I am so lonely

Mila

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Milfs are a good start, they normally pay for dinner too! :D
:D

When you are younger (late teens to early twenties), date older girls because they're less shallow. (That's if you can't get with smoking girls your own age).

Then when you're older and have the money, you can be one of those guys that dates the younger chicks because they see Mammon in your car, house etc.

Double whammy :D
:DWomen .... so shallow:eek:
 

Nick333

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Nick333...that only carries so far.
It is a good start to have the basics in place.
If there are physical problems, like hygiene, tourettes or any other dificulty that might impact his chances, they will still impact his chances no matter how much self-confidence he has.

I used to be a nerd, but got out of that with some simple tips.
Fake it until you believe it!
Dress good to feel good!

Ok tourettes is a tough one. Bad hygiene is a symptom of low self-esteem I think. Appearence can be important but I think you can get away with old sneakers and and t-shirt if you really own it.

Ok so if we can establish whether or not this dude has any serious defects maybe we could offer him some real advise.
 

tco21

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Serious defects? Lol, he's not an item off a production assembly.
 

BinaryJack

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Ok tourettes is a tough one. Bad hygiene is a symptom of low self-esteem I think. Appearence can be important but I think you can get away with old sneakers and and t-shirt if you really own it.

Ok so if we can establish whether or not this dude has any serious defects maybe we could offer him some real advise.

I dont think that bad hygiene is a sign of low self-esteem.
The self-esteem can be a product of the bad hygiene.
I agree with the sneakers and t-shirt, a guy with confidence can pull that off.

Yes, lets first see if there is something wrong with him first.

Let's play...who wants to be a Millionaire...sorry wrong show!:eek::D
 

Nick333

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Serious defects? Lol, he's not an item off a production assembly.

lol. I suppose it sounds a bit mean. But ja, tourettes, aggression and anger problems or aspergers or something are all a little beyond the scope of your average forumite I would think.
 

Viper25

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@ OP - Dude, your are only 20...
you got lots of sex coming your way...
Just go gain yourself some confidence ;)
 

gripen

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I must say, when a chick goes down on you and she does that.. the orgasm you get as a dude is much more intense.

To the OP:

I was in the same boat as you about a year ago. I was 22 and a virgin. I decided enough was enough and did some research on the net. If you can, go look for an ebook series by David DeAngelo. Most torrent sites will have it.

He teaches you how to build up confidence, how to read body language etc. I will attest to his methods. After reading his material, I decided to go to a pub and practice what I had learned. Met a chick there, flirted etc. We hooked up that night, exchanged numbers. 4 days after that I had my first lay. We dated for 3 months then she moved outta town.

After that, I met this other girl at a friends birthday party. We conversed for a month or so over mxit and facebook. Eventually we made a date and went out. That night I laid her. We ended up being together for a year until she broke up with me 2 months ago.

Was I upset? Sure. But life goes on.

I then met this other girl through a mutual friend. Did the same tactics as what DD teaches. Few days later I laid her. Now we're just friends. Dunno if it's with benefits or not. Buuuut I don't care, I'm always on the prowl. Currently working on another chick lol.

Also, as someone suggested. Get experience, I didn't wtf I was doing when I first started having sex. My first and second had to show and tell me what to do and how to please them. Invaluable information you will always need. Always, always make sure the woman orgasms first as well. It's just better that way.

Can you perhaps summarise the teachings of David D for us? Specially which "work" in the SA "market" and which aren't relevant. Maybe post a shortlist of what worked for you.. Can't be that hard, seems you have been rather successful - as you state above - so part of PUA is re-teaching what you have learned no? ;) I'm sure many readers/posters/lurkers can benefit.
 

Humberto

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F-A-E: Frei aber einsam

The 19th century violinist Joseph Joachim had the personal motto frei aber einsam (free but lonely). Loneliness can also be a positive thing in the form of solitude.

Joachim's motto was turned into a musical cryptogram, the F-A-E sonata, based on the notes A, E and F, and composed as a gift for him by Robert Schumann, Johannes Brahms, and Albert Dietrich.

Loneliness seems to be a normal feeling in humans and is one of the most common things that people complain about. Many songs in popular music deal with feelings of loneliness, and a desire for a partner, as the main theme in the lyrics.
 
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