wcoetzee
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Vroumense is snaakse goed,
laat los!
As hulle koppe uithaak raak hulle deurmekaar en hou nie opie!
laat los!
As hulle koppe uithaak raak hulle deurmekaar en hou nie opie!
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Is she cheating????
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dude seriously.
why dont you cut it off at the source? i.e phone him and find out.
flirting is cheatings ugly cousin, and from exp and what you've written, im sorry to say but she is definitely going to town on this guy.
leave the bitch
why dont you cut it off at the source? i.e phone him and find out.
flirting is cheatings ugly cousin, and from exp and what you've written, im sorry to say but she is definitely going to town on this guy.
leave the bitch
CheesB
Member
Thats her Mom's sister's daughter. They call each other "sisters".
Yes, and the boyfriend has a child with this "sister" and the folks know about it.
Duuuude i'm going to talk from experience, i've been with my GF for 6years we are airtight! But that sheat would have me out tha door faster than you can say "Cousin's sister's boyfriend"
There is NOTHING to save at all only reason to stay would be if she was suuuuuper rich and she's a huge suga-mommie & goes bout buying you cars and stuff and looks like a super model even then i'd grab what i can, keys to cars expensive toys/gadgets and RUN!! THE FSUK AWAY FAR AWAY
Shes a cheating little *&^&^ and you're a little biatch for treating her like sheat!
By treating her bad I meant, snapping at her at no apparent reason, being moody, wanting my own space, not being there for her, etc. It happened for just about a couple of months (6 the max). But I stayed loyal to her never even considered cheating. So she wanted to make me feel the same way which I understand, but this flirting or is it screwing is something totally different!!!
Well, since they only see one another like twice or thrice in a year so I suppose I can still try to make it work/ or not. Maybe I should just go even and expose these two cheating b@stards!!! I mean, why not print out all these steamy conversations and mail them to their folks (including the cousin-sister)? If she is really cheating, I guess I have nothing to loose do I? I cant just sit around while this woman is playing me like this can I? Am I being unfair?
What should I do????
CheesB
Member
ok then why dont you phone your cousins sister and ask if she knows about him wanting to father your gfs child and make love to her?
seriously thats not on.
pm me your name, my gf knows everyone in pmb, might be able to get some inside info
seriously thats not on.
pm me your name, my gf knows everyone in pmb, might be able to get some inside info
medicnick83
Paramedic
lol @ killove 
haha. nice one! haha.
Misses Facebook!
haha. nice one! haha.Misses Facebook!
Moederloos
Honorary Master
medicnick83
Paramedic
Everyone is allowed to make mistakes, but everyone is also be allowed a change to correct that mistake, in essence, be given a '2nd chance' as it were.
Ahh, but she doesn't know me...
And I...
Am the Cousin-Sister-Boyfriend! *cue dramatic music*
Seriously dude. If you talked to her about it, and wanted to start fresh, and she is continuing with the guy, leave the bitch. You've been an ass, too, it seems. But even so, if she isn't mature enough to talk to you about it, and instead plays petty little games, she is not worth the effort.
The_Unbeliever
Honorary Master
You gave her a chance before to stop it, and she didn't.
She'll keep on doing the same, and this relationship won't work out in future.
Best to break up with her, remain friends, and find another girl. And this time don't neglect her!
She'll keep on doing the same, and this relationship won't work out in future.
Best to break up with her, remain friends, and find another girl. And this time don't neglect her!
chiskop
Executive Member
Of course you get a second chance. Its a chance to fix the mistakes you made the first time round - those mistakes may include neglecting her, or her herself.
Yes. Best of luck, its not going to be easy. Your love will could your vision. Be strong. You can only listen to your heart for so long (its actually very long), then your brain will kick in.
And just for the record, even after it was explained. A cousins sister, is still a cousin! I'm not even going to try and work it out.
And just for the record, even after it was explained. A cousins sister, is still a cousin! I'm not even going to try and work it out.
medicnick83
Paramedic
Didn't I start a thread about "having EX's as friends" clearly didn't work?
Didn't we agree that's its better to have a complete break and move on?
Aiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii Lib!
Pitbull
Verboten
Just kick her out of your house. Nuff said !
Agreed.
Time to kick her to the curb and move on. Otherwise, you're just looking at a very painful lesson in futility.
Reminds me of a line from the movie 28 Days - ". . .the definition of insanity is repeating the same behaviour over and over again, expecting different results."
