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Hi guys,
I broke up with my GF just after my b day in Feb after a big fight and in the beginning of march, i started fighting back for her caused i was stupid and bla bla bla, was really sorry about it and stuff..
She always told me, no sex before marriage so i sortoff had to live with it. So when i was trying to win her back, her reasons were, i cant give u what u want so i said i'll wait for you.

Guess what, she has a new boy friend now, and all of a sudden, she does everything with him she never wanted to do with me. and i mean, the marriage thing is forgotten. Makes me feel like a total idiot, we were together for like half a year, she always told me, that she wanted to be with me for the rest of her life and bla bla bla.... ah, the worst part, i know this guy, and i dont really like him.. i could kill someone :mad:
 
thedutchman said:
Hi guys,
I broke up with my GF just after my b day in Feb after a big fight and in the beginning of march, i started fighting back for her caused i was stupid and bla bla bla, was really sorry about it and stuff..
She always told me, no sex before marriage so i sortoff had to live with it. So when i was trying to win her back, her reasons were, i cant give u what u want so i said i'll wait for you.

Guess what, she has a new boy friend now, and all of a sudden, she does everything with him she never wanted to do with me. and i mean, the marriage thing is forgotten. Makes me feel like a total idiot, we were together for like half a year, she always told me, that she wanted to be with me for the rest of her life and bla bla bla.... ah, the worst part, i know this guy, and i dont really like him.. i could kill someone :mad:
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Sorry to hear:(

Go out and meet some other ladies.

I know it doesnt feel like it but there are plenty of fish in the sea :)
 
i do that already, its just not nice to hear, i mean, i struggled for months to make her my gf, the first kiss took like months, and now she does this, feels like that i wasted my time so badly on this one... :(
 
Good riddance by the sounds of things. Dont beat yourself up over it - she doesnt sound like she was worth it. Even though you will probably be tempted to respond with "Yes she is", dont do it because that is not the correct head thinking! Move on!
 
well no, thats what i tell my self all the time now, she's not worth it and stuff like that, but i still really loved her, well i dont do anymore, i can almost say, that i hate her for what she has done to me, but for petes sake, and it was her first time too, she always said, yah i want it with you, i will do this to you and that when we are married :eek: and now this, i just think its not fair but she doesnt really care about that, i suppose
 
thedutchman said:
i do that already, its just not nice to hear, i mean, i struggled for months to make her my gf, the first kiss took like months, and now she does this, feels like that i wasted my time so badly on this one... :(
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Months for a kiss??
Nah you slow guy. It should take maximum 3 hours.
 
That's a rough onde but I kinda get what you're going through. It makes you feel inferior because she's willing to give him more than she was willing to give you, right? Well, stop feeling like that. It just means that she wasn't the right person for you. Big respect to you for respecting her wishes to remain celibate. You're the better person in this saga.

Now you need to go out and find someone who fits you a little better and start working on a new relationship. Don't let one bad experience ruin the rest of your life. Get rid of the baggage and move on. Do not carry that with you into other relationships. It's unfair on both parties.

Hope you come right!
 
thedutchman said:
well no, thats what i tell my self all the time now, she's not worth it and stuff like that, but i still really loved her, well i dont do anymore, i can almost say, that i hate her for what she has done to me, but for petes sake, and it was her first time too, she always said, yah i want it with you, i will do this to you and that when we are married :eek: and now this, i just think its not fair but she doesnt really care about that, i suppose
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Happened to me once, u get over it...

You're more upset that u don't have a gf, and she has someone.
If u had one, it wouldn't bother u at all.
 
well i was almost fine, had some nice girls, was over it, and now this, i thought i was over it, but it still hurts, well when i heard about it, it just opened all the old wounds
 
Some people are just b!tches, in the end all you can control is how you handle the situation. She clearly wasn't right for you so in the end you're better off, even though it might not seem like it now.

alf101 said:
You're more upset that u don't have a gf, and she has someone.
If u had one, it wouldn't bother u at all.
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Very true, you'll only truly get over her once you find a replacement.
 
Syndyre said:
Very true, you'll only truly get over her once you find a replacement.
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found the replacement, but that figured that a long distance thingy doesnt work, when she was here, it was all good, but that she left to europe again and yah, things went wrong again
 
Syndyre said:
Some people are just b!tches, in the end all you can control is how you handle the situation. She clearly wasn't right for you so in the end you're better off, even though it might not seem like it now.



Very true, you'll only truly get over her once you find a replacement.
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Not always:o
 
thedutchman said:
well i'm almost over it again, its just not a nice feeling that i was not good enough
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Unless this this was your 1st gf, I'm sure u "rejected" another girl in your lifetime. Whether u were nasty, or just not interested, she would've felt kinda like u are now, even if u didn't mean to hurt her.

Life on the other side of the fence...

It will happen to u again, both sides of the fence.
Now u got some experience.
 
thedutchman said:
well i'm almost over it again, its just not a nice feeling that i was not good enough
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Its not about not being good enough, its just about compatibility. She might also be in a different place now compared to where she was when she was with you.
 
thedutchman said:
Hi guys,
I broke up with my GF just after my b day in Feb after a big fight and in the beginning of march, i started fighting back for her caused i was stupid and bla bla bla, was really sorry about it and stuff..
She always told me, no sex before marriage so i sortoff had to live with it. So when i was trying to win her back, her reasons were, i cant give u what u want so i said i'll wait for you.

Guess what, she has a new boy friend now, and all of a sudden, she does everything with him she never wanted to do with me. and i mean, the marriage thing is forgotten. Makes me feel like a total idiot, we were together for like half a year, she always told me, that she wanted to be with me for the rest of her life and bla bla bla.... ah, the worst part, i know this guy, and i dont really like him.. i could kill someone :mad:
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Fck dude that's terrible. How do you know she really is doing all that stuff? Maybe she is just saying that to hurt to? Or if someone else told you, maybe they just want to hurt to?
 
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