Partner's health issues affecting relationship.

Was she always like this or just as she got older?

Some folks you just don't ask "How are you?" cos you will end up with a long and detailed version of every ache and pain they're currently having o_O
 
Gruntled said:
We've been married for over ten years. We are in our thirties. Wife is a few years older than me and has a few ongoing health problems. I don't want to come across as unsympathetic but it is difficult to be supportive of somebody who is constantly complaining about their health on a daily basis. In fact, it is generally several complaints per day.
Once one issue has been resolved, the next thing seems to come up from various sicknesses to various aches, pains and injuries. We have decent medical aid but it's practically used up for this year with all the doc, physio and pharmacy visits.
I can't help but suspect that she is a bit of a hypochondriac and for whatever reason often thinks that even the doctors diagnosis are wrong because whatever treatment is prescribed doesn't usually work. She is also very fond of googling things and comping up with diagnosis herself. To be honest, I can't remember a day that she has not been sick or in pain during the past eight months.
Sadly she does also have some genuine, confirmed medical problems which makes it difficult to understand when a particular complaint might be legit, slightly exaggerated or even possibly psychosomatic. I realise that perhaps we must speak to a therapist to determine whether there is a non-physical cause for all of this but she is and has always been very closed off to the idea of seeing a psychologist even though she has also faced some depression previously in her life.
I don't really know what I'm going to get from posting this on a discussion board like this but maybe I just need to vent. Maybe someone can identify with this problem and I'll know I'm not alone. Maybe there's even some good advice to be had.
Anyways. Bye for now.
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**** off junior.

You clearly are in you mid-three's, not thirties.

Grow the **** up or **** the **** off.
 
backstreetboy said:
Pregnant?
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Nope. As an example - in just the past year or so she has been sick four or five time.- flu a couple of times, COVID twice, tooth aches, sinusitis, migraines, then on the injury side, misstepped off a ladder somehow and as a result had a sore muscle in her back and buttocks which has apparently not subsided for the past six months. Also an issue with her elbow and another issue with her neck. She's gone to the doctor for all of these and most of the time as far as injuries are concerned the problem isn't resolved according to her expectations and she will go for follow ups and second opinions often. Obviously with COVID she had to do what the doctor said.

I try to speak to her about it, to be sympathetic, to give advice. But it really wears you down when you get blasted with it every day and then I suppose I come across as a SOB when I don't help or actually buy in to believe that there is something seriously wrong.
 
Gruntled said:
You seem real mature yourself, pissball gizzard.
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Diddums. You loved (maybe?) someone, married her, and now that life is getting in the way you're on the internets looking for an excuse to get out?

Yeah, pissball, is a pisspoor attempt.

You're a child.

Grow the **** up. Accept your responsibility, whether that is divorcing the person or living with it.

Stay hard! **** off!
 
Gruntled said:
Nope. As an example - in just the past year or so she has been sick four or five time.- flu a couple of times, COVID twice, tooth aches, sinusitis, migraines, then on the injury side, misstepped off a ladder somehow and as a result had a sore muscle in her back and buttocks which has apparently not subsided for the past six months. Also an issue with her elbow and another issue with her neck. She's gone to the doctor for all of these and most of the time as far as injuries are concerned the problem isn't resolved according to her expectations and she will go for follow ups and second opinions often. Obviously with COVID she had to do what the doctor said.

I try to speak to her about it, to be sympathetic, to give advice. But it really wears you down when you get blasted with it every day and then I suppose I come across as a SOB when I don't help or actually buy in to believe that there is something seriously wrong.
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Weed, have you tried weed?
 
Gruntled said:
She has endometriosis. Causes abnormal pain during menstruation. Had multiple surgeries during her life and it just returns after a while.
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I know someone that has this, you're basically being a bit of a **** here. They have a lot of pain, and those surgeries leaves them in even more pain, not of which is imagined. If my wife had this I'd fully expect to be right by her side constantly supporting her through it, besides the pain it's a very emotional thing because of the pregnancy issue.
 
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