Interracial Dating - Advice Needed

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Epilepticus

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So hello

I have a lovely GF, we're students...

Of different races and I have picked up some frowns mostly from other white people.

What's the big deal... I don't get it. :mad:

My chick is beautiful, :love: (No pictures sorry:whistling:.)

We're like best friends and the lasting type of love thing.

I'm just curious to the thought process of these people and why they feel upset about a white guy dating a beautiful coloured girl?:confused:
 
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FNfal

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Jaa it is not cool and down right annoying .
I married a lady of another race and i get stares mainly from older white women and older white men .
Some times it pisses me off and i feel like asking them WTF is their problem.
To me they are just bigots and can go fsck them selves.
 
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Xino_sam

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You will just have to grow a thick skin, for me it was the following: If the two of you are comfortable with each other and do not have any problem with it, the foundation is laid, next if the your families don't have any issues with it - screw the rest of the people who want to "frown" on it. Yes, there might be in or two of the family members you are not OK with it, but they just have to accept your happiness....
 
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I stare when there are babies.... Dear spaghetti monster mixed couples make pretty babies. :eek:
And mostly I look at the parents because neither of them seemed to have had anything to do with the pretty baby. ( meaning neither of you are as pretty as the little one :p)

I also stare at people. Because I do. Human nature is a fascinating thing.

When you have a coffee stain on your shirt, you suddenly feel everybody is looking at it! Guess what they are not.
( not saying it is a stain, saying when you feel aware of something you feel other people see it as well.)
 
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Mila said:
When you have a coffee stain on your shirt, you suddenly feel everybody is looking at it!
Click to expand...

Well you gave your opinion there hey :D

/runs

/pops back in ... Yeah, twisting your words there :p


<opinion> You shouldn't care what other people think. It's none of their business.
 
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If you are happy, nothing else should matter, right? I met a beautiful girl online. I couldn't remember her ethnicity as it was a couple of years ago. I showed her picture to one of my friends and the first thing he said was "She's not white though". I gave him a stare and ignored him for the rest of the night.

I don't see anything wrong with it. The white folk of South Africa are still very conservative.

I have an issue now where I quite fancy a Muslim girl at work. I have a couple of issues though.
1. I'm damn shy
2. Muslim parents are quite strict aren't they? As a Christian she might not be allowed to date me.
3. I'm so damn shy.
4. FML
 
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My best friend in school was a black guy. Naturally people thought we were dating and we got a lot of ugly comments from random older black people in the street :(
 
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I am surprised this is still an issue in SA. I have been married now for close to 14 years to a lovely coloured person. Yes 14 years ago got a lot of stares especially in centurion (old verwoerdburg). But honestly there are so many mixed couples nowadays, that I am sure it is becoming normal (as it should be)
 
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Plain and simple - people are racists. And not just white people.

I belive part of the racism stems from being around your own race most of the time. You are used to your own culture, habbits, and even grow expectant of certain physical features (straight hair for example.)

When seeing other races, the person belives them to be inferior, as they don't have the features the person's used to. Therefore looking down on anybody choosing to be romantic with them.

Harmless though, because really who gives a fsck about people's opinion in that circumstance?
 
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Been married for five years and I must admit the stares have decreased. Funny thing happened once. This lady finds out that a friend of my wife has a coloured husband. Woman goes to my wife and says did you know blah blah. My wife checks the time on her phone with a pic of us as a background. Game over. Haha. Woman felt so stupid that she was stuck in the past. The stares have just made as care even less of what people think. There are many that don't give a damn as well so don't stress.
 
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Everyone is going to be a shade of brown in 1000 years time - end of racism :D
 
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