Reminds me of a line from the movie 28 Days - ". . .the definition of insanity is repeating the same behaviour over and over again, expecting different results."
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Ady
Expert Member
Yup, as hard as it is tell her to pack her **** and go.
The_Unbeliever
Honorary Master
Agreed, and agreed. You'll regret it later if you don't do it.
Case in point - my brother in law dated a girl - but she won't let go of her father. Everything they did, she had to consult with "daddy" first. Eventually he broke up with her - and he's glad he did. Because that relationship just won't work out.
Can you imagine you want to paint your house, or do some work on the house, and wife have to consult with her father first? Bleh.
Hi guys, I am new here, HELLO
Anyway, I have a serious problem, my 3 years relationship is on the rocks (I think). I think my girlfriend is screwing her cousin sister’s boyfriend.
Ok, I have not been really a great BF, but I try, let’s just say I treated her so bad (just mistreating her, not respecting her, etc - which I regret a lot and I did apologise to). Basically I kind of neglected her (I guess I just needed some time off - wasn't cheating or anything).
So, recently (for the past 6 months) I started suspecting that she may be cheating. She started getting some long phone calls, forever giggling on the phone at night/ morning/ basically anytime. I approached her, she told me that this guy was her cousin sister's boyfriend - and he has a child with this cousin. Right.
However, why so many calls at such odd hours I asked? She said since I was neglecting her, she wanted somebody to chat to. RIGHT!
Then I started to see some really weird sms's in her phone from this guy (we don’t hide our phones, etc). Some of the messages were so disturbing, like "he want to father her child" some romantic messages, how he misses her etc and many more of those.
Right, one day she asked me to check something for her in her emails and print some stuff for her. I regret that day! So, after I logged in her emails, I suddenly found some emails from this guy. The guy had bought my girlfriend a return flight ticket. Well, my GF was supposed to go back to her place and I knew about that. Just that I obviously had no idea that this guy will be paying for the trip. This is where I also saw more of those romantic messages that I can’t even type here (heart breaking).
So, I approached her. We had a huge fallout. After arguing up a "storm", she said that she was only doing this to make me jealous/ to punish me/ all because I had neglected and mistreated her! She also told me that how on earth can she go out with her cousin-sister's boyfriend?
Well, I bought it, but I asked her that there's no need to do so anymore. I learnt my lesson and I wanna start afresh. We agreed that no more those long phone calls/ no more 'flirting' or making me jealous with this guy. And we agreed.
But things never really changed. She still get those calls (though not as much as before), but here is the heart breaking thing, the emails have since worsened! The guy tells her about fathering her child, about wanting to get her a medical aid in preparation for the child. How he misses her etc etc. He even talks about how he would like to make love to her, touch her, kiss her, etc etc.
I was really heart broken when I also learned that my GF leads him on. Like there is this email that they were discussing right, so the guy was on about how he would like to touch her, kiss her, etc etc. My GF would respond like "after you touch me what next" and the guy will go on. (So it’s like they were doing some "phone s@x" or something". My GF even responded by saying "man you are really turning me on" to one of the messages. The way I see these emails it seems like these people have slept together or something, don’t know, really but that’s how I feel.
At the same time, I know my GF, how can she possibly go out with her cousin-sister's man? I mean my GF's family knows this guy, he's now like family to them. SO how does my GF also fall for him??? What about her cousin-sister then!!!
I really don’t know what to believe here, what I see on these emails or what she tells me?
My mind and heart tells me that she can’t do that, but the evidence (emails/ sms's) says otherwise.
I really don’t wanna confront her anymore about this. What should I do, gather these "evidence" (if I can call it that) and do what later?
I really love this woman (yes I know I should not be saying it) but that is how I feel about her and I would really like to make her my wife one day.
So, what should I do guys??????????
I understand what she is trying to do, she's trying to make you jealous like you said and the fact that she lets you read the emails and is not hiding it from you proves her point that she wants you to be very jealous and she just wants you to step up to the plate. I think you should really talk to her, ask her to tell you in detail how she would like to be treated by you, what should you do for her so she can stop flirting with that other guy. That's what you should do.
As for me, i have too much pride (foolish) and i hold grudges and so i would have dumped her the minute i was the first email, and in my mind i would have called her a f###ing b###h.
Cousin's sister...is her cousin...