Forcing someone into care?

bokdrol

bokdrol

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My mother has now had diagnoses of Alzheimers confirmed. The neurologist said that she needs fulltime care and must stop driving at once. My mother is adamant she will not move into a home nor will she stop driving. :( She is going to kill someone soon.

Is there some legal way that the family can force her hand and also take over her financial affairs, e.g. a court order to determine her incompetent? It sounds cruel, but she is a danger to herself and others and very vulnerable.
I am at my wits' end.
 
Best is so speak to a family law attorney. It will be expensive, but they will give you the best advise. Going down the legal route will be rather expensive as it will be a High Court matter.
 
Leave her alone, even if something bad happens it's not like they will stick someone with Alzheimers in jail.
 
heartbroken said:
Leave her alone, even if something bad happens it's not like they will stick someone with Alzheimers in jail.
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It's a toss up. This or that muppet who brags about how often and easy it is to drive drunk, for moron post of the day.
 
My mom refused to go into a home, she was terrified that she was going to be beaten by the caregivers. I eventually folded and got a townhouse for her and we took care of her until she passed. She didn't have Alzheimer's though and that does take specialist care, have you chatted to her to find out what her "fear" is about being in a care facility? Sometimes it helps to understand that fear and then really involve her in finding the right place.
 
WhiteRaven said:
My mom refused to go into a home, she was terrified that she was going to be beaten by the caregivers. I eventually folded and got a townhouse for her and we took care of her until she passed. She didn't have Alzheimer's though and that does take specialist care, have you chatted to her to find out what her "fear" is about being in a care facility? Sometimes it helps to understand that fear and then really involve her in finding the right place.
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She doesn't want to share her space, she wants to be independent, she doesn't want to give up her cat. She says she doesn't want to be amongst "old people" (she is 85)

I can't take care of her, neither can my sisters. I live and work in another town. I work fulltime. I tried suggesting a daily caregiver but Dr says she needs to be watched 24/7 as she has a tendency to fall and she needs to be supervised re her medication. In addition, I will be joining my husband in the UK middle of the year. We have never gotten along and she drives me crazy, sadly. Physically, also I am unable to pick her up etc.
 
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I personally have shared this with my wife and my kids as well as my folks.

If something was to happen to me I don't want to be a burden on them firstly. Secondly I'm a social person I would much rather spend my old age in an old age home with other people than be alone in a house or a flat. I would never have an issue with it. But that is me personally and I suppose other people are not so social and would rather be in a flat all alone. Should I suffer some kind of brain injury or debilitating illness or injury I want to be in a place where I'm no burden to anyone. One condition, they need to visit at least once a month :p
 
bokdrol said:
She doesn't want to share her space, she wants to be independent, she doesn't want to give up her cat. She says she doesn't want to be amongst "old people" (she is 85)

I can't take care of her, neither can my sisters. I live and work in another town. I work fulltime. I tried suggesting a daily caregiver but Dr says she needs to be watched 24/7 as she has a tendency to fall and she needs to be supervised re her medication. In addition, I will be joining my husband in the UK middle of the year. We have never gotten along and she drives me crazy, sadly. Physically, also I am unable to pick her up etc.
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A live-in caregiver, then?

My sincere condolences, by the way. I lost my Mum to that condition back in 1999. She stayed with us, but it was like a years-long funeral.
 
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