I am so lonely

[scotty777]

you know it's you that's fusking up. It's not that girls don't like you, or that they don't notice you. It's that you don't do draw them in, and then compel them to be interested in you, then you don't make moves.

Trust me, I've gone through the whole mope, mope, weep weep, girls just don't dig me. It was until I realised that I've had hot girls like me, but I just don't make moves (I got b!thch slapped by a friend who sorta woke me up, and made me realise the errors of my ways ).

Now confidence is key, but don't over do it, and be honest, usually that gets you far. then make sure you initiate with something small, like coffee (I prefer this cos it's cheaper ). From there on, then chick should know where you want to go, and that you looking at her for love not friendship .

OR
The alternative to this is become super confident, and be an a$$. Like I mean a total one. This method only works if you fast, and quick to seduce. I'm not a fan of it, but I've done it (not so much fun the day after when you have angry sms's).

Now remember, I'm not good looking by any means, nor am I built (I'm farking thin lol). But you must just have your own style, such as funny. If you not funny, then don't try to be, cause she might think you either trying too hard, or an idiot.

Um, I've got nothing else to say, but yeah, just make sure you don't come across as a person who wants just to be a friend (that will flatten the mood and relationship from there onwards ) and don't come across as a race horse with a massive erection, no one likes the panting perv...

 

[chau]

lol! we're all going to stalk you on facebook haha
shame bru, im going through the same kark as you...
Niccia, i've made some girl friends and blah blah and i listen to most of them with their troubles.. at the end of the day i jus fall into their 'you're a brother to me' or 'you're my best friend' catagory :/ why why isit coz i look fugly :/ or is it coz i drive a citi golf? lol blegh

 

[scotty777]

lol! we're all going to stalk you on facebook haha
shame bru, im going through the same kark as you...
Niccia, i've made some girl friends and blah blah and i listen to most of them with their troubles.. at the end of the day i jus fall into their 'you're a brother to me' or 'you're my best friend' catagory :/ why why isit coz i look fugly :/ or is it coz i drive a citi golf blegh

lol, it's because you adopt that attitude china .

Just be confident, and make moves, you fall into that zone because you just don't make the girl realize that you don't wanna be friends. lol. And don't worry about fusking up, there's another girl to try on.

 

[seventhson]

Thanks. lol. I can get so angry with myself.

 

[RazedInBlack]

True! Self-confidence is 90% of the work done already. If you don't display that withing the first few seconds, you're fscked!

 

[fxit_man]

What makes a "clap" sound?

I'll give you a hint....doggie

LOL

 

[chau]

lol, it's because you adopt that attitude china .

Just be confident, and make moves, you fall into that zone because you just don't make the girl realize that you don't wanna be friends. lol. And don't worry about fusking up, there's another girl to try on.

hahah maybe I should rock up with a BMW and gold chains hanging from my neck and see if I can pick up some chicks

Nah, my main problem is that I stress when I'm around girls, or I think it's panic.. When I finally strike success with a girl she's either taken or just not interested in me.. and with most of them I just fail. And also I give up too easily which is the major drawback.. I really just need to grow some bigger balls and try more girls, I'm sure one should fall for me right? at least one hehe

I guess if all else fail.. I can try jailbait

 

[TowerGuru]

Haha! Im sorry i read the title of this thread and all i could think about was Kim Il Jong in Team America singing "Im so ronery"...busy hozing myself now. Ah yea dude No chick is gonna wanna be wit you if you gonna mope about. And please dont try to hard either. Girls will smell the desperation and bolt for cover. Again it depends on the personality of the girl and what she is attracted to. Just what ever you do stay true to yourself i was gonna say what i would look for in a guy but kinda off topic. Goodluck!

 

[Patty]

I've been in a few relationships recently but I must admit that meeting that special girl is really difficult, or maybe I am just fussy. I'm back to being single now since about 3 weeks ago!

I would rather be single for longer than be in a relationship for the sake of it. All that effort, money, time and emotions goes to waste when you break it off.

Most of my relationships have been in the 2-4 months periods. haha But I know what I want and I don't wont to settle for less. Since ultimately you are looking for a girl to spend the rest of your life with, someone who is going to wake up next to you every morning! Even short term you will put in a lot of work and time to a relationship.

While you are young you have to make the most of your life by studying / working etc... Remember your early adult life will build the foundation for the rest of your life. I have seen a few of my friends passion ruined because they got into relationships! Especially in the line of work that I am studying for.

Im not saying dont get into a relationship, im just saying dont go into them blind! You may end up ultimately feeling worse in the long run. You will know when Miss Right comes along.

