Immigrating to the UK

AstroTurf said:
14 days before my wife leaves.

I have had a tension headache since last week and my wife is climbing the walls with trepidation.

My 9yo son is mostly himself but has long conversations with everyone but me about how he feels about all this, hopefully that changes when my wife has left as it is either me or his sister and at the moment they have a bit of a feud going on (again I believe it is 90% due to their stress and uncertainty over the whole situation).

My 15yo daughter has gone quiet, much less long explanations of her day at school and friends shenanigans, goes to her room and keeps herself to herself, teenage angst distilled.

It feels like a mix between going on a holiday excitement I felt as a child, getting onto a tall building and looking over the edge, going out to sea and not being able to swim back, and of course sorrow/separation anxiety.

14 days from now will be like a small death but yes, then things at least get started.
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How long after wife leaves are you and kids expecting to come over?
 
AdrianH said:
How long after wife leaves are you and kids expecting to come over?
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depends on how things go up there for her, best case scenario is before Sept, expected I will be there by April but no solid date set as yet.
 
AstroTurf said:
depends on how things go up there for her, best case scenario is before Sept, expected I will be there by April but no solid date set as yet.
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April for the kids and myself if I get a workers visa by then but a few things still standing in the way of that.
If I go via spousal visa at least 6 months after she is earning enough before she can sponsor me.
 
AstroTurf said:
14 days before my wife leaves.

I have had a tension headache since last week and my wife is climbing the walls with trepidation.

My 9yo son is mostly himself but has long conversations with everyone but me about how he feels about all this, hopefully that changes when my wife has left as it is either me or his sister and at the moment they have a bit of a feud going on (again I believe it is 90% due to their stress and uncertainty over the whole situation).

My 15yo daughter has gone quiet, much less long explanations of her day at school and friends shenanigans, goes to her room and keeps herself to herself, teenage angst distilled.

It feels like a mix between going on a holiday excitement I felt as a child, getting onto a tall building and looking over the edge, going out to sea and not being able to swim back, and of course sorrow/separation anxiety.

14 days from now will be like a small death but yes, then things at least get started.
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It’s not an easy journey. All our paths are just varying degrees of difficult with bumps all along the way.

Good luck, together you’ll pull it off and be thankful for growth it brings.
 
Definitely not an easy journey. My wife is struggling with it too. But I have to keep reminding her of the reasons why we are doing this.

But stress levels are high. We have until Mid July to have everything sorted - or I'll need to find a place to rent locally. With the animals.

So fully understand how tough it is and how taxing it can be. I just have to hope it all works out.
 
Yea we will make it work.

For me it is for the journey and experience, visited a few other countries but never lived in one, would love to be in a place that is safer for my children and where when my children grow up they have options.

I also miss walking around and exploring new places, here when I do so I'm so busy looking for threats I forget to enjoy the walk.
 
AstroTurf said:
Yea we will make it work.

For me it is for the journey and experience, visited a few other countries but never lived in one, would love to be in a place that is safer for my children and where when my children grow up they have options.

I also miss walking around and exploring new places, here when I do so I'm so busy looking for threats I forget to enjoy the walk.
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Same here - looking forward to just going about our business in public and not worrying about anything. And for our son to not be denied any opportunities due to the pigment of his skin color.
 
Priapus said:
We're considering more and more of sending the wife to the UK end of May to look for a place for us. Ideally we need to have a place sorted by middle of July. Trying to secure from SA is rather tough.
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That's what we did when we moved, although we had secured a place via an agent. We still needed to rent a 2nd place for her in the city for when she is on call, and she needed to be there in person for that. Currently looking for a place that ticks all the boxes that we can rent once the 2 leases expire.
 
theratman said:
That's what we did when we moved, although we had secured a place via an agent. We still needed to rent a 2nd place for her in the city for when she is on call, and she needed to be there in person for that. Currently looking for a place that ticks all the boxes that we can rent once the 2 leases expire.
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A family member has offered up a room for my wife if she needs to go over first. So that will save us a lot of money and hassle at least.

The place we viewed this morning is literally perfect for us. But I have my doubts we will be able to secure it - just letting it play out though, all they can do is say no and we move on to the next one.
 
AstroTurf said:
Yea we will make it work.

For me it is for the journey and experience, visited a few other countries but never lived in one, would love to be in a place that is safer for my children and where when my children grow up they have options.

I also miss walking around and exploring new places, here when I do so I'm so busy looking for threats I forget to enjoy the walk.
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You forgetting the best thing - Amazon same/next day deliveries :laugh:
 
Sinbad said:
lol amazon

2024 so far, 52 orders
2023: 199
2022: 185
2021: 150

god the amount of cardboard...
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My man!

I'm on 53 orders since I landed here in Aug 2023...totalling about...good gods no I actually don't want to do that sum
 
Sinbad said:
lol amazon

2024 so far, 52 orders
2023: 199
2022: 185
2021: 150

god the amount of cardboard...
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Damn, I need to step up my game:

2024: 43
2023: 128
2022: 52
2021: 48
2020: 59
2019: 29
2018: 26
2017: 22
2016: 6
 
AstroTurf said:
Yea we will make it work.

For me it is for the journey and experience, visited a few other countries but never lived in one, would love to be in a place that is safer for my children and where when my children grow up they have options.

I also miss walking around and exploring new places, here when I do so I'm so busy looking for threats I forget to enjoy the walk.
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You will find all of this and more. I’ve driven my kids to school twice. It’s just not a norm to drive kids around. This demonstrates both safety and freedom. Kids also get to work as teens which is fantastic for them. The way schools are structured and geared to feed into unis is reassuring.

Exploring is something else. Walking is huge here and land is kept open for this. You can walk or bike the island south to north and west to east. Sometimes trails may look a little dodge but that’s just your old thinking, haven’t actually come across actual dodgyness yet. Yet :) .
Absolutely beautiful country with an incredible amount to see and do if you are so inclined.

And when you get bored, you start heading to the continent which is mostly cheaper to visit based on info my colleagues have shared.
 
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