Friends with an ex?

[Pitbull]

I can think of couple situations where its worked fine.

Slightly off topic, but imo real men suck **** up and behave in a manner consistant with everones best interest and happiness. Admitedly there is shortage of real men these days but I dont thinks its that unlikely that a woman might have one as and ex/friend and a boyfriend at the same time.

I have seen some of these real men.

They commit suicide, go all Columbine on peoples ass and so forth. Heaped up shyt has never done anyone any good. It's not normal. There is a reason our emotions have a trip switch when the build up becomes to much.

Now there is where real men come to the floor If your switch doesn't trip when the pressure builds up to high then you are in for some serious issues.

My trip switch works pretty fine, maybe too fine tbh

 

[Kitten]

Yes, I do know what you mean. But I don't agree with it.

Among my friends Rational thought > Instinct and hormones*. It's a part of growing up.



*In most cases.

Exactly, my friends are this way as well. So I will basically say that he needs to make up his mind, and that if she can make him choose between her and his friends so early in the relationship it is highly likely that she will pull another stunt like this further on. Sound fine?

 

[koeks]

mother nature always wins...

 

[Pitbull]

Exactly, my friends are this way as well. So I will basically say that he needs to make up his mind, and that if she can make him choose between her and his friends so early in the relationship it is highly likely that she will pull another stunt like this further on. Sound fine?

Friends was a series on TV, that shyt doesn't happen in real life

 

[Kitten]

Friends was a series on TV, that shyt doesn't happen in real life

I like to believe that there are real, decent men out there not only the type of men you know or are friends with. I dated a guy who is now best friends with one of my ex's at the time of us dating. My ex and I remained good friends, we were both mature about the break up. These things can happen, do happen, it is not entirely impossible.

 

[Nick333]

I have seen some of these real men.

They commit suicide, go all Columbine on peoples ass and so forth. Heaped up shyt has never done anyone any good. It's not normal. There is a reason our emotions have a trip switch when the build up becomes to much.

Now there is where real men come to the floor If your switch doesn't trip when the pressure builds up to high then you are in for some serious issues.

My trip switch works pretty fine, maybe too fine tbh

I think Clint Eastwoods pushing 80 now. Dont think he ever shot anyone who didnt deserve it.

 

[Waaib]

Exactly, my friends are this way as well. So I will basically say that he needs to make up his mind, and that if she can make him choose between her and his friends so early in the relationship it is highly likely that she will pull another stunt like this further on. Sound fine?

If he's met someone he'd like to spend the rest of his life with. Then he'll be willing to give up anything on earth to be with her.

 

[Nick333]

Exactly, my friends are this way as well. So I will basically say that he needs to make up his mind, and that if she can make him choose between her and his friends so early in the relationship it is highly likely that she will pull another stunt like this further on. Sound fine?

Actually I agree. Dude needs to ask for his nuts back and find another girlfriend.

 

[Pitbull]

I like to believe that there are real, decent men out there not only the type of men you know or are friends with. I dated a guy who is now best friends with one of my ex's at the time of us dating. My ex and I remained good friends, we were both mature about the break up. These things can happen, do happen, it is not entirely impossible.

Some woman find nerds who pee in their bed to be real men, some woman find mind who stand up for themselves and what they believe in to be real men.

I think this calls for a saying "in the eyes of the beholder". Your "real man" and someone else's real man is not always the same thing. I understand exactly what you are saying but inrelation to the 2 previously shagging couple that is now shagging other people.... sorry it doesn't work.

 

[koeks]

Actually I agree. Dude needs to ask for his nuts back and find another girlfriend.

LOL.... dude don't joke like that

 

[Nick333]

If he's met someone he'd like to spend the rest of his life with. Then he'll be willing to give up anything on earth to be with her.

Really!!! Including his self respect?

 

[Kitten]

If he's met someone he'd like to spend the rest of his life with. Then he'll be willing to give up anything on earth to be with her.

Sure of course ... but if she loves him enough to spend the rest of her life with him, is it right of her to make him choose? I know I wouldn't want to be with a person who can so easily give me ultimatums and demand I don't see my friends etc.

 

[Pitbull]

Actually I agree. Dude needs to ask for his nuts back and find another girlfriend.

Funny as this might sound, he might be the one not ok with it and blames the new dove

Assumptions any one

 

[Waaib]

mmm ...

Getting nooky
vs
Standing around a fire drinking beer.

 

[Pitbull]

Really!!! Including his self respect?

So you're a real man are you ?

Your contradicting yourself a bit.

On one hand his a real man if he follows his girlfriend, on the other he's not for listening to a request from her

 

[Waaib]

Sure of course ... but if she loves him enough to spend the rest of her life with him, is it right of her to make him choose? I know I wouldn't want to be with a person who can so easily give me ultimatums and demand I don't see my friends etc.

It's right for her to ask him to make choices as long as she had decent reasons behind them. Not seeing ALL his friends is not right though. I'd also have issues with that too.

Have you asked him out? ..... (small joke)

 

[Nick333]

Funny as this might sound, he might be the one not ok with it and blames the new dove

Assumptions any one

Could be.

 

[Kitten]

Funny as this might sound, he might be the one not ok with it and blames the new dove

Assumptions any one

100% definitely not the case.

 

[Nick333]

So your a real man are you ?

Your contradicti8ng yourself a bit.

On one hand his a real man if he follows his girlfriend, on the other he's not for listening to a request from her

yes. it would appear that you are.

edit: confused that is

 

[Pitbull]

yes. it would appear that you are.

No sorry, I'm not taking a swing at you. I just find it contradicting.

On the one hand I see a "real" man in the eyes of the females to be a ladies man and be there for his lady.

Not turn around and tell her to stick her suggestions and do what he likes. There is balance in there, you just need to know how to take advantage of it. You can still keep her happy and be with all your friends excluding your ex. I don't see that as an unreasonable request.