You need a girl who is going to progress in life with you, not from you.

The majority of club girls, despite maybe being in their 20's still have that high school mentality. Besides the obvious like at braais and through so and so... Where does one meet decent girls these days besides clubs?

 

[ponder]

You're the exception then...

Bollocks. You just assume you know women or what they want. The one thing I know is the majority of them hate *******s and being drunk is not going to help you either.

 

[krycor]

be happy with yourself & get a dog(one you have to walk regularly). It will sort itself out there after.

 

[Lightscribe]

Ok, never thought we would give tips on love/sex lives here, but I will open up a bit. If this was a bar, we would be raving...

1.) As you grow, from around 6 to 12, you are experimenting with yourself. This period is important. It is a muscle you are dealing with, thus it requires stimulation to grow in size...I don't mean erection.

2.) This muscle will become adored or ignored, depending on the amount of attention devoted to it's growth in size, during youth. At 23, biologically, it's over. No more size upgrade.

3.) Girls love size. They say it doesn't matter, but it does. No girl wants a man that matches her finger.

4.) A skinny guy has no less chance than a body building surfer dude. Girls love a guy that shows some ability to look after his physique. Toned is the keyword. Not muscles.

5.) Stomach muscles count. Legs on the bed, lying on the floor, with hands on tummy. It's called cramps. Do them. You will see the effects of your new "sixpack" within 6 weeks.

6.) Yes, smell counts. You are what you eat. I did not believe this, until I lived for a while with a friend, who never wore deo, nor smelt. Cooked meals and a box of apples between us two, per week, did the same for me. You may use deo, but get your true body odour smelling musky yet non vinegar like. No sharpness. Musky.

7.) Have a program of actively hunting desired women. This friend and I went to school on Wednesdays and Thursdays mostly. We went virgin hunting and surfing on all other days. In standard 8, he got through 90+ virgins. I got through only 36. He always initiated the conversation with girls, which helped in the count.

8.) Be nice. No one wants to feel like they are just another notch on your stick. Make the one you're with, feel like the only one that matters. Listen to what she says and offer helpful advice or sympathy where and when required.

9.) Everyone seeks love...but not for ever. The younger you both are, the less likely you are to be married. Some of my friends married and had children before their twenties. They were all divorced within the next 5 years.

10.) Women are as horny as men, they simply hide it better. At 16, I used to walk up to a beautiful girls and say "Hi, do you f**k?" I got slapped or told to F***K OFF, about half the time. The other half was heaven....One, I will never forget, said "Yes, but not with you..."

11.) If you want marriage, but you are a virgin, you will be left for another. Get some practice. I have spent my life explaining the tactic of how to keep a woman, as opposed to having your fun and moving on. If you want to keep her, go down on her before you make love, each and every time. An orgasm, before you dare enter. If you do not want to see her again, act like most men and just make love to her, with concern for only your own orgasm.

12.) Do not go down on each woman you meet, unless you have watched Glenn Close hunting down her lover...and like that psycho s**t. Do it for those you really want to be with...for life. Do not stop doing it. You will lose her.

13.) Women are beautiful...even the fugly ones...treat them as such and the non fugly ones will want to eat you up...all day, all night...

14.) Women do not care for money. I had no car, no extravagant spending. Just a smile...with love...Hard to believe, but then, I slept with around 6, yes, six (6) different women on an average day, as a contractor...was a great career...But, it ate at me...I stopped dead...10 years of celibacy, before I entered the world of lovemaking again.

15.) Love goes through stages...Thus you should be prepared for the fact that marriage will change the way you feel about each other. Once the contract is signed, you better be mature in your needs. You should know that the 1st insult is never forgotten. Each insult thereafter, simply brings the divorce date closer. They do not belong to you. Nor you to them.

16.) If you want love forever, then love forever. What you put in, is what you get out. We all are lonely at times. We tend to forget, that we were lonely, when the one we're with pisses us off...We tend to forget...That when we finally met the one we feel we found love with, we immediately forgot how lonely we were before...and started thinking that the love we found, can be replaced easily...After all, we found one...so there must be more for us...It is not so...Love...deep, caring love, when found, should be clung to...

17.) One always loves the other more...So be the one...or let her be the one...but never take each other for granted.

18.) Marriage is unnatural but love is natural. Make your choice wisely. Do not commit to a marriage that forces either one into a long term commitment, which one partner, is not fully committed to. Being with someone that hates you, or that you hate, is not life.

