How many friends do you have?

How many friends do you have?

  • No friends, no acquaintances

    Votes: 3 2.8%
  • No friends, 1 - 10 acquaintances

    Votes: 14 12.8%
  • No friends, more than 10 acquaintances

    Votes: 2 1.8%
  • My spouse/partner is my friend

    Votes: 9 8.3%
  • A relative (sibling, cousin, etc) is my friend

    Votes: 2 1.8%
  • 1 - 4 friends

    Votes: 49 45.0%
  • 5 - 9 friends

    Votes: 21 19.3%
  • 10+ friends

    Votes: 9 8.3%

  • Total voters
    109

thestaggy

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Inspired by some of the comments in the this thread, how many friends do you have, if any?

I wanted to split friends and acquaintances but no option to have two polls in one thread.
 

satanboy

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My definition of a friend:
  • Someone you can share your secrets/thoughts with and can trust.
  • Someone who doesn't wilfully lie to you.
  • Someone you can visit unannounced for a quick chat.
I previously thought I had that, but I was lied to.
Currently.....zero (excluding my SO).
I am totally open to new friendships, even repairing those damaged ones.
 

Neuk_

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I have a few really close friends, lots of acquaintances and then my family, girlfriend and her family.
 

thestaggy

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My definition of a friend:
  • Someone you can share your secrets/thoughts with and can trust.
  • Someone who doesn't wilfully lie to you.
  • Someone you can visit unannounced for a quick chat.
I previously thought I had that, but I was lied to.
Currently.....zero (excluding my SO).
I am totally open to new friendships, even repairing those damaged ones.
Regarding the damaged friendships, would you initiate repairing them?
 

Cius

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Firstly, I define a friend as someone who is not family who I am friends with, and we are in semi regular contact via phone, or meeting to hang out. If I am friendly with you but the only reason we even see each other is we work in the same place/go to church together, go to same gym, whatever then you are an acquaintance. As in the friendship does not extend to real meaningful contact outside of the common setting. If I changed jobs in other words I would most likely never contact you and vice versa.

So I have moved around a lot and hence have lost track of a lot of friends over the years. I do not keep up friendships well over distance (few do actually). I do work on building new circles of friendship. Had a few friends over the weekend for instance. Most of the people who came also have us over now and then (life is busy though). I do find that it is much easier once you are married with kids if you find parents of your kids friends who you have stuff in common with. Still, friendship is hard, especially if like me you have a large family who are relatively close as just keeping up with them somewhat fills the calendar. I am however good friends with all my direct family.
 

copacetic

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My definition of a friend:
  • Someone you can share your secrets/thoughts with and can trust.
  • Someone who doesn't wilfully lie to you.
  • Someone you can visit unannounced for a quick chat.
I previously thought I had that, but I was lied to.
Currently.....zero (excluding my SO).
I am totally open to new friendships, even repairing those damaged ones.
Aside from your third category (difficult in practice, due to kids, wives and lives, etc), I'd say I have... a solid ten or so people I'd pretty much trust with my life.

One thing I've never struggled with is having really kickass people on my team. Acquaintances, I need to work on - It takes me a long time to come out of my shell (like, years).
 

thestaggy

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Aside from your third category (difficult in practice, due to kids, wives and lives, etc), I'd say I have... a solid ten or so people I'd pretty much trust with my life.

One thing I've never struggled with is having really kickass people on my team. Acquaintances, I need to work on - It takes me a long time to come out of my shell (like, years).
I'm the opposite. I have no issues with acquaintances. Its making new friends that has always been a challenge for me. Especially so as I've gotten older and my friends started families, which is something I'm not interested in.
 

t_girl

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My definition of a friend:
  • Someone you can share your secrets/thoughts with and can trust.
  • Someone who doesn't wilfully lie to you.
  • Someone you can visit unannounced for a quick chat.
I previously thought I had that, but I was lied to.
Currently.....zero (excluding my SO).
I am totally open to new friendships, even repairing those damaged ones.
I don't even visit my mother unannounced. If that were my criteria I wouldn't have any friends.
 

themba990

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My definition of a friend:
  • Someone you can share your secrets/thoughts with and can trust.
  • Someone who doesn't wilfully lie to you.
  • Someone you can visit unannounced for a quick chat.
I previously thought I had that, but I was lied to.
Currently.....zero (excluding my SO).
I am totally open to new friendships, even repairing those damaged ones.
I'm taking my secrets to the grave, does that mean I have no friends?
 

schuits

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According to Satan's definition...0.

By my own definition 1 good friend. We can meet after a few years and just carry on where we left off.
 

Fulcrum29

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Acquaintances and colleagues and I live in a 'small' town. Noone close to me other than relatives. Anyone who makes me a cup of coffee I consider as my friend.
 
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