

To me if seems as though he thought he would be further along in life then he is now. He may have had an earning goal in his mind, and at this stage he is behind on that goal

OP if that is the case then its time to re-evaluate your way forward, maybe branch out into something different, study again or simply cut back to match your salary - I know the last one is a bit presumptuous but I'd just leave it there

If the problem is really that you equate age to salary and your friends make more - presumably because they chose a better paying profession or have massive credit cards then you need to re-evaluate your locus of self-esteem
 
I would say don't look at others. It's easy to say though because I'm competitive like this and as soon as I hear one of my friends earns more than me I take it as a challenge to pull up my socks a bit more (my socks are very stretched :( ) and earn more. It helps that I run my own sideline business so all I have to do is take on some more work.

It only makes me mildly happy though. I wish I was financially ignorant so I could follow my dream and travel on a shoestring budget. I constantly feel the need to earn more so I can save more. It's a vicious circle really.
 
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