Serious problem, messing up the relationship

smalltownsky said:
it's not porn or masturbation. it could be, but in most cases it is maybe nerves or the fact that it feels like a chore. is there any kind of porn that you watch? the situations between your visual stimulation and real life sex may differ. also, what appeals to you about porn?
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I normally watch normal hardcore porn. Yes the porn I watch is different from what I actually do... but that's too be expected, porn isn't intimate.
The female form, that's why I like it when the camera focuses on just the girl and why solos are quite hot for me.
 
JamesX said:
I normally watch normal hardcore porn. Yes the porn I watch is different from what I actually do... but that's too be expected, porn isn't intimate.
The female form, that's why I like it when the camera focuses on just the girl and why solos are quite hot for me.
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I agree with the advice to let go of the porn.

Lots of folks can't ejaculate when they are being stimulated by someone else, I'm the same. When real sex is done it's a different story.

Don't be so hard on yourself, no pun intended. Just relax and get to know your girlfriend better. Be romantic and in love before you start worrying about the intense stuff.
 
Other than that...
Let her do it for you...with the lube options suggested.
I would also suggest to look at "flavored" lubes...she might want to taste it. :D
 
Get a her a strapon and take it up the starfish, you might like that.
 
JamesX said:
I normally watch normal hardcore porn. Yes the porn I watch is different from what I actually do... but that's too be expected, porn isn't intimate.
The female form, that's why I like it when the camera focuses on just the girl and why solos are quite hot for me.
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i can tell you now that you're not going to be able to cum easily, you've set a psychological expectation for yourself, i am exactly the same.

i also doubt that you'll be able to let go of the porn, but you can try
 
Human said:
Ponder just did... :D

I sincerely doubt that the guy will be able to perform if he is already having issues with the missionary or even a jerk off.
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with anal he can go slow, wait the build up turn her around and then satisfy....(if he is quick).
 
Most of us that had relationships have been where the OP is. It's nothing to be ashamed about.

Just make sure you practice safe-sex bro. You don't want STD's or HIV etc. You also don't want to put a bun in the oven right now.

Once you actually start having sex with her you will realize that this question you asked is actually so irrelevant it's funny :D ;) :D

Bumpety bump bump bump :D :D :D
 
smalltownsky said:
i can tell you now that you're not going to be able to cum easily, you've set a psychological expectation for yourself, i am exactly the same.

i also doubt that you'll be able to let go of the porn, but you can try
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any quick fixes that you used?
Human said:
Ponder just did... :D

I sincerely doubt that the guy will be able to perform if he is already having issues with the missionary or even a jerk off.
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I said I have a problem finishing, not performing.
 
Human said:
I wish...I have to think nasty thoughts at gym and at work and at other places...and it is...shame on you! :D
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You don't have to, you are used to doing it. It's just a bad habit :D ;) :p I bet if you use the energy you do with those thoughts on your partner, it would be the same. It's just a change of perception really.
 
JamesX said:
I said I have a problem finishing, not performing.
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Mate, the orgasm is also known as the "climax".
It's like a very good movie, where it builds and builds and builds and then the power cuts out...never knowing what happened in the end you are left with disappointment.
 
teraside said:
You don't have to, you are used to doing it. It's just a bad habit :D ;) :p I bet if you use the energy you do with those thoughts on your partner, it would be the same. It's just a change of perception really.
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My partner is not one to complain...normally I am told to go and "play". :D
 
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