Fiancee is preggers

MexicanStandoff said:
Vegeta has a point.People get so carried away with the first child that they spend exhorbitant amounts on baby stuff that they dont need and then complain about the costs of having a child.

Our parents didnt use half of the schit available toaday and look how we all turned out. :erm:
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A little crazy... lol.

I totally get you, Baby business must be big business.

Thank you all. It is great to talk about it. Have to show the lady this thread :)
 
I had a baby 15 months ago and yes, when it's your first child you tend to go overboard by buying things that you end up not really using. In my case, I absolutely HAD TO HAVE a baby monitor but ended up using it for a mere 2 or 3 months after which we just stopped using it.
 
blunomore said:
I had a baby 15 months ago and yes, when it's your first child you tend to go overboard by buying things that you end up not really using. In my case, I absolutely HAD TO HAVE a baby monitor but ended up using it for a mere 2 or 3 months after which we just stopped using it.
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But you did use it...for 2 or 3 months. The first 2 or 3 months are a very hectic time, during wich a baby monitor comes in very handy. If you never unpacked it, it would have been a waste of money.
 
blunomore said:
I had a baby 15 months ago and yes, when it's your first child you tend to go overboard by buying things that you end up not really using. In my case, I absolutely HAD TO HAVE a baby monitor but ended up using it for a mere 2 or 3 months after which we just stopped using it.
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Most cot deaths (SIDS) occur within the first three months, peaking at two months of age.
90% of SIDS occurs within the first 6 months.
Paying R1200 for peace of mind is a small price to pay compared to the life of a child.
I bought a second hand one from someone who doesn't plan to have more kids.
 
Having had our little one can agree with people spending 6000 on pram or cot s. We went secondhand on 90% of our stuff
 
Lupus said:
Having had our little one can agree with people spending 6000 on pram or cot s. We went secondhand on 90% of our stuff
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The beauty with spending so much on the first is that if you intend to have a second you can just pass it down and save money in the process :)
 
I found the first 15 months quite tough. Dunno if all babies are like this, but I have to give her attention ALL THE TIME. Don't misunderstand me, it's not like I want to go take a nap and expect her to keep busy by herself for 30 minutes ( :D ) but I thought that by now she could amuse herself for at least a little while to free me up to do things. I suppose this is a serious case of seperation anxiety. When she plays, we must be there with her on the floor. When she meets people she does not see on a daily basis, she needs mom or dad's lap.When she wants to sleep, we must rock her off to la-la land, and so forth.

Sometimes, one feels like you need to escape for just a little bit. The demands are never-ending :)
 
blunomore said:
I found the first 15 months quite tough. Dunno if all babies are like this, but I have to give her attention ALL THE TIME. Don't misunderstand me, it's not like I want to go take a nap and expect her to keep busy by herself for 30 minutes ( :D ) but I thought that by now she could amuse herself for at least a little while to free me up to do things. I suppose this is a serious case of seperation anxiety. When she plays, we must be there with her on the floor. When she meets people she does not see on a daily basis, she needs mom or dad's lap.When she wants to sleep, we must rock her off to la-la land, and so forth.

Sometimes, one feels like you need to escape for just a little bit. The demands are never-ending :)
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For all the bad a creche is this is where the creche is the best. Teaches them to be independent. My daughter is also 1 year 8 months and I can leave her to play by herself for hours. Take her to spur in the kiddies section and she does not want to know us.

Even if its only for 6 months I would let your daughter go to a creche even if its only for half a day. Will do both of you the world of good, especially her as her confidence and independence levels will increase thus increasing your free time and your daily mood.

Another great plus is they normally potty train your child for you!
 
2c. ( Baby is 4 Months )

Buy some nappies early and stock pile a bit but not a lot, two packs a size is ample to start.
You will get a LOT of presents, avoid buying too much, especially clothes as they grow fast.
Breastfeeding is cheapest and best but consider hiring a proper breast pump, we found the ones in the shop weak.
My son is one of the most delicate babies you can get ( 3 months premature ) and we use what the nurses and doctor told us to look after him: bum cream, water and cottonwool to swab clean, some basic liquid baby bath soap. You don't need anything fancy.
Once you find the right bottle ( yes they are different and you'll get tons of opinions but what works for one does not neccesarily work for the other ) get about 3 so that you have feeds lined up to make night feeding easier.
Towel nappies??? Are folks mad?
Don't be afraid to ask questions of docs/nurses.
 
blunomore said:
I found the first 15 months quite tough. Dunno if all babies are like this, but I have to give her attention ALL THE TIME. Don't misunderstand me, it's not like I want to go take a nap and expect her to keep busy by herself for 30 minutes ( :D ) but I thought that by now she could amuse herself for at least a little while to free me up to do things. I suppose this is a serious case of seperation anxiety. When she plays, we must be there with her on the floor. When she meets people she does not see on a daily basis, she needs mom or dad's lap.When she wants to sleep, we must rock her off to la-la land, and so forth.

Sometimes, one feels like you need to escape for just a little bit. The demands are never-ending :)
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Sleeptrain...the rest follows by default.
 
blunomore said:
I am not leaving her in her cot to cry until she falls asleep and there is no other way to train her to sleep at a decent time every evening. I have tried.
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My mother and father are the two most well-adjusted and well-balanced people i know. They were raised as the youngest of 6 and 8other siblings. If they didn't want sleep it's wasn't my grandmothers greatest problem.

if you are petting your child like it's your only child ... EVER ... your child will be conditioned to be your only child ... EVER.
 
Just a little update chaps.

This morning we had our first scan. She is 8 weeks and 4 days. (little further along than expected)
Not only did we get to see the little tike, but we also got to hear the heartbeat, which was unexpected and the most awesome thing I have ever heard. Tears may have been shed :P

Everything is in good order, (except the missus's temper, eish)
 
Picard said:
My mother and father are the two most well-adjusted and well-balanced people i know. They were raised as the youngest of 6 and 8other siblings. If they didn't want sleep it's wasn't my grandmothers greatest problem.

if you are petting your child like it's your only child ... EVER ... your child will be conditioned to be your only child ... EVER.
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Umm, well, she IS my only child. I do not understand what you are saying.
 
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