Unexpected pregnancy

ShaunSA said:
Slightly o/t. A while after we started going out someone called the SO several times to claim that I was having an affair with a female :wtf:
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The fact that you felt the need to mention the bold bid intrigues me a bit...:whistle:
 
YingYang said:
These kinds of things happened to me a few times already and it turned out to be either not pregnant or not mine.

First time a 34 year old lady (I was 23) told me she's pregnant, I go the fsck crazy! Then I find a completed form in a pair of jeans that she forgot at my flat with the details of the father on. Turned out she was taking him to court for not helping her with buying things for the upcoming baby.

Then a girl (whom I only later found out was a gold digger) told me the same thing, I go the fsck nuts once again!. She asked me money for an abortion which I gave to her. I've never seen her again.

Another one was my girlfriend at the time, she fell pregnant and by default I believe the baby girl was mine. After the child was one year old I took her to my parents for the first time and my mother took one look at her and said she looks nothing like us. The following week I made an appointment at a medical lab and we (gf and I) took the baby there.

Two weeks later the results were in the mail - I was not the father. So I distanced myself from both baby and mother.

Mug, women can lie! Make sure you know where you get your head into :)
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Jislaaik, dude. :eek:

Did you find out who the father was in the last instance? Was she just knobbing guys on the side?
 
This thread makes me sad. Why does Mug have to "man up" and take on the responsibility of an unexpected pregnancy?

As a woman in this day and age, the onus is on me to take full responsibility for my birth control. If I choose not to be protected, because I want to have a baby, the onus is on me to "woman up" and take responsibility for it - especially if I have lied to my partner about being "safe". The same goes if I don't use protection and wind up geting an STD - I'd have no one to blame but myself.

It's utter bull**** to blame Mug, and tell him that he's a dad now and he must deal with it. If you want a baby that badly, and use a friend as your sperm donor, that's fine. Just don't expect him to be thrilled about it and be happy to throw his life away because of your baby-dreams.
 
YingYang said:
The fact that you felt the need to mention the bold bid intrigues me a bit...:whistle:
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Well they may have had more luck claiming it was with a male. He knows just as well as anyone else that females have never even managed to get a raise from me :D
 
mug11 said:
Hi everyone....for obvious reasons...i want to be anonymous writing this message!

So I know this girl for a while now, we are just friends, nothing else.
3 weeks ago , we had unprotected sex, during and after i asked her a few times if it's ok and maybe we should rather use a condom and she assured me it's ok.

yesterday i was told she is pregnant.
seems like i am unable to convince her to abort...i asked her how far is she, and she said 5 weeks! but we had sex 3.5 weeks ago!!!

however someone posted this on the internet:

She might not understand the difference between a doctor telling her "you are x weeks pregnant" and a conception date. (A doctor times a pregnancy by the first day of the last period, or if that date is not known, by an implied first day of the last period. Doctors don't mess around giving conception dates, they don't know what they are

is this true?
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Damm go and get tested.

Goverment spending lot of money educating youth and you obviously ignored all the dangers of unprote.. sex.
 
OrbitalDawn said:
Jislaaik, dude. :eek:

Did you find out who the father was in the last instance? Was she just knobbing guys on the side?
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She told me who it was and that he wanted nothing to do with her and the baby. He was married :) This was also the reason why I still bought stuff for the baby for about another year until my next gf (now wife) put her foot down, telling me that she understands how I feel, but its not my responsibility to raise another man's child.
 
YingYang said:
She told me who it was and that he wanted nothing to do with her and the baby. He was married :) This was also the reason why I still bought stuff for the baby for about another year until my next gf (now wife) put her foot down, telling me that she understands how I feel, but its not my responsibility to raise another man's child.
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Smart wife!
 
Look on the bright side. Now you can buy that train set you've always wanted :)
 
My thoughts are with the poor kid. You can't just walk away, if it is your kid. How would you feel if you were the child and your dad was just absent? In the least, determine if it is yours, and offer financial support. If you really cared you'd want to be involved in the kids life. I know its a difficult situation since you're not in a relationship. But I'm sure something can be worked out. Just think of the child.
 
YingYang said:
She told me who it was and that he wanted nothing to do with her and the baby. He was married :) This was also the reason why I still bought stuff for the baby for about another year until my next gf (now wife) put her foot down, telling me that she understands how I feel, but its not my responsibility to raise another man's child.
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Ah okay. Difficult situation.
 
You seriously need to get over trying to convincer her to have an abortion.

For someone that has a lot of doubts the baby is actually theirs, you sure are stopping at nothing to make sure you don't have to deal with it.
 
I'm going through something very similar, normally always use a condom but one drunk night about 3 weeks ago GF told me she was on the pill and taking at at the same time everyday ect. and that I should'nt worry. she called this morning to tell me she thinks she's pregnant because she's late and that she might of missed a pill or two during that time, I'm so worried now. Thing is though, she has wanted a child for a while now we have been dating for 4 yrs and her brother just had a kid and has been acting all broody so this might be what she wanted but I will never know. She has also told me that if she is she won't consider abortion.

Finger crossed for the pregnancy test tomorrow!

Moral of the story: ALWAY'S USE PROTECTION


To the OP - Good luck :)
 
Anon123 said:
I'm going through something very similar, normally always use a condom but one drunk night about 3 weeks ago GF told me she was on the pill and taking at at the same time everyday ect. and that I should'nt worry. she called this morning to tell me she thinks she's pregnant because she's late and that she might of missed a pill or two during that time, I'm so worried now. Thing is though, she has wanted a child for a while now we have been dating for 4 yrs and her brother just had a kid and has been acting all broody so this might be what she wanted but I will never know. She has also told me that if she is she won't consider abortion.

Finger crossed for the pregnancy test tomorrow!

Moral of the story: ALWAY'S USE PROTECTION


To the OP - Good luck :)
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o boy...
 
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