19.) As others have said, to start with, just be you. Do not be timid. Keywords here, are to be "aloof, but with a hint of interest", when meeting.

20.) When your eyes meet, keep looking, as per point 19, since it is the moment that your life will change.

 

[killadoob]

12.) Do not go down on each woman you meet, unless you have watched Glenn Close hunting down her lover...and like that psycho s**t. Do it for those you really want to be with...for life. Do not stop doing it. You will lose her.

Also make sure you do not go down on a chick you met a club, not a great experience .

Shower FTW

 

[Sting]

This is what I advised...

10.) Women are as horny as men, they simply hide it better. At 16, I used to walk up to a beautiful girls and say "Hi, do you f**k?" I got slapped or told to F***K OFF, about half the time. The other half was heaven....One, I will never forget, said "Yes, but not with you..."

 

[killadoob]

Majority of women are not as horny as men, please a mans main objective when he goes out is to get laid. Females want to find someone nice and then have a couple dates. Obviously you get the few that just wanna FU%^ those are the awesome ones .

 

[matt loves telkom]

well im in the same boat....and this is how i see it :

i wont force myself to get a gf and wont go looking every wkend at every club and try those fake @ss pick up lines ever.il meet girls the same way i always have , through friends.there is no awkward moments that way and its honestly the best .but at the rate im going i dont see this happening which will push me further and further into making more money for myself which will then turn into me buying a flashy Bmw or Merc in my early 30's.now ALOT of women,not all women, love flashy cars - ive seen it with my own eyes.I remember a friend who was hooking up with this chick and he had a feeling she was using him because he is damn wealthy and what he did one day was rock up at her house in a 1998 opel kadette if i can remember clearly.he got to her gate and told her he's outside and all of a sudden she came down with a stomach bug.some women are damn evil.
all of my friends at the moment have gf's and this doesnt bother me that much but if i dont meet a decent chick in the next 5 years im definetely gonna try go overseas .why stay in a country your whole life when you got the world to test out.

and to add to some of the other posters :
*any guy who can make a women laugh always has a chance (Humour is HUGE!)
* decent manners will always do the trick aswell

and the most important one i believe in . If your macho guy friends tell you be an @sshole to women ...they all love bad@ss guys , they are talking cr@p!
Yes i know alot of ladies who would rather take a naughty,6 pack ripped and ********* fake guy over a sensitive sweet man. good 4 them! you dont wanna end up with a lady like that ever....shes made for her type and you are made for yours.more than likely she will wake up in her late 30's and ask herself 'wtf am i doing with my life'.

good luck dude..... everyone needs it.

p.s
myBB is officially becoming a relationship/emo forum

 

[Nicci]

hahah maybe I should rock up with a BMW and gold chains hanging from my neck and see if I can pick up some chicks

Um, NO!

 

[Palimino]

Okay jokes aside here is what I have figured out about women.

1. A women wants exactly what men want (NO NOT SEX YOU PERV)

someone to talk to and someone who can listen.

2. Cater to a owmen needs they are very simple.

Again someone to listen to and someone to talk too. If you cam string more than 2 words togther WITHOUT LOOKING DOWN AT HER BOOBS you are half way there. SERIOUS

This is easier said than done. A young male with hormones raging through his body finds it difficult to maintain a platonic relationship. If you simply desire to talk, women’s conversation can be eye-crossingly boring. You will have to cultivate a passionate interest in shoes, shopping and “she said ...then I said...” type bitchiness.

Male conversation is much more interesting. I would rather discuss the merits of a friend’s new car. I do tend to zone-out when the conversation turns to golf, however.

 

[Nicci]

This is easier said than done. A young male with hormones raging through his body finds it difficult to maintain a platonic relationship. If you simply desire to talk, women’s conversation can be eye-crossingly boring. You will have to cultivate a passionate interest in shoes, shopping and “she said ...then I said...” type bitchiness.

Male conversation is much more interesting. I would rather discuss the merits of a friend’s new car. I do tend to zone-out when the conversation turns to golf, however.

That is absolute crap, I am sorry. If both parties has mutual respect for each other that raging hormones will wait for the right time. Besides, I find guys who can talk about both shoes and the latest car, interesting and very appealing, but having said that, I would also try my best to see what the guy is interested in and talk about that.

 

[matt loves telkom]

Lightscribe - im not tryna be a jerk but seriously i dont see how anyone can sleep with 6 girls in one day.this isnt Californication? and how your friend got through 90+ virgins....

if its true all i can say is your mind must be seriously exhausted from it all .yoh