The Help-SSB-get-a girlfriend-project thread

Raunchiness is fine, it's suggestive and gets her thinking... And you're the person she's sharing the moment with. If anything, it helps build sexual tension.

Here's a general list of things that shows she's into you...

-she tries to end silence ("so..." and then starts a new conversation)
-she initiates contact with you (smses you first, calls you first etc)
-she ask questions about you
-she plays with her hair while talking to you
-you sense jealousy when you mention another female
-she initiates kino (she touches you)
-she makes eye contact then smiles at you
-body language i.e if she moves her body around to face you while you are talking
-touches any part of your clothes
-legs become intertwined with yours
-leans in while talking to you
-smiles for no reason (you're actually the reason...)

You absolutely know you're in when:
-she puts her hand on your leg
-licks her lips when talking to
-she tries to grab your attention constantly
-she grabs your crotch or ass
-you can see her giving you the doggy dinner bowl eyes
-she looks in your eyes, to your lips, back to your eyes (it's called the triangle gaze)


You can also tell if she's into you after a kiss... Normally her eyes will stay closed a bit longer than yours and she'll look up at you with a "Please sir, may I have some more" type of face...

Apart from the above, if you ask her out on another date (especially a dinner date) and she says yes then it's pretty obvious. If she wasn't into you then she'd bring up the "lets just be friends" thing. Dinner dates make your intentions clear, so if she doesn't bring up the LJBF card when you call her to make the date then I'd definately go for kiss at the beginning of the date (just a normal peck but leave your lips lingering a bit longer) and then take the date from there.

jsheed_sa said:
wtf is mashie?

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It's like mini-golf. You only really play with a SW and your putter... Unless you hit like a girl :p
 
supersunbird said:
The date went well I guess (the movie not what I expected, not a regular rom com, a bit raunchy), when i drove her home she liked my CD with House-ish music a lot, then i had some coffee and we listened to some music and watched some tv and then I went home at 10. Gave her another normal lips to lips brief kiss.

How the hell do I know if she likes me? Do people ask people to be their guy/girl? Thinking of taken her out for dinner next time. She laughs a lot at things I say. I like don't want to go too slow, cause its either you like the other person or it not. But I don't to do something to scare her away by like going too far or whatever. Eish, this dating things so hard :(
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Grab her and kiss the life out of her.

Then one of 2 things will happen:

1. She complies and knows exactly how you feel and she feels the same
2. She doesn't like you and will let you know she would rather just be friends.

Play the hand and make her call it. That is the only way you will know for sure without getting your hopes up to much ;)
 
hxc87x said:
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Geez, how am I supposed to notice that! My brain doesn't notice things like that in real time, guess i need to stick to turn based dating... :p

God, I've "said no" to sex (not as in the the direct question obviously) because at the time I didn't realise it was an offer!

And if I hear lets just be friends I wouldn't even want to see that person again.
 
Haha.. Yeah, it took me some time to start picking it all up as well but it comes with a bit of practice.

Pitbull has the right idea, it'll also work out cheaper than a dinner date if you go and just play put-put or something and you pull her when you pick her up. That way she can tell you then and there whether she's interested or not and you can either hook up or go your separate ways.
 
supersunbird said:
Geez, how am I supposed to notice that! My brain doesn't notice things like that in real time, guess i need to stick to turn based dating... :p

God, I've "said no" to sex (not as in the the direct question obviously) because at the time I didn't realise it was an offer!

And if I hear lets just be friends I wouldn't even want to see that person again.
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Friends is not that bad, except if you want more than that.
Just make sure that YOU make the "friends" speech first.;)

Having a few female friends is a good thing.
Especially if they have other friends.
 
supersunbird said:
We're going out for pizza saturday evening. I'll guess I'll try to REALLY kiss her then.
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That is going all in on a pair QQ's

See if she calls it of if she folds. Any which way you will then know where you stand ;) That crap of taking things slow only happens if they have someone else in mind ;)
 
Ok so she has agreed to movies, now diner i think its confirmed she likes you, or she would make excuses as to why she cannot go.

O girl who does not sms first or call first does not mean she is not into, just means she is waiting for you to do it first because she is unsure if you like her.

You went for coffee and watched tv, listen to pit and make a move, you may have missed a chance to get some action with the whole watching tv thing :). Anyways do as pit suggested and gooi it SSB :)
 
i have a huge problem with knowing if i can pull into a girl, so many times girls have later said, why didn't i just pull into them :(

oh well, once im passed there i tend to go a bit... um ... fast :p

but ya we all have issues. oh and the kissing problem, if we are on a date not so bad, i just find it *** hard when you've met at a club to know if they want to.
 
