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crysis said:
Talk foreign to them. They love it when you talk foreign , henrik.
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This thread is not about "chatting up ladies", but rather to have good friendship with them without them getting uncomfortable.

Cause, it seems there are a lot of dicks out there spoiling it for the rest of us....
 
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Good.Fellow said:
This thread is not about "chatting up ladies", but rather to have good friendship with them without them getting uncomfortable.

Cause, it seems there are a lot of dicks out there spoiling it for the rest of us....
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When I'm confused by a poster it generally means the poster is actually confused.

So, what you're actually getting at is how do you make friends with women without them feeling as though you're trying to get into their pants.

Same way you make friends with guys.

If you're thinking of hanging out with them outside of work... Don't.
 
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Nick333 said:
When I'm confused by a poster it generally means the poster is actually confused.

So, what you're actually getting at is how do you make friends with women without them feeling as though you're trying to get into their pants.

Same way you make friends with guys.

If you're thinking of hanging out with them outside of work... Don't.
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Exactly, and its a minefield. :(
 
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As a rule of thumb: friendships with people of the opposite sex you had before meeting your SO are something your SO has to deal with. Friendships with people of the opposite sex after you got together with your SO is something you need to make damn sure your SO is comfortable with. Although, only to a degree. If they are completely unreasonable about it, that's their problem to deal with.

Just remember jealous and cheating are real things. Going for a burger with a lady friend from work without telling your wife is a recipe for disaster. Your "why should I tell her" attitude makes me think you should question your motives.

Out of interest how would you feel if your wife was palling around with some guy from work and you didn't know about it?
 
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Why do you want to become friends with women at work? I can understand acquaintances prior to your marriage, but why afterwards?
 
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Good.Fellow said:
Hey peeps!

Just a quick question and perhaps we can get a discussion going...

I have a few lady friends at work that I really want to keep just friends. I also want these friendships to go deeper but with no hanky panky.

What is the best way to go about this. Also what is the best conversation starters and conversation continuums that will keep these ladies liking me with out it getting complicated?
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This is the most IDIOTIC idea I've read about in a long time!

OP? Are you 12 years old? You certainly sound like you have that mentality.
 
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I get what you're talking about. My nearest colleagues are all female, and it never goes beyond a certain line. It's just about setting boundaries in your conversation I think. Try not to make jokes or comments of a certain nature; talk about your home life frequently and positively; and don't get physical in a playful way. If you get a sense that it's still managed to cross over a boundary, then just back off.
 
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Good.Fellow said:
Why on earth would wanting to have female friends be IDIOTIC?
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Well generally people progress to friendship naturally. Wanting female friends is by no means idiotic, its your IDEA of how you ask advice about it on a forum that is.

See the bolded part? You even sound desperate without even trying.
 
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cerebus said:
I get what you're talking about. My nearest colleagues are all female, and it never goes beyond a certain line. It's just about setting boundaries in your conversation I think. Try not to make jokes or comments of a certain nature; talk about your home life frequently and positively; and don't get physical in a playful way. If you get a sense that it's still managed to cross over a boundary, then just back off.
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Thanks, good advice.
 
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Someone's bound to say it so here goes, you can only be their friend if they're not hot :p
 
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If you really want to be friends with them then you talk about the same stuff you would talk to anyone about. Ask them how their weekend was etc and keep it light. No matter what it shouldnt be more than an arb chat with a colleague, if you want to be best buddies then you need to find out how your wife feels about it, she should always be your no 1 priority.
 
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