I feel awful

CathJ said:
She might also feel that that might have contributed to the breakup, and doesn't want that to happen again.
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Thats an interesting view, but she must have known all along the implications of that so she can't just go "oops" now. But then maybe she's just full of sh*t. Anyway it doesn't matter TDM, you couldn't be in a better position. You are rid of a hypocritical g/friend who can't even stand by her own convictions and you can go out with anyone, what more do you want?

As for loving her I have one thing to say, love is nothing more than a state of mind.
 
i'm actually happy that i got rid of her, she is full of sht and she cant make up her mind, let the new bf see and find out for him self that she's full op cr@p.
 
Maelly said:
U got played bro! She probably didnt wanna let u tip her uss!
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I've always wondered what the point of playing someone actually is.

Why would she be with him and not want to do anything with him - but actually be with him? Did he pay for everything for her? Was there a reason?

I don't get women :/
 
thedutchman said:
well the new guy has a shop in town, and one of my good friends work there, and they talk about stuff like that...
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Dude, guys lie. :)

thedutchman said:
i'm actually happy that i got rid of her, she is full of sht and she cant make up her mind, let the new bf see and find out for him self that she's full op cr@p.
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Then just forget it. People change. Swearing does not equal having sex. Forget about her saying you'll be her first, you ditched her. You lost out on that when you broke up.
 
Niche said:
Dude, guys lie. :)



Then just forget it. People change. Swearing does not equal having sex. Forget about her saying you'll be her first, you ditched her. You lost out on that when you broke up.
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i know swearing dos not equal having sex, but from a person that would never say anything wrong, to a person that uses the f word e=after every 5 words, thats something else... and i didnt really lose out when i broke up with her, she wanted to break up with me anyway, maybe even the same day, i was just the first one to say, its over. she would have broken up with me because she didnt want to have sex and that she couldnt give me what i wanted, a lot of BS, i know
 
thedutchman said:
tried that in the end lol, that was also one of the reasons why we broke up :rolleyes: well, i would never treat a woman like ****, i just didnt treat her like i always did, didnt spoil her that often... oh well... i should just forget about the whole thing..
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lol Was half kidding and half not kidding about that obviously ^_~
There is SOME truth to it. Make a girl work for attention, and affection etc, and she will feel that she earned it, hand it to her on a platter and she will get bored because the challenge is lost. Girls also love drama. Don't give her everything she wants all the time, and she won't walk all over you. If she does not respect you, its lost..
Easier said than done if you are inlove with a girl though.. You always seem to trick yourself into believing that she will reward you for loving her properly like she says she wants you to. But she will just get bored if you do things her way. Problem is, if you change halfway through the relationship she will see it as a bad change, you gotta start off right. But.. I am alone, I shouldn't be giving advice.
 
thedutchman said:
i know swearing dos not equal having sex, but from a person that would never say anything wrong, to a person that uses the f word e=after every 5 words, thats something else... and i didnt really lose out when i broke up with her, she wanted to break up with me anyway, maybe even the same day, i was just the first one to say, its over. she would have broken up with me because she didnt want to have sex and that she couldn't give me what i wanted, a lot of BS, i know
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No, I mean you lost out on any promises you made to each other.

Thing is, it sounds like you were both fairly inexperienced in dating different people so it is quite likely that she learnt a lot from your relationship and may have changed after it was over. If she had changed her mind she probably would have also felt a bit stupid if after however long you were dating with her saying no sex before marriage and then all of a sudden being open to it. Sounds like this wasn't the only issue though, so whether or not she stuff you around wrt sex breaking up was a good thing to do if you were unable to resolve the issues and what happened after the break up doesn't matter. I know you probably feel scammed or whatever, but it's pretty likely that she feels her actions are justified and there is some reason that you are not seeing because of your perspective bias.

Solution: try to not think about it, everyone gets scammed and if it was a truly malicious move on her part karma will catch up with her.
 
One of my friends always says the best way to get closure\get back is to sleep with at least 2 of her friends.

Let me know how that works out for you
 
lol :D that's what i want to do, and her sister, and she is this real christian chick with high moralities and stuff :p
that will really piss her off... just have to figure out a way to do that, another one of those, no sex before marriage chick. but i'm going to europe this coming saturday so this will have to wait till i'm back
 
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That sucks and as a a woman I really feel for you what a cow.... move on find a better one
someone who will have fun with you and treat you good!!!!!
 
Wow!!!! kind of like a soap opera this with a lot of really bad nasty comment, and the odd bit of good advice thrown into the fray.

I have to admit that I haven't seen such misogynistic commentary in a long time. Do you all really hate and disrespect women that much??? - Quite frightening as I would gues that the majority of you are all really young! This is someone's daughter / sister you are talking about here and trashing!

What you are saying about women, I could turn around and apply to the men who have hurt me and then generalise and say "well men are bastards they are just like that"

They are not!!

Things happen, relationships sour, we go too fast we go to slow, we don't feed the relationship well enough and generally when the breakup occurs and you get dumped ..... maybe the other person was "just not that into you"

Your first relationship and breakup? The pain is real, but put it down to experience and move on.

Heres a thought ....

Why see the negative in the behaviour she is exhibiting with her new man? Why not look at the fact that thorugh meeting and being with you, she grew a little in some way, enough to change some behaviours and habits! You therefor probably contributed to influencing and changing another persons life, as she has yours.

That's what relationships are about and that is how we grow as human beings!
 
Padded Mouse said:
Wow!!!! kind of like a soap opera this with a lot of really bad nasty comment, and the odd bit of good advice thrown into the fray.

I have to admit that I haven't seen such misogynistic commentary in a long time. Do you all really hate and disrespect women that much??? - Quite frightening as I would gues that the majority of you are all really young! This is someone's daughter / sister you are talking about here and trashing!

What you are saying about women, I could turn around and apply to the men who have hurt me and then generalise and say "well men are bastards they are just like that"

They are not!!

Things happen, relationships sour, we go too fast we go to slow, we don't feed the relationship well enough and generally when the breakup occurs and you get dumped ..... maybe the other person was "just not that into you"

Your first relationship and breakup? The pain is real, but put it down to experience and move on.

Heres a thought ....

Why see the negative in the behaviour she is exhibiting with her new man? Why not look at the fact that thorugh meeting and being with you, she grew a little in some way, enough to change some behaviours and habits! You therefor probably contributed to influencing and changing another persons life, as she has yours.

That's what relationships are about and that is how we grow as human beings!
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Yeah, he turned her into a nympho.:)
 
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