4cer said:
i have a huge problem with knowing if i can pull into a girl, so many times girls have later said, why didn't i just pull into them :(

oh well, once im passed there i tend to go a bit... um ... fast :p

but ya we all have issues. oh and the kissing problem, if we are on a date not so bad, i just find it *** hard when you've met at a club to know if they want to.
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4 tricks i use:
1) look for 3 of the signs i mentioned earlier, if you have 3 of them then you can most probably kiss her.

2) hold her hand, squeeze it. if she squeezes back, look at her and if she smiles, kiss her. this hasnt failed me once.

3) while talking to her, lean a bit back (shows confidence and dominance), then look her straight in the eyes and ask her if she'd like to kiss you. (this one only really works if you're pretty confident, otherwise she'll pick up on your nervousness - btw, is that even a word?)

her: yes
you: *kiss*

her: i dont know/maybe
you: lets find out, come here *gesture with you finger for her to come kiss you*

her: no
you: i didnt say you could, it just looked like you had something on your mind ;)

4) you feel the moment is right. trust your instinct.

as for clubs, all the above works, even while dancing.
if you're already dancing with her then it's safe to say that there's some level of interest. look at how she's dancing, if she's really close to you or touching you then its a green light. check her body language, the more relaxed she seems the more into you she is. if she isnt into you then she'd be a bit stiff and almost seem bored and awkward (if she doesnt chase you away first)
 
supersunbird said:
Not a gf relationship, nope.

I've kissed and forplayed and ****ed and whatever though. Though I can't ever really figure out how the kissing started.
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When you guys sit close, and she's looking at you. Just look into her eyes and see into her soul, you will know when to kiss her if you do that ;) Seriously, if you look deep into her eyes it's as if your heads just start moving towards each other. And pls don't do it at the Pizza place.

I would say do it at the car before you enter after the dinner that way you will know before you get to her place if she's into you or not. And if she is you should have some hot sexy kissing for a few hours after that.

DON'T try and have sexy with her yet. Just kiss and cuddle like there is no tomorrow, the moment she feels pressured into having sex it will blow your ship right out of the water.

No fiddling no nothing just passionate kissing and holding. Don't fk it up ;)
 
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hxc87x said:
4 tricks i use:
1) look for 3 of the signs i mentioned earlier, if you have 3 of them then you can most probably kiss her.

2) hold her hand, squeeze it. if she squeezes back, look at her and if she smiles, kiss her. this hasnt failed me once.

3) while talking to her, lean a bit back (shows confidence and dominance), then look her straight in the eyes and ask her if she'd like to kiss you. (this one only really works if you're pretty confident, otherwise she'll pick up on your nervousness - btw, is that even a word?)

her: yes
you: *kiss*

her: i dont know/maybe
you: lets find out, come here *gesture with you finger for her to come kiss you*

her: no
you: i didnt say you could, it just looked like you had something on your mind ;)

4) you feel the moment is right. trust your instinct.

as for clubs, all the above works, even while dancing.
if you're already dancing with her then it's safe to say that there's some level of interest. look at how she's dancing, if she's really close to you or touching you then its a green light. check her body language, the more relaxed she seems the more into you she is. if she isnt into you then she'd be a bit stiff and almost seem bored and awkward (if she doesnt chase you away first)
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lol our resident, hook-up, advisor :p

ok will try that and report back, but only in a few weeks when damn exams are done :(

and in our next lesson, how to pick up a girl at a club :p

thanks bro, appreciated.
 
supersunbird said:
The date went well I guess (the movie not what I expected, not a regular rom com, a bit raunchy), when i drove her home she liked my CD with House-ish music a lot, then i had some coffee and we listened to some music and watched some tv and then I went home at 10. Gave her another normal lips to lips brief kiss.

How the hell do I know if she likes me? Do people ask people to be their guy/girl? Thinking of taken her out for dinner next time. She laughs a lot at things I say. I like don't want to go too slow, cause its either you like the other person or it not. But I don't to do something to scare her away by like going too far or whatever. Eish, this dating things so hard :(
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Ag, she likes you!! If she's laughing at your jokes and generally gives you positive comments (likes your music etc) she's ripe and waiting to be picked :)

Next time you have to go in for the proper smooch or she's going to give up :)
 
Pitbull said:
Grab her and kiss the life out of her.
Then one of 2 things will happen:

1. She complies and knows exactly how you feel and she feels the same
2. She doesn't like you and will let you know she would rather just be friends.

Play the hand and make her call it. That is the only way you will know for sure without getting your hopes up to much ;)
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Best advice...just do it!! :D
 
4cer said:
lol our resident, hook-up, advisor :p

ok will try that and report back, but only in a few weeks when damn exams are done :(

and in our next lesson, how to pick up a girl at a club :p

thanks bro, appreciated.
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:p
i'm also out of the game for exams... i only have a week left though :cool:
 
ya i finish next week but can only go out in like two weeks time :)
 
I think SSB went over to her place last night to make some arrangements for the Pizza date on Saturday. All went so good he's still sleeping, she should be getting up soon to make them breakfast :D
 
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