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I started seeing a work college just over 2 yrs ago. She works in the same office as me. I know work relationships are a no-no, but it happened.

Now the problem is we became very close and very intimate. She was seeing another guy at work when we started but ditched him for me.
I became quite attached to her, but every time I spoke to another female work college or even replied to a work email, she'd have a hissy fit. She is VERY jealous. She won't let me even go to a braai with friends without turning it against me somehow saying I put her second blah blah blah - but when she does it it's fine.

She hides everything about herself - I know she speaks to other guys on her phone etc, but I don't make a scene about it. Now the other night I went out with mates against her will, then she literally blew a gasket blaming me for not loving her and putting others first. If I don't answer her calls immediately, she freaks out. If I reply to her texts even a few minutes late, she loses it.

I'm scared of actually pissing her off :wtf:

I have done everything for this girl. I have been there for her, bought and given her things but I get the feeling she is using me and trying to control her life.

I've tried to tell her this, but it ends up with me being the pr*ck, and her saying that's the way she is and she isn't gonna change for anyone.

What makes it worse is that we work together (BAD mistake!!)

Do I tell her to shove it?
 
People still need advise with this stuff? If it aint working, and you don't want to, or can't make it work, then ditch it. If she becomes a problem, speak to HR. Own up to your mistakes, etc etc. </lecture>
 
cornered said:
I started seeing a work college just over 2 yrs ago. She works in the same office as me. I know work relationships are a no-no, but it happened.

Now the problem is we became very close and very intimate. She was seeing another guy at work when we started but ditched him for me.
I became quite attached to her, but every time I spoke to another female work college or even replied to a work email, she'd have a hissy fit. She is VERY jealous. She won't let me even go to a braai with friends without turning it against me somehow saying I put her second blah blah blah - but when she does it it's fine.

She hides everything about herself - I know she speaks to other guys on her phone etc, but I don't make a scene about it. Now the other night I went out with mates against her will, then she literally blew a gasket blaming me for not loving her and putting others first. If I don't answer her calls immediately, she freaks out. If I reply to her texts even a few minutes late, she loses it.

I'm scared of actually pissing her off :wtf:

I have done everything for this girl. I have been there for her, bought and given her things but I get the feeling she is using me and trying to control her life.

I've tried to tell her this, but it ends up with me being the pr*ck, and her saying that's the way she is and she isn't gonna change for anyone.

What makes it worse is that we work together (BAD mistake!!)

Do I tell her to shove it?
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From what you've just said, your're together for all the wrong reasons. Tell her and ride the wave as it comes, you'll be better for it.
 
cornered said:
I've tried to tell her this, but it ends up with me being the pr*ck, and her saying that's the way she is and she isn't gonna change for anyone.
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How dare she!!! You're clearly not being a prick, you big p**sy. Reclaim your testicles man.
 
cornered said:
What makes it worse is that we work together (BAD mistake!!)
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Yea I thought people were over reacting when they told me this ... but I realise they're very, very right!

But as you say, things just happen ... can't choose who you fall for *shrug*

EDIT : And now whatever you decide is going make work hawkward!

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I have seen this with other people. In that case the husband would even beat the wife if she took to long buying bread at the nearest shop.

He had 3 gf's.....

Working together makes it more difficult, but I would suggest getting out of this relationship. Sadly you were the other guy and she is probably continuing her same patterns again.
 
emotional blackmail and you're on the receiving end

get out of the relationship, it will never turn out well
 
Might as well do whatever the hell you feel like since between co-worker & crazy you're going to get screwed regardless.
 
Simple solution..

Tell her to fsck off..

When she starts making your life difficult at work, just ignore it and go on with your life. Yes it will be rough, but right now you need to find the nearest cliff and push the relationship off of it.
 
Just be prepared for major fallout at work. If you've told her any dirty secrets or she knows you've "stolen" so much as a paper clip from the office, she'll try destroy you with the info as she deals with the rejection. Cover your bases and end it fast.
 
biometrics said:
Demand weird sex ...
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This.

Gamer said:
Just be prepared for major fallout at work. If you've told her any dirty secrets or she knows you've "stolen" so much as a paper clip from the office, she'll try destroy you with the info as she deals with the rejection. Cover your bases and end it fast.
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Then this.

cornered said:
She hides everything about herself - I know she speaks to other guys on her phone etc, but I don't make a scene about it. Now the other night I went out with mates against her will, then she literally blew a gasket blaming me for not loving her and putting others first. If I don't answer her calls immediately, she freaks out. If I reply to her texts even a few minutes late, she loses it.
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http://theoatmeal.com/comics/literally

:p
 
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Trade her in for a better model. But make sure it is not frying pan into fire.

Friend had same experience as OP's a few years back and married this chick on the rebound. First month's credit card bill showed she had spent R9k on shoes. "I had to have them" she said. That marriage lasted 9 months.
 
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