Fiancee is preggers

blunomore said:
I am not leaving her in her cot to cry until she falls asleep and there is no other way to train her to sleep at a decent time every evening. I have tried.
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Firstly that is not exactly how it works. And secondly and most importantly: why NOT sleeptrain her? It is in her best interest, not yours. You just reap the benefits.

Also children do not have seperation anxiety at 15mnths. They are way too young. She is just craving attention and does not know how to entertain herself 'cos she is used to always be entertained.

My 16 mnt old dissapears all the time: alway bussy in older brothers room with puzzles or drawing or outside in the sandpit or sitting "reading" or playing music ( hitting buttons )on her "laptop" in her room. Only craves attention when tired or hungry.

She is sleeptrained so she has learned to be on her own with out being scared or stressed.
 
Reiku_San said:
Just a little update chaps.

This morning we had our first scan. She is 8 weeks and 4 days. (little further along than expected)
Not only did we get to see the little tike, but we also got to hear the heartbeat, which was unexpected and the most awesome thing I have ever heard. Tears may have been shed :P

Everything is in good order, (except the missus's temper, eish)
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Awesome news, isn't it amazing how fast the heartbeat is :-), it sounds like a machine gun.
 
MightyQuin said:
Firstly that is not exactly how it works. And secondly and most importantly: why NOT sleeptrain her? It is in her best interest, not yours. You just reap the benefits.

Also children do not have seperation anxiety at 15mnths. They are way too young. She is just craving attention and does not know how to entertain herself 'cos she is used to always be entertained.

My 16 mnt old dissapears all the time: alway bussy in older brothers room with puzzles or drawing or outside in the sandpit or sitting "reading" or playing music ( hitting buttons )on her "laptop" in her room. Only craves attention when tired or hungry.

She is sleeptrained so she has learned to be on her own with out being scared or stressed.
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Kids have seperation anxiety between 9 and about 18 months. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0002509/

I am not leaving the child in a cot to cry it out.
 
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Reiku_San said:
Just a little update chaps.

This morning we had our first scan. She is 8 weeks and 4 days. (little further along than expected)
Not only did we get to see the little tike, but we also got to hear the heartbeat, which was unexpected and the most awesome thing I have ever heard. Tears may have been shed :P

Everything is in good order, (except the missus's temper, eish)
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That temper don't get any better :D
 
blunomore said:
You are just pissed off cos you were wrong about the ages during which kids suffer from seperation anxiety :)

If every poster who moaned about something or the other had to stop, the forum will shut down.
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Actually no I am not pissed off about "being wrong"...I am not twelve. I have been told by two pediatricians that 15 mnths is to young for seperation anxiety.

I am not telling every poster to stop moaning about everything...I am telling you to stop moaning about your baby issues if you are not willing to do anything about it. If you do not want advice and merely wanna pi$$ and moan, it gets old quickly.
 
MightyQuin said:
Actually no I am not pissed off about "being wrong"...I am not twelve. I have been told by two pediatricians that 15 mnths is to young for seperation anxiety.

I am not telling every poster to stop moaning about everything...I am telling you to stop moaning about your baby issues if you are not willing to do anything about it. If you do not want advice and merely wanna pi$$ and moan, it gets old quickly.
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I have read numerous child care books and there is clear consensus about the age at which seperation anxiety normally occurs - 9 months up to 18 months.

I am not moaning - I made a post about how difficult this seperation anxiety made it for me with my child. That is my prerogative to post on my experience.

I hardly think you are the fountain of wisdom. In any event, you come across as a harsh individual.
 
k, now you two can kiss and make up :p

my son doesn't like beign away from me very long, he will wander off and play with other kids, but he likes to be around people coinstantly and talk to them. he is incredibly bright.

i also couldn't let my child cry it out. he is getting better because i can explain it to him now, and he can start climbing into bed and fall asleep on his own, but him and his daddy like to cuddle and that is normally how he falls asleep, hugging me or sitting on my lap watching something.

i don't let him get away with murder, but things haven't bothered me as much, like getting up at night or putting him to sleep every night. and i feel that he is brave, talkative, extremely friendly and smart because of the choices i've made that many people would have suggested differently :)
 
blunomore said:
I have read numerous child care books and there is clear consensus about the age at which seperation anxiety normally occurs - 9 months up to 18 months.

I am not moaning - I made a post about how difficult this seperation anxiety made it for me with my child. That is my prerogative to post on my experience.

I hardly think you are the fountain of wisdom. In any event, you come across as a harsh individual.
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You have complained previously as well about getting up during the night many times etc. etc. I am sure you will correct me if I'm wrong...

For someone who reads numerous child care books your are mysteriously uninformed when it comes to sleeptraining.

As for me coming across as a harsh individual: typical forum kneejerk when I write what you do not like to hear. I don't care really. Go read up a bit more re. sleeptraining and the benefits of it. Try and find the root cause of your child's seperation anxiety. Or don't...
 
Neck_Monster said:
k, now you two can kiss and make up :p

my son doesn't like beign away from me very long, he will wander off and play with other kids, but he likes to be around people coinstantly and talk to them. he is incredibly bright.

i also couldn't let my child cry it out. he is getting better because i can explain it to him now, and he can start climbing into bed and fall asleep on his own, but him and his daddy like to cuddle and that is normally how he falls asleep, hugging me or sitting on my lap watching something.

i don't let him get away with murder, but things haven't bothered me as much, like getting up at night or putting him to sleep every night. and i feel that he is brave, talkative, extremely friendly and smart because of the choices i've made that many people would have suggested differently :)
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With each child there are different issues with sleep. If these issues have a major impact on your lives, it needs to be addressed. If you are comfortable with how your child falls asleep and for how long, you do not have a need to sleeptrain.

People get very defensive and also passive aggressive when they feel other people are telling them how to raise their children. Unfortunately on an open forum, you will open yourself up to unwanted advise and even critisism.
 
MightyQuin said:
You have complained previously as well about getting up during the night many times etc. etc. I am sure you will correct me if I'm wrong...

For someone who reads numerous child care books your are mysteriously uninformed when it comes to sleeptraining.

As for me coming across as a harsh individual: typical forum kneejerk when I write what you do not like to hear. I don't care really. Go read up a bit more re. sleeptraining and the benefits of it. Try and find the root cause of your child's seperation anxiety. Or don't...
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I know exactly what sleeptraining is. I am not leaving my child in a cot to cry. I have tried the method of putting the child in the cot and going back several times to check up when she becomes fussy/cry. I have tried creating a conducive environment for sleeping. I have done all of that and she still does not want to go down early in the evening.

I post about this on a forum but am definitely not expecting you to rush over and solve my challenges for me.

Geez dude.
 
blunomore said:
I know exactly what sleeptraining is. I am not leaving my child in a cot to cry. I have tried the method of putting the child in the cot and going back several times to check up when she becomes fussy/cry. I have tried creating a conducive environment for sleeping. I have done all of that and she still does not want to go down early in the evening.

I post about this on a forum but am definitely not expecting you to rush over and solve my challenges for me.

Geez dude.
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Yeah, keep telling yourself that...

As for rushing over to solve your challenges? Don't worry, it is obvious you do not want help, but rather just sympathy.
 
blunomore said:
You act as if kids who were not sleeptrained will turn into serial killers. My daughter will eventually grow up, with or without sleep training.
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Jirre what a drama queen. Serial killers no less...pffft. Maybe a little less posting and some more parenting?
 
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