Is she cheating????

Keep in mind you have to let go of your anger NOW before you decide what to do.
Stop this i'll expose the cheatin **** etc etc. Relax go to the toilet and flush the anger, you'll get nothing done that way. The type of chats that they are having goes overboard to say the least, its enough for a breakup without them having to sleep together. But from the chats its highly unlikely that they haven't slept together or "made-out"

Relax about it dont print the emails, trust me it'll just drive you insane. Tell her nicely that she talks to this man in a sexual way and unfortunatly you are going to leave cuz you wont stand for this, do all this in a very very calm way then say thx for the good times, treat her like a lady not a ****... she will start going crazy, pay no attention to this dont scream dont shout, make sure everything is ready, take your keys and go! Go hang with friends for a while to get ur mind of and have a beer(DONT GET DRUNK!!!), do this for a few days cuz you'll have to get rid of that hurt or else ur gonna run back... its like addiction you get messed up if you just quit your "fix", dont rush to other woman either... take ur time.

Good luck :o
 
Sounds like a skank... I wouldn't bother trying to save anything... email the letters to her cousin... :)
 
Vegeta said:
Keep in mind you have to let go of your anger NOW before you decide what to do.
Stop this i'll expose the cheatin **** etc etc. Relax go to the toilet and flush the anger, you'll get nothing done that way. The type of chats that they are having goes overboard to say the least, its enough for a breakup without them having to sleep together. But from the chats its highly unlikely that they haven't slept together or "made-out"

Relax about it dont print the emails, trust me it'll just drive you insane. Tell her nicely that she talks to this man in a sexual way and unfortunatly you are going to leave cuz you wont stand for this, do all this in a very very calm way then say thx for the good times, treat her like a lady not a ****... she will start going crazy, pay no attention to this dont scream dont shout, make sure everything is ready, take your keys and go! Go hang with friends for a while to get ur mind of and have a beer(DONT GET DRUNK!!!), do this for a few days cuz you'll have to get rid of that hurt or else ur gonna run back... its like addiction you get messed up if you just quit your "fix", dont rush to other woman either... take ur time.

Good luck :o
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This man speaks the truth.

Whatever you do, DO NOT GET DRUNK. Don't yell at her, or call her names, don't even show her anger. I think the only emotions to display on your behalf should be hurt and disappointment. Trust me, that will hurt her more than any yelling or name calling. Tell her you are done, and leave. End of story.
 
Be a man and deal with it, I'll make it easy for you.

Option 1. TALK to her, sort out your differences, move on, be happy.
Option 2. Don't take that kind of *****, throw her out, move on, be happy.
 
Once you have this question "Is she cheating", then you probably know the answer to that. You can always find someone better man. Love is overrated anyway.

How old are both of you anyway?
 
Dude, if you treated her badly, and she was unhappy, she should have spoken to you and if that didn't help, she should have left you. I can't believe that people have affairs, etc because they are unhappy with their current partner...WTF? If you are unhappy, leave... don't cause more shyte.

A girl that flirts with other guys, etc to try to manipulate you isn't someone that you should stay with... Manipulative chicks are the worst!
 
Killove said:
ok then why dont you phone your cousins sister and ask if she knows about him wanting to father your gfs child and make love to her? Seriously thats not on.
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Thats an option to consider, I suppose I still need more proof, right?

The_Librarian said:
You gave her a chance before to stop it, and she didn't.

She'll keep on doing the same, and this relationship won't work out in future.

Best to break up with her, remain friends, and find another girl. And this time don't neglect her!
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She says that she will continue having such chats (email/phone calls) up until I treat her right.:(

Sly21C said:
I understand what she is trying to do, she's trying to make you jealous like you said and the fact that she lets you read the emails and is not hiding it from you proves her point that she wants you to be very jealous and she just wants you to step up to the plate. I think you should really talk to her, ask her to tell you in detail how she would like to be treated by you, what should you do for her so she can stop flirting with that other guy. That's what you should do.
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We did sit down and she told me all the stuff I was doing wrong. We agreed that I need to make it up to her and I have been treating her like a Godess. But only up until I see one of these emails/ sms/ phonecalls. Then I would snap - it's like whenever I do that I push her right straight into this guy's arms.:mad:

xrapidx said:
Sounds like a skank... I wouldn't bother trying to save anything... email the letters to her cousin... :)
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I am angry, bitter, etc etc, so I may also just as well play dirty:eek:
 
Its not really playing dirty - its not exactly fair on her cousin either.
 
greg_SA said:
Dude, if you treated her badly, and she was unhappy, she should have spoken to you and if that didn't help, she should have left you. I can't believe that people have affairs, etc because they are unhappy with their current partner...WTF? If you are unhappy, leave... don't cause more shyte.

