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Why can't you compare the 2 kinds of love?

Not everyone has money for a wedding, so your telling me someone who is married loves their partners more than 2 people living together because they cannot afford a wedding?

Rubbish man
 
killadoob said:
Wish my Fiancee would give out the "love" more often though :p

The minute you commit to a chick, your sex life goes for a ball of shyte.
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Yup .. I've heard this :(

I wonder what the reasoning is?
 
blunomore said:
If you think that people will only say "he loved her a hell of a lot" if you were married to her, then you miss the essence of love (in my opinion, of course).

Love is not about the OUTSIDE, it is not about the VEHICLE you choose for your relationship, it is not about the MANIFESTATIONS it takes. Love is kindness and compassion, in whatever form.
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hehe... I would say the same thing about you. Your definition is incomplete.

"Love is sacrificially desiring the benefit and happiness of the other person or object."

If I truly loved her, it would not matter where, how, when (in that you are correct)... it would only matter that she felt loved and happy in my love for her.

To me... the best way I can prove that... is through the ultimate sacrifice... being not only willing to die for her... but even more... being willing to live for her... forever and as long as I can.
 
killadoob said:
Why can't you compare the 2 kinds of love?

Not everyone has money for a wedding, so your telling me someone who is married loves their partners more than 2 people living together because they cannot afford a wedding?

Rubbish man
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No, my lamb, if you get married in front of a magistrate, it costs you nothin'.
 
Dolby said:
Yup .. I've heard this :(

I wonder what the reasoning is?
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Well obviously you get cases that are not like this, but most of the time sex becomes like washing the dishes to a chick.

Its like you have to make deals to get sex, once your committed females lose their libido for some odd reason.

I cannot explain why, but damn its depressing when you start feeling like sex is a chore.

Yes i know bluno is going to say, you should try harder, do different things blah blah :) but you need a willing partner :)



Bluno getting married in Court just seems kinda kuk to me :).

Although you can get married and throw a huge spit braai :p
 
killadoob said:
Why can't you compare the 2 kinds of love?

Not everyone has money for a wedding, so your telling me someone who is married loves their partners more than 2 people living together because they cannot afford a wedding?

Rubbish man
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money would never stand in the way.

It does not have to be a huge wedding.

I have seen small private weddings and huge lavish weddings...

and I have seen good and bad come from both.

If you don't want to get married or stand in front of people... that is fine... that is your choice.

I chose to give my wife the assurance..

1) That I love her enough to make a commitment to her
2) That my commitment is lifelong
3) That I have taken steps to provide for her and my kids
4) That I care about them physically, emotionally and spiritually
5) That I am very serious about our relationship taking steps to understand her needs, her likes, my own shortcomings and failures, and the things I can do to make our relationship stronger, and that I will never take anything for granted.
 
Garyvdh said:
hehe... I would say the same thing about you. Your definition is incomplete.

"Love is sacrificially desiring the benefit and happiness of the other person or object."

If I truly loved her, it would not matter where, how, when (in that you are correct)... it would only matter that she felt loved and happy in my love for her.

To me... the best way I can prove that... is through the ultimate sacrifice... being not only willing to die for her... but even more... being willing to live for her... forever and as long as I can.
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YES!!!! Totally agree! :D

But you don't have to get married to prove that. :p
 
Gary you seem very intune with your emotions, lemme ask you a question.

Do you think sex has alot to with a relationship? Anyone can answer though
 
killadoob said:
Well obviously you get cases that are not like this, but most of the time sex becomes like washing the dishes to a chick.

Its like you have to make deals to get sex, once your committed females lose their libido for some odd reason.

I cannot explain why, but damn its depressing when you start feeling like sex is a chore.

Yes i know bluno is going to say, you should try harder, do different things blah blah :) but you need a willing partner :)


Bluno getting married in Court just seems kinda kuk to me :).

Although you can get married and throw a huge spit braai :p
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You thought I was gonna say that?? :D
 
by the way... I am a Home Affairs Licensed Marriage Officer.

getting married in court... or at home affairs ... takes longer these days (around six months) than getting married in a church or at home.

All you need to get married is...

1) a building (any building as long as it is indoors)
2) a bride and groom (or whatever you want to call them)
3) two witnesses (can be anyone living)
4) a marriage officer or somebody approved by the state
5) two things said by the marriage officer..
a) is there any reason why you can't get married?
b) I pronouce you legally married.

can take five mins if you are ready...

http://www.home-affairs.gov.za/civil_marriage.asp

oh.. and your ID books ;)
 
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killadoob said:
Gary you seem very intune with your emotions, lemme ask you a question.

Do you think sex has alot to with a relationship? Anyone can answer though
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Yes, definitely... it is usually (but not always) a sign of life in the relationship.

Couples can be comfortable enough not to have to have sex (if they both are happy enough to go without it), but they should be willing to do whatever their spouse wants to explore and do.

In other words... it should be discussed and open between them.

They should also take care of their bodies so they are able to have good sex when the other partner wants to.

lots of other things... but you get the idea.
 
Oh... and another thing...

Don't ever let anyone from Home Affairs (or even from any church for that matter) tell you... "it will cost you R1000/R4000/whatever to get married"

Marriage Officers and those licensed/approved by the State to perform marriages are precluded from charging for their services. They can charge for expenses incurred (e.g. petrol to and from the wedding), but they cannot charge for the actual service. The only exception to this is those who were permitted to charge a fee (in the Dutch Reform Chruch) prior to 1983.
 
I thought love was only true in fairytales ... meant for someone else, but not for me ...
 
Divorce lawyers are pro marriage. Not marriage officers.
 
Garyvdh said:
Oh... and another thing...

Don't ever let anyone from Home Affairs (or even from any church for that matter) tell you... "it will cost you R1000/R4000/whatever to get married"

Marriage Officers and those licensed/approved by the State to perform marriages are precluded from charging for their services. They can charge for expenses incurred (e.g. petrol to and from the wedding), but they cannot charge for the actual service. The only exception to this is those who were permitted to charge a fee (in the Dutch Reform Chruch) prior to 1983.
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Gratuities are happily accepted though. :)
 
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