The big Blame
the blame game is such a nice game to play. lol
Why always blame technology/things you don't understand.
Since we were furry, we've blamed 'someone else', first we blamed the gods
when things went wrong, nowdays when things go wrong, it's the fault of
the ANC, the liberals, the government, the other driver.
When people spell wrong, they call it typos - oh yeah
When somoene who played a video game is aggro - it's the games fault
When children are out of control - it's the teachers fault
Our society thrives on the blame game, it is an entrenched way of thinking.
Taking responsibility for yourself and your actions is tough and most people opt out of this through the blame game and religion. (it is gods will)
I would like to nominate Parents as winners of the blame game.
Parents just love blaming everyone and anything to excuse their childs poor academic results, bad behaviour and aggresiveness on:
- school system in a mess
- teacher not good enough
- some psychological reason
When in fact the truth is often:
- the parent does not like to read ( child has little interest )
- the parent does not have time ( to read to the child every day )
- both parents work (not because they need the money, but because they
want a fancy car, big tv screen, flashy clothing and nice holidays)
- children are raised by nannies ( from other cultures with other rules)
- children/teens are left alone between schooltime and parent back from work time.
(time to do the devils work aka drugs, drinking, sex, stealing and so on)
So dear parents, before you play the blame game:
- did you read to your young child every day ?
- do you play with your child ie: lego, puzzles, mudcakes, hide & seek, roleplaying ?
- do you teach your child/teens things: do parents show their kids how garage tools operate or kitchen tools ?
- do you know their friends and the names of their friends ?
- did you sit with them in grade 1 & 2 to make sure they have their basic
mathematics and reading skills spot on ?
- did you listen to them, observe them and respect their individuality ?
- did you take the time and make the effort to inform them and prepare
them for the reality of life after the teen years ?
Did you not bother with some of the details that make so many other children
happy and academically ready ?
(or are you just a 6pm to 8pm parent mmm? - feed them - get them to bed, so that you can watch tv in peace or sit online all night)