A girl that flirts with other guys, etc to try to manipulate you isn't someone that you should stay with... Manipulative chicks are the worst!
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There was a time where by she wanted me to pop the question so bad. I felt so under preassure, she would talk about the "M" word so often and I just couldnt take it anymore. I guess this is what triggered the "silent treatment". I know for the fact that we 'used' to be so in love. She was more like a wife to me. But I just wasnt ready to make such a commitment.

But I cant explain why she would "flirt" like this:confused:

Natas said:
Kill them both.... Kill them both to death....
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I did think about that..... but hey, I Love Myself so much man to do such a stooooopid thing.:cool:
 
CheesB said:
She says that she will continue having such chats (email/phone calls) up until I treat her right.:(
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The way she is handling this situation says a lot about her character...

Why would you even want to sort things out with her if this is the way she handles things... She obviously doesn't really love you...

Whats going to happen in the future when she doesn't get her way? More manipulation?

Dude, move on!
 
hate to say it, but it sounds like the relationship is over..
havent read the entire thread, only first few posts, but leading or flirting or talking sexual with somebody else, doesnt make up for being neglected, i say get over her and move on :)
 
CheesB said:
There was a time where by she wanted me to pop the question so bad. I felt so under preassure, she would talk about the "M" word so often and I just couldnt take it anymore. I guess this is what triggered the "silent treatment". I know for the fact that we 'used' to be so in love. She was more like a wife to me. But I just wasnt ready to make such a commitment.

But I cant explain why she would "flirt" like this:confused:



I did think about that..... but hey, I Love Myself so much man to do such a stooooopid thing.:cool:
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She will do this even when you guys are married, she will manipulate you 10 years from now, she will do it 15 years from now and when you guys are at the age of 70 or over 70 years of age, she will send and receive email and phone calls if she is angry with you (I'm guesing in future we will have mental telepathy or something more sophisticated to communicate instead of the internet and emails). Do yourself a favour and leave her, I know it's not easy (It happened to me before, not the exact situation as yours but similar as far as manipulation is concerned) but I left her and now I'm happy.

Someone here in one of these posts said that women who manipulate men if they (women) don't get what they want are the worst, I couldn't agree with that person more. They (manipulative women) are the ones who will sleep with another guy and let you find out, when you confront them, they will blame you because you didn't do what they wanted you to do and they won't regret doing it (sleeping with another guy). Those types of women (manipulative women) are the most selfish women you'll ever come across, they only care about themselves and not your feelings, so my brother you will be hurt for life if you continue the relationship.
 
CheesB said:
Hi guys, I am new here, HELLO:cool:

Anyway, I have a serious problem, my 3 years relationship is on the rocks (I think). I think my girlfriend is screwing her cousin sister’s boyfriend.
.....So, what should I do guys??????????
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Do likewise with the cousin's sister.

P.S. Is this a hillbilly family?
Not that there's anything wrong with that...
 
alf101 said:
Do likewise with the cousin's sister.

P.S. Is this a hillbilly family?
Not that there's anything wrong with that...
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Both the cousin-sister and her boyfriend live in Gauteng (one suburb). My GF and I are also from Gauteng. I live 20-30min drive from the cousin-sister and her boyfriend. But my GF is farther (like 90min drive). Both of us (my GF and I) only go to Gauteng like 2-4 times in a year.

Hhhhhmmmm, since I have nothing to loose, I really wanna get even! Wouldnt it be nice to screw both her cousin sisters? (she has 2). First I tell her how her man is cheating with my GF then .....:eek::eek:
 
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