Rape

marine1 said:
poor English? No maybe it your poor comprehension and your poor attempt at baiting me.
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If forum history has taught us anything, it is that your English often fails you. You appear to lack the ability to contextualise your own post.

What I see as seeking clarity on a (what reads as a) shocking post, you read as "baiting". Interesting...
 
marine1 said:
Sorry but I have another take on this. I am going to get flamed for sure.
I am STRONGLY against RAPE !! That being said, if wives actually decided to have sex once in a freaking blue moon.
Most married guys I speak to have such a difficult time persuading their frigid wives to do something in the bedroom
/rant off
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marine1 said:
Every guy I speak to has the same issue. Sex starts out great in the beginning, as time goes on, it dives, women think they are now comfortable and they use sex as a weapon.
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Nea mine has been perfect still the last few months. The twins we have is getting my wife under and she's on anti-depressants. I don't get it as often as I did. But we do get our freak on once in a while and I understand that I might have to be drinking on the hind tit for a while. But that's ok. I don't think I can do it for a couple of years though but I'll give it time still.

Been married 6 years now.
 
marine1 said:
Every guy I speak to has the same issue. Sex starts out great in the beginning, as time goes on, it dives, women think they are now comfortable and they use sex as a weapon.
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This is hardly true for every marriage. Regardless, what is the weekly benchmark that she should be reaching then? 7 times a week? 14 times a week? 3 times a week? Maintaining the dating quotient?

Many men also begin to slack off after marriage in areas that they didn't realise were actually foreplay beforehand. That simple call during the day, for no reason other than to say hi. Going out of your way to compliment her. Doing the dishes so she doesn't have to. Taking her on a date. All of these things can affect how a woman perceives you which impacts on your sex life.

Then you add the complications of work and kids to the mix and it compounds the issue. She might also be bored with the sex which happens when the spice dulls down in marriage.

Bottom line is I would hazard a guess at it 99% of the time not being an issue on the surface and that both parties are to blame...
 
marine1 said:
Sorry but I have another take on this. I am going to get flamed for sure.
I am STRONGLY against RAPE !! That being said, if wives actually decided to have sex once in a freaking blue moon.
Most married guys I speak to have such a difficult time persuading their frigid wives to do something in the bedroom
/rant off
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+1 and even though being married isnt a lifelong free pass and rape is by no means acceptable in any form
but being married is supposed to have perks and a perk once in a while would help things!!!
 
marine1 said:
Every guy I speak to has the same issue. Sex starts out great in the beginning, as time goes on, it dives, women think they are now comfortable and they use sex as a weapon.
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Fair, but forcing her will not solve the problem. What I meant with my previous comment is that your wife does not owe you sex just because you are married. If your wife uses sex(or lack there of) as a weapon then maybe there are bigger issues in the marriage. I am not married so I am ten to one naive, but I still think there is no justification for rape...

Another question, ive read a few books and many people say that rape is not about the sex as such but about humiliation and power. (looking for linky)
 
Pitbull said:
I agree with Marine, however:

Not to the rape part. If a wife doesn't want get some freak on, she must accept the he/I will find it somewhere else. Men need to get laid, be it by his wife or a someone willing. This should then not be grounds for a divorce :mad:
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thats what I was trying to say!!!
 
jouda said:
Fair, but forcing her will not solve the problem. What I meant with my previous comment is that your wife does not owe you sex just because you are married. If your wife uses sex(or lack there of) as a weapon then maybe there are bigger issues in the marriage. I am not married so I am ten to one naive, but I still think there is no justification for rape...

Another question, ive read a few books and many people say that rape is not about the sex as such but about humiliation and power. (looking for linky)
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According to this the motivation for sexual assault is much more than I could ever imagine.
EDIT: quote from the link

The research on convicted rapists has found several important motivational factors in the sexual aggression of males. Those motivational factors repeatedly implicated are having anger at women and having the need to control or dominate them
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Pynet said:
Taken from the jokes thread :

I asked my wife while in the bedroom if she wants to do a "Rape fantasy roleplay"
She said "NO!!"
I said " That's the spirit"

:D
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Jimmy Carr is awesome :D
 
DJ... said:
You have two consenting adults. Why wouldn't it be acceptable? :wtf:

The fact that you have to ask that question is mind-boggling...
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What if she says "stop" during the act and means it, but the guy takes it as part of the act? :confused:
 
marine1 said:
Sorry but I have another take on this. I am going to get flamed for sure.
I am STRONGLY against RAPE !! That being said, if wives actually decided to have sex once in a freaking blue moon.
Most married guys I speak to have such a difficult time persuading their frigid wives to do something in the bedroom
/rant off
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Then divorce her and get a new lady in your life.
 
DJ... said:
This is hardly true for every marriage. Regardless, what is the weekly benchmark that she should be reaching then? 7 times a week? 14 times a week? 3 times a week? Maintaining the dating quotient?

Many men also begin to slack off after marriage in areas that they didn't realise were actually foreplay beforehand. That simple call during the day, for no reason other than to say hi. Going out of your way to compliment her. Doing the dishes so she doesn't have to. Taking her on a date. All of these things can affect how a woman perceives you which impacts on your sex life.

Then you add the complications of work and kids to the mix and it compounds the issue. She might also be bored with the sex which happens when the spice dulls down in marriage.

Bottom line is I would hazard a guess at it 99% of the time not being an issue on the surface and that both parties are to blame...
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QFT.
+100.
+1000.
It's never just one person's fault, but then again nobody is perfect.

That said, rape is rape. Being married is supposed to be a loving, caring, two-way relationship.
In a way, marital rape is almost worse than random stranger rape, because it's not just some random person who nabbed you off the street. This is someone you trusted, live with, chose to spend your life with. The betrayal is immense.
 
DJ... said:
Many men also begin to slack off after marriage in areas that they didn't realise were actually foreplay beforehand. That simple call during the day, for no reason other than to say hi. Going out of your way to compliment her. Doing the dishes so she doesn't have to. Taking her on a date. All of these things can affect how a woman perceives you which impacts on your sex life.
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Sounds like one of those mean men broke your heart DJ :p:D
 
maintain the emotional connection with your woman (make her feel loved) and you will always get nookie

lack of nookie is usually a result from the guy being lazy and a douche then still expecting sex at will
 
How often is enough for an average married man/woman?

If you are not sexually compatible then maybe you should part ways. I can imagine it must be tough being in a sexless marriage.
 
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