Messed up situation...

Jirrr, imagine getting a good morning kiss and you get cumbreath... and it ain't your even.
Or Hey baby how you doin? pinch a bumcheek, ok let me go wash first, Piet was a bit messy....
Norrafok.
You can say it is healthy and all, but it ain't.
 
Anti-Chris said:
Nope, the idea is to be purely physical, but it is to be expected that some feelings might arise, but our relationship is primary and our partners needs are put first, that was the main reason I ended it immediately when my wife asked. She has also ended her "friendships" previously when I disliked the guy for some reason.
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Then seeing a conversation about "missing" the other funbuddy might be misconstrued as crossing the boundary and she rightly could be feeling hurt

Majority of MyBB certainly has sticks up their monogamous butts it seems
 
saor said:
Imagine your wife was seeing someone. Would you be ok with it? Imaging you were scared of what it might do to your relationship if you objected so you told your wife: "Nah it's cool, you can see Michael." But deep down it hurt you. Now imagine your wife was so oblivious to your pain that she just thought: "Sweet - I can see Michael!"

I'm not saying your wife is lying when she says: "See the girl!". But consider for a sec that maybe for whatever reason she's too scared to say: "You can't see the girl". Put aside for a moment your glee at being given the ok to see the girl and reverse the roles and think about what you honestly would prefer if your wife was seeing another guy.
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Did you read the OP?

She is seeing other guys and has gone so for a long time.

But yes this is all new to her (in a role reversal sense) and probably requires some finesse.
 
PsyWulf said:
Then seeing a conversation about "missing" the other funbuddy might be misconstrued as crossing the boundary and she rightly could be feeling hurt

Majority of MyBB certainly has sticks up their monogamous butts it seems
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100% correct and I realized that when she brought it up.
 
My definition of an open relationship, is to be open and honest with my wife and I expect her to be the same.

When conferences were still a thing, I had more than my fair share of young women flirting with me, to which I would always reply that I am married. Most of them were shocked that I was not interested.
 
wireddreams said:
Your wife bangs a million men over many years and you bang one... Then she's salty about it? Don't allow her to bully you. She never loved you. Pursue this woman who makes you happy and ditch your immoral loose wife.
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How is it immoral if he knows about it?

One would argue only someone who really understands love could do this in the first place.

It’s simply a new experience for her and makes perfect sense that it would take some getting used to for her.

I’m sure the first time for OP wasn’t smooth sailing either, but it was some 18 years ago.
 
rh1 said:
My definition of an open relationship, is to be open and honest with my wife and I expect her to be the same.

When conferences were still a thing, I had more than my fair share of young women flirting with me, to which I would always reply that I am married. Most of them were shocked that I was not interested.
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lmao... Maybe they were shocked that you thought they were interested....
 
Anti-Chris said:
100% correct and I realized that when she brought it up.
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Sweet,okay so we've clarified that portion was warranted
As for the youngling,she's probably not sure how to handle the situation or let you down either so she's busy

You did the right thing by messaging her and letting her know it's fine,leave it now,if she pops up again cool,if not you had a lekker stukkie for a bit,can dip your toes easier next time
 
Now that you broke you dry "strange" spell, fret not. There will be more. Clearly this girl is not interested in this kind of arrangement but others might be. Just give it time.
 
Pak Fa Fui said:
I now of a couple like you. Lots of guys hooked up with her, once one finds out he tells others.
Your wife is feeling old, and you with a younger woman, obviously she would start feeling inadequate, had this happened 10 years ago she wouldn’t care as much.
You should have had your fun whilst she was having her fun.
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Can almost guarantee OP’s wide is pulling guys in their 20’s comfortably.

Whether she bothers to entertain them or not is a different story.
 
SauRoNZA said:
How is it immoral if he knows about it?

One would argue only someone who really understands love could do this in the first place.

It’s simply a new experience for her and makes perfect sense that it would take some getting used to for her.

I’m sure the first time for OP wasn’t smooth sailing either, but it was some 18 years ago.
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You are 100% correct... I also felt insecure and frightened that she was going to leave me for the other guy... Once I realized that she would never leave me for another guy, I actually changed and enjoyed the fact that she was enjoying herself.
 
SlinkyMike said:
So when you replied: "same here" you meant your dick? Your dick missed her? Nah son. You crossed the line there IMO. Not trying to be a d00s just be honest with yourself I guess is what I am trying to say.
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You are right.
 
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