CheesB
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Hi guys, I am new here, HELLO
Anyway, I have a serious problem, my 3 years relationship is on the rocks (I think). I think my girlfriend is screwing her cousin sister’s boyfriend.
Ok, I have not been really a great BF, but I try, let’s just say I treated her so bad (just mistreating her, not respecting her, etc - which I regret a lot and I did apologise to). Basically I kind of neglected her (I guess I just needed some time off - wasn't cheating or anything).
So, recently (for the past 6 months) I started suspecting that she may be cheating. She started getting some long phone calls, forever giggling on the phone at night/ morning/ basically anytime. I approached her, she told me that this guy was her cousin sister's boyfriend - and he has a child with this cousin. Right.
However, why so many calls at such odd hours I asked? She said since I was neglecting her, she wanted somebody to chat to. RIGHT!
Then I started to see some really weird sms's in her phone from this guy (we don’t hide our phones, etc). Some of the messages were so disturbing, like "he want to father her child" some romantic messages, how he misses her etc and many more of those.
Right, one day she asked me to check something for her in her emails and print some stuff for her. I regret that day! So, after I logged in her emails, I suddenly found some emails from this guy. The guy had bought my girlfriend a return flight ticket. Well, my GF was supposed to go back to her place and I knew about that. Just that I obviously had no idea that this guy will be paying for the trip. This is where I also saw more of those romantic messages that I can’t even type here (heart breaking
).
So, I approached her. We had a huge fallout. After arguing up a "storm", she said that she was only doing this to make me jealous/ to punish me/ all because I had neglected and mistreated her! She also told me that how on earth can she go out with her cousin-sister's boyfriend?
Well, I bought it, but I asked her that there's no need to do so anymore. I learnt my lesson and I wanna start afresh. We agreed that no more those long phone calls/ no more 'flirting' or making me jealous with this guy. And we agreed.
But things never really changed. She still get those calls (though not as much as before), but here is the heart breaking thing, the emails have since worsened! The guy tells her about fathering her child, about wanting to get her a medical aid in preparation for the child. How he misses her etc etc. He even talks about how he would like to make love to her, touch her, kiss her, etc etc.
I was really heart broken when I also learned that my GF leads him on. Like there is this email that they were discussing right, so the guy was on about how he would like to touch her, kiss her, etc etc. My GF would respond like "after you touch me what next" and the guy will go on. (So it’s like they were doing some "phone s@x" or something". My GF even responded by saying "man you are really turning me on" to one of the messages. The way I see these emails it seems like these people have slept together or something, don’t know, really but that’s how I feel.
At the same time, I know my GF, how can she possibly go out with her cousin-sister's man? I mean my GF's family knows this guy, he's now like family to them. SO how does my GF also fall for him??? What about her cousin-sister then!!!
I really don’t know what to believe here, what I see on these emails or what she tells me?
My mind and heart tells me that she can’t do that, but the evidence (emails/ sms's) says otherwise.
I really don’t wanna confront her anymore about this. What should I do, gather these "evidence" (if I can call it that) and do what later?
I really love this woman (yes I know I should not be saying it) but that is how I feel about her and I would really like to make her my wife one day.
So, what should I do guys??????????
Anyway, I have a serious problem, my 3 years relationship is on the rocks (I think). I think my girlfriend is screwing her cousin sister’s boyfriend.
Ok, I have not been really a great BF, but I try, let’s just say I treated her so bad (just mistreating her, not respecting her, etc - which I regret a lot and I did apologise to). Basically I kind of neglected her (I guess I just needed some time off - wasn't cheating or anything).
So, recently (for the past 6 months) I started suspecting that she may be cheating. She started getting some long phone calls, forever giggling on the phone at night/ morning/ basically anytime. I approached her, she told me that this guy was her cousin sister's boyfriend - and he has a child with this cousin. Right.
However, why so many calls at such odd hours I asked? She said since I was neglecting her, she wanted somebody to chat to. RIGHT!
Then I started to see some really weird sms's in her phone from this guy (we don’t hide our phones, etc). Some of the messages were so disturbing, like "he want to father her child" some romantic messages, how he misses her etc and many more of those.
Right, one day she asked me to check something for her in her emails and print some stuff for her. I regret that day! So, after I logged in her emails, I suddenly found some emails from this guy. The guy had bought my girlfriend a return flight ticket. Well, my GF was supposed to go back to her place and I knew about that. Just that I obviously had no idea that this guy will be paying for the trip. This is where I also saw more of those romantic messages that I can’t even type here (heart breaking
).So, I approached her. We had a huge fallout. After arguing up a "storm", she said that she was only doing this to make me jealous/ to punish me/ all because I had neglected and mistreated her! She also told me that how on earth can she go out with her cousin-sister's boyfriend?
Well, I bought it, but I asked her that there's no need to do so anymore. I learnt my lesson and I wanna start afresh. We agreed that no more those long phone calls/ no more 'flirting' or making me jealous with this guy. And we agreed.
But things never really changed. She still get those calls (though not as much as before), but here is the heart breaking thing, the emails have since worsened! The guy tells her about fathering her child, about wanting to get her a medical aid in preparation for the child. How he misses her etc etc. He even talks about how he would like to make love to her, touch her, kiss her, etc etc.
I was really heart broken when I also learned that my GF leads him on. Like there is this email that they were discussing right, so the guy was on about how he would like to touch her, kiss her, etc etc. My GF would respond like "after you touch me what next" and the guy will go on. (So it’s like they were doing some "phone s@x" or something". My GF even responded by saying "man you are really turning me on" to one of the messages. The way I see these emails it seems like these people have slept together or something, don’t know, really but that’s how I feel.
At the same time, I know my GF, how can she possibly go out with her cousin-sister's man? I mean my GF's family knows this guy, he's now like family to them. SO how does my GF also fall for him??? What about her cousin-sister then!!!
I really don’t know what to believe here, what I see on these emails or what she tells me?
My mind and heart tells me that she can’t do that, but the evidence (emails/ sms's) says otherwise.
I really don’t wanna confront her anymore about this. What should I do, gather these "evidence" (if I can call it that) and do what later?
I really love this woman (yes I know I should not be saying it) but that is how I feel about her and I would really like to make her my wife one day.
So, what should I do guys??????????
in which case, maybe she'll come running back.
I'm happy for her, because I've met BETTER after her.
