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Ok!

So I dated this chick long ago and then we broke up.
While she was with me, she wasn't exactly skinny, but she wasn't fat either, she was 'above average' if you will.

We broke up, she met this other guy and since then, I've watched her (via her Facebook pictures) get larger and larger.

(After 2 ± years of watching)

Today, I let rip... I asked why she is letting herself go like this.

Suffice to say, she was upset, deleted me as a friend blah blah blah.

All of which I can understand - but honestly, I know none of her friends would've said anything but I had to, because when we were together, she was a gym freak - now I don't know if she even goes anymore.

I remember one friend (similiar sorta issue) saying to another friend "Why didn't you say something when you noticed" and his reply was "I didn't wanna hurt your feelings" and her reply was "well you should've said something damn it"

Now I obviously think back to that... and thats why I said something...

Thoughts?
Comments?
 
It's the way you say it.

I bet you said. "Damn, your ass is freaking huge."

:D
 
Honest opinion, she overreacted. I think you may have hit a nerve bringing it up.... You know how it is when you know something is a certain way, but as long as no-one says anything it will go away?
Personally I would say at least you tried. It is like in your example, rather say something than live knowing you did nothing.
 
That's like her asking on your FB wall whether or not you've had that penis enlargement yet? Props for the stupidity. You fail at women though. Finally we have concrete proof that you are actually a male...
 
The way I said it was (basically, but not word for word)

Me: look, I have something to ask
Her: What?
Me: I went through some old pictures and noticed something
Her: Ok?!?
Me: Is it me, or have you gotten bigger?!
Me: Why have you let yourself go like this? What has happened to the gyming etc?
Her: @#$@#!
Her: @#$##
Her is offline

I checked her and she removed me as a friend.

:(
 
She's just an ex. It's no big loss.

Maybe the new guy's a feeder. I read stories about them.
 
gdiza said:
The way I said it was (basically, but not word for word)

Me: look, I have something to ask
Her: What?
Me: I went through some old pictures and noticed something
Her: Ok?!?
Me: Is it me, or have you gotten bigger?!
Me: Why have you let yourself go like this? What has happened to the gyming etc?
Her: @#$@#!
Her: @#$##
Her is offline

I checked her and she removed me as a friend.

:(
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haha, smooth guy...
 
gdiza said:
The way I said it was (basically, but not word for word)

Me: look, I have something to ask
Her: What?
Me: I went through some old pictures and noticed something
Her: Ok?!?
Me: Is it me, or have you gotten bigger?!
Me: Why have you let yourself go like this? What has happened to the gyming etc?
Her: @#$@#!
Her: @#$##
Her is offline

I checked her and she removed me as a friend.

:(
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reminds me of bloodninja : "harrrrrrrr !!!":D

Its definitely the way you said it that offended .:wtf:
 
gdiza said:
The way I said it was (basically, but not word for word)

Me: look, I have something to ask
Her: What?
Me: I went through some old pictures and noticed something
Her: Ok?!?
Me: Is it me, or have you gotten bigger?!
Me: Why have you let yourself go like this? What has happened to the gyming etc?
Her: @#$@#!
Her: @#$##
Her is offline

I checked her and she removed me as a friend.

:(
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Epic FAIL. Are you intentionally trying to play the bad guy or did this honestly seem like a good idea to you at the time?
 
Not my proudest moment, but I am proud I said something because I'm almost 100% sure someone else wanted to, but didn't and I am generally the one who says something when someone else doesn't want to.
 
gdiza said:
Not my proudest moment, but I am proud I said something because I'm almost 100% sure someone else wanted to, but didn't and I am generally the one who says something when someone else doesn't want to.
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You could have used more tact ... Like photoshopping her to look hot and then email/send the original photo and the PS version with the subject line "spot the difference" :P
 
Why did you do this?
You were broken up for 2 years...WTF?

She took the easy way out...I would make your life a fukking living hell if I were her.
 
you're quite nosy bru ..... it's arrogant to get involved in anyones affairs, nevermind an ex from 2 years back :wtf:
 
Dusk said:
You could have used more tact ... Like photoshopping her to look hot and then email/send the original photo and the PS version with the subject line "spot the difference" :P
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Errrrrrrrrrrrrr... No... hahaha.

Kage said:
Why did you do this?
You were broken up for 2 years...WTF?

She took the easy way out...I would make your life a fukking living hell if I were her.
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We are friends and she is forever asking me how I'm doing and telling me that she misses me and hopes I'm well and she is there If I want to talk etc etc etc... so... I talked and she didn't like what I said.

She can go ahead and make my life hell - I'm not the one with the issue.
 
To put it bluntly gdiza - you acted like a pathetic, tactless moron. I don't blame her for dumping your ass - you sound like you have no understanding of women. They do not want other men to tell them they're fat - their girlfriends will already be doing this and they will certainly know this themselves without you shoving it down her throat. And you being an ex makes it even worse.

Now either you want to be one of her girlfriends and discuss this pissy teenage weight drama with her, or you realise that even though she's your mate, she's first and foremost a woman. You being friends won't change her indoctrinated self-awareness and more often than not, lack of self confidence of her body...
 
DJ... said:
To put it bluntly gdiza - you acted like a pathetic, tactless moron. I don't blame her for dumping your ass - you sound like you have no understanding of women. They do not want other men to tell them they're fat - their girlfriends will already be doing this and they will certainly know this themselves without you shoving it down her throat. And you being an ex makes it even worse.

Now either you want to be one of her girlfriends and discuss this pissy teenage weight drama with her, or you realise that even though she's your mate, she's first and foremost a woman. You being friends won't change her indoctrinated self-awareness and more often than not, lack of self confidence of her body...
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From all your posts, seems like you've taken it upon yourself to attack me as much as you can (these and other posts)

You welcome to do that DJ...

Just saying...
 
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