Relationship help thread...

[registerforfree]

So you don't believe she had any valid reasons whatsoever for not trusting him after seeing those messages? She was just some snooping shrew wanting to control him?

We've established she wasn't snooping, but she did see something completely innocuous and then expected him to prostrate himself at her feet for forgiveness.

For a gay man you need to seriously calm down you should be the last person labeling a woman as a feminazi simply because she's not worshiping at the alter of men. And why is that hmm? Why is it that if a woman is not prostrating herself at the feet of a man, she's labelled as either a lesbian or feminazi?

Nobody expects you to worship at the altar of men. On the other hand, you fully expect us to worship at the altar of women and then you spew the most misandric BS you can think of and expect us not to call you a feminazi.

Pot. Kettle. Black.

 

[Singal]

So let me get this straight...

You're crying crocodile tears over men generalizing and stereotyping women, but in the same breath you admit that you generalize and stereotype men and say "it is what is". And yet you have to audacity to sit there and judge us?

Pot. Kettle. Black.

I was going to say something similar.
@Saoirse, do you realise you're just as bad as the men who hate women?

 

[SaoirseB]

Maybe you need to hand back your sanity card and go join the feminazis on Tumblr instead. There at least people will agree with you when you paint men out to be absolute monsters while pretending that women can never do anything wrong.

I've never pretended that women can do no wrong. Yes there are women out there who also give women a bad name, but I don't care about those women. They're not my problem. Men are. The ones who manipulate and use women. The ones who molest innocent little children. The ones who rape, use and abuse women and children. The ones who leave destroyed lives in their wake and get to go on with their lives as if nothing ever happened.

Go ahead defend them!

 

[SaoirseB]

So let me get this straight...

You're crying crocodile tears over men generalizing and stereotyping women, but in the same breath you admit that you generalize and stereotype men and say "it is what is". And yet you have to audacity to sit there and judge us?

Pot. Kettle. Black.

I'm saying it is what it is in my case and I'm not crying. I do believe I can judge. I think I've earned the right to judge and nothing YOU or any man says or does will change my mind.

 

[registerforfree]

And there we are right back to the heart of your misandry. Nobody in this thread defended men who are abusive. We pointed out that it is not only men who are abusive.

You want us to defend the actions of abusive men, yet when talking about abusive women you say they are not your problem. Why do we have to be held accountable for abusive men when you refuse to do the same for abusive women?

You're a hypocrite. And a misandrist. And a feminazi. Come talk to us again when your mind isn't clouded by misandry.

 

[registerforfree]

I'm saying it is what it is in my case and I'm not crying. I do believe I can judge. I think I've earned the right to judge and nothing YOU or any man says or does will change my mind.

You're right. You've earned the right to judge and be judged. And I judge you a hypocrite responsible for that which you accuse us of.

Go take your hypocrisy and shove it. Nobody will listen to a hypocrite such as you.

 

[SaoirseB]

I'm going to go ahead and leave now. I'm getting angry and I'll end up saying even more stuff I'll regret.

 

[registerforfree]

No, please stay and say them. We'd all love to see you dig that hole even deeper.

 

[D3nz]

I'm going to go ahead and leave now. I'm getting angry and I'll end up saying even more stuff I'll regret.

If I may say something...
There's a few guys here who allow their personal experiences to taint the way they see all women. You appear to be doing the same with regard to the male population. You're allowing bitterness and anger to cloud your judgement. Not every man is a rapist or a child molester, in fact there are women who are just as capable of performing the atrocities you mentioned in your earlier post.

 

[Ninja'd]

Moenie loop nie...

 

[Pitbull]

Moenie loop nie...

Hardloop?

 

[Ninja'd]

Hardloop?

Around these parts it's "moenie loop nie, ***of."

 

[Pitbull]

Around these parts it's "moenie loop nie, ***of."

LOL, eish.

Listen I take everything she says to heart and agree with parts of what she is saying. Just the way she's trying to convey the message seems to be wrong and thus people are in defensive mode now

 

[Ninja'd]

LOL, eish.

Listen I take everything she says to heart and agree with parts of what she is saying. Just the way she's trying to convey the message seems to be wrong and thus people are in defensive mode now

For the record I'm not offended by anything she said.

 

[registerforfree]

LOL, eish.

Listen I take everything she says to heart and agree with parts of what she is saying. Just the way she's trying to convey the message seems to be wrong and thus people are in defensive mode now

Not everything she says is without merit, but she seems to have a massive chip on her shoulder. First she tells us what this girl did was fine, and when we don't agree we get accused of stereotyping women, generalizing women, defending abusive men and being misogynists. This all while she admits that she operates under the premise that she doesn't trust men and think they're all bastards.

Nuh-uh, meisiekind. Dit werkie so nie.

 

[ScottulusMaximus]

Yes there are women out there who also give women a bad name, but I don't care about those women. They're not my problem.!

You should, you're one of them...

 

[bokdrol]

This is what OP stated:
Girl said she is angry mainly because he ripped the phone out of her hand (and she wasn't snooping becasue OP was showing it to her but the wrong message)
I'm sorry, if some guy showed me something on his phone than suddenly rippped it out of my hands, I too would be angry. That's crazy aggressive behaviour.
Stop bugging her and let her cool down in her own time.

 

[Sapcat]

RH, don't list to what these fools say. If you a nice guy you will still score some sex.

But if you an ares-hole you might score a threesome. Use it, Don't use it - it's just the truth.

 

[b_crazy]

It may seem extreme and I fully agree at the time that it was not cool.
Did it change our relationship for the better?
Most definitely.

My wife does not have trust issues anymore so I don't really see it being a bad decision.
Sure it could have gone either way but the point is that life is not some strict set of rules that have to be followed.

I'm interested in how she actually convinced you to do this.

 

[Electric]

I'm interested in how she actually convinced you to do this.

She asked, I obliged.

I have nothing to hide so it was merely a moment of annoyance and then moving on with the test.
Some slightly embarrassing questions but nothing that would cause an issue.

It was just something that I did to help her trust issues.
The trust issues were from before we met so who am I to say that she cannot have trust issues?
All I could do was to help in order to lessen her fears.