Relationship help thread...

*salutes Random Hero*

Well done mate, it sounds like you're doing the right thing :)

The hardest thing in the world to say is sorry, and the best feeling in the world is to regain somebody's trust after you'd lost it.

Please do me a favour and ignore people who tell you how to behave. I know that sounds ironic, because you actually asked for advice here, and I'm actually recommending a course of action myself. However, all I mean is do what feels *right*.

I deeply believe that we all know what the right course of action is, but we're often able to shout down that voice by rather opting for what feels better in the short-term (or just to save face).

Hang in there. Like I always say ... if life was easy, everyone would do it ;)

PS: One of the best things the right woman will do for you one day is show you yourself from her eyes, and you'll see how much she cares for you and how badly you're screwing that up with things you never used to even think about before her. Like in the lyrics of that trashy song, you become a better man through it, or just one in denial.

PPS: Take her to Passenger. If she cares about you, and it sounds like she does, she'll want to go with you. It's better to heal a wound while it's fresh, rather than trying to build over it once a crusty old scab has formed. It'll be an awesome time, especially if you've got Valentines Day. If you want her - and it sounds like you do - it'll be the best decision ever. At the very least, you won't regret not trying.
 
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And tell her that next time she has an issue, she needs to talk to you about it like an adult. Not run away in a huff and leave you hanging by a thread.

Seriously, that childish crap is not on.
 
Foxhound5366 said:
*salutes Random Hero*

Well done mate, it sounds like you're doing the right thing :)

The hardest thing in the world to say is sorry, and the best feeling in the world is to regain somebody's trust after you'd lost it.

Please do me a favour and ignore people who tell you how to behave. I know that sounds ironic, because you actually asked for advice here, and I'm actually recommending a course of action myself. However, all I mean is do what feels *right*.

I deeply believe that we all know what the right course of action is, but we're often able to shout down that voice by rather opting for what feels better in the short-term (or just to save face).

Hang in there. Like I always say ... if life was easy, everyone would do it ;)

PS: One of the best things the right woman will do for you one day is show you yourself from her eyes, and you'll see how much she cares for you and how badly you're screwing that up with things you never used to even think about before her. Like in the lyrics of that trashy song, you become a better man through it, or just one in denial.

PPS: Take her to Passenger. If she cares about you, and it sounds like she does, she'll want to go with you. It's better to heal a wound while it's fresh, rather than trying to build over it once a crusty old scab has formed. It'll be an awesome time, especially if you've got Valentines Day. If you want her - and it sounds like you do - it'll be the best decision ever. At the very least, you won't regret not trying.
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Thanks for the great words Foxhound.. Ill treat her right I think things are better. we spoke about meeting parents eventually so that's a big plus... She's really a great girl with great values... those ones you shouldn't le get away.

registerforfree said:
And tell her that next time she has an issue, she needs to talk to you about it like an adult. Not run away in a huff and leave you hanging by a thread.

Seriously, that childish crap is not on.
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True... lol I see what you did there... nice pun haha, by a THREAD! LOL!
 
Wow, Thanks for everybody who contributed to this thread, from the gurus to the jokesters. and also the discussions from the "misogynists" and "Femnazis"... That ones a joke haha!


But yeah out of the threads I made I really want to thank you people for your wise words. I truly appreciate it guys

Can't wait for tips on my next life dilemma :P

'Till next time, take care! :)
 
Foxhound5366, thank you for defending me. Men like you are very few and far between. If I had a hat, I would tip it to you. I hope that for other women's sake there are more men like you out there.

Random Hero I'm proud of you. I'm glad you took the sensible advice here.

Now had you followed the oh so manly advice given to you here and put her in her place: Listen here you snooping controling little b-tch, those things happened before I met you.
You were a good shag, but if you can't handle it, there's the door. Fck off. There are more women (b-tches) out there willing to get my dick wet. You would no doubt have lost a girl you clearly care about.

Now I know I'm being hard on you here and you do sound like you've reformed, but let me beat that dead horse just one more time. Because maybe, just maybe she wasn't testing you or trying to make you her b-tch.

Your new girlfriend just had sex with you, if she's anything like me her defenses are down right then and she might be feeling vulnerable. You show her the wrong message. What does she see?
A guy who is mocking girls he's chatted with.

Now while it was a joke and innocent in your eyes, to her it wasn't. Certainly to those other girls, were they to find out wouldn't think it was so innocent or funny either.

Here's a guy I've just shared something personal with. These girls thought they were having private conversations with you, but you shared it and mocked them with other people without their knowledge. Further to that you snatch the phone away. Did you share my conversations too? Are you going to share my future conversations with you? Will you maybe share private pictures if I ever make a mistake of sending one to you? If and when we ever break up will you decide to share it online like some guys do?

Extreme thinking here I know, but do you get where I'm going with this? Broken circle of trust.

Is this the type of person I want to be with? So she decides, please take me home, because I'm not sure I can trust you right now. I've just seen something about you that makes me doubt\question your character.

Will you entertain the thought that maybe, just maybe she was genuinely shocked by what she saw of you and wasn't testing you or trying to make you her b-tch?

I'm getting off my soap box now. I'm genuinely glad that she's warming up to you and didn't right you off. Like I said previously, give her time. Trust doesn't come easily once it's been broken. I wish you all the best in your relationship.
 
Pitbull said:
100%

****, Fornicate, flicking the bean, mixing the salad, pile driving the list is endless. it's the same bloody thing... Geesus, do people call it playing with daisies lately or something? :D
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I still maintain irrespective of all the schit being said that it was just a shag :whistle:
 
Indeed. The problem with most people is they can't see the wood for the trees. A shag is a shag. It's not necessarily an expression of love or commitment. It doesn't automatically make two people a couple.

It's a shag, ffs! The point is that you get your jollies off and the next morning you're gone before she even wakes up. If she's at your place, just respectfully tell her about Uber and then go back to sleep.

People need to stop romanticizing sex so much.
 
ShaunSA said:
I still maintain irrespective of all the schit being said that it was just a shag :whistle:
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Must have been a pretty good one. He's fallen head over heels for her, so much so he apologises to her for her fiddling with his phone. But to each his own. I'll be here long enough for the "The biatch I'm with cut off my penis for greeting a high school sweetheart from about 15 years ago" thread started by Random Hero.
 
I love men and get on well with them. The only men I don't like in general are usually retired ones in their 60s and 70s who bully their wives and children and want to shoot everything they see, but they are in the minority fortunately.

But this forum definitely has some prize misogynists on it, no names mentioned.
 
bokdrol said:
I love men and get on well with them. The only men I don't like in general are usually retired ones in their 60s and 70s who bully their wives and children and want to shoot everything they see, but they are in the minority fortunately.

But this forum definitely has some prize misogynists on it, no names mentioned.
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I know for a fact you aint talking about me :p
 
You are actually being overly mean to Saoir IMHO. Some of you were equally horrible to me when I was new here. You are driving the girls away, and I think the forum could use some more women for a different perspective. Will do some of you good. Not all women are gold-digging manipulating harridans, you know.
Ek se maar net.
 
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