When marrying, which surname do you take?

blunomore said:
This one got Mr Blu upset! He saw that his former wife still uses his name and he asked her to give it up. He is an incredibly patient man and almost never get angry or irked, so I am not sure why it troubled him so much??
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She's trashing his surname by having the audacity to still use it?:D
 
koeks said:
a change of name is declaration of power...

for me it goes without saying, the i marry if ever i should marry, will use my surname...
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koeks said:
we are not equal... there for, my wife will have to change her surname...
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You might want to check with her first ;)


Voicy said:
If you do not take on the husband's surname ... does that mean your father does not have to walk down the isle to "give you away" anymore?

I'm just curious to see which traditions we keep and which we discard ... it seems a lot like quoting the bible to suit our own agenda. Only follow the rules we are happy with and ignore the rest...

Is it then not better to just be declared common-law partners?
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It depends what your reasoning for changing it here? Is it religion? Does the bible require a change of surname? Is it just because it's the way it's been done? Is that ever a good enough reason for continuing something blindly?

I think people do the father walking down the aisle bit because they want to. Again, not everyone (and I am referring specifically to Christian weddings here) does that anymore.

On the name change, I think it's a personal preference thing. If you want to, that's great; do it. If you don't, that's fine; don't do it.
 
koeks said:
a change of name is declaration of power...

for me it goes without saying, the i marry if ever i should marry, will use my surname...
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Precisely why I won't want to change my name to my husband's, if that's his attitude. Then again, I wouldn't marry someone with that attitude.

But since personal insults were thrown at me in that other thread when I stated my views, I'm bowing out of this one. Just had to reply to that incredibly arrogant post by koeks.

Edit: okay, one more comment. No, if I get married my father will not give me away. He may walk me down the aisle, but I'm not a possession to be given away.
 
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CathJ said:
Precisely why I won't want to change my name to my husband's, if that's his attitude. Then again, I wouldn't marry someone with that attitude.

But since personal insults were thrown at me in that other thread when I stated my views, I'm bowing out of this one. Just had to reply to that incredibly arrogant post by koeks.

Edit: okay, one more comment. No, if I get married my father will not give me away. He may walk me down the aisle, but I'm not a possession to be given away.
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hahahhaa. you go cathj... I'm not being arrogant. I'm just saying, that my surname will be the one to be used when we get married...
 
CathJ said:
Precisely why I won't want to change my name to my husband's, if that's his attitude. Then again, I wouldn't marry someone with that attitude.

But since personal insults were thrown at me in that other thread when I stated my views, I'm bowing out of this one. Just had to reply to that incredibly arrogant post by koeks.

Edit: okay, one more comment. No, if I get married my father will not give me away. He may walk me down the aisle, but I'm not a possession to be given away.
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Nah, there won't be mud slinging in my threads, miss CathJ.

I enjoy differing inputs as it makes me rethink ideas that I previously considered finalized. The fact that so many women lately object to it makes me realise* that I am indeed missing the severity of it.
 
All very complicated stuff. If you love someone none of this should be very important anyway.
 
Voicy said:
Nah, there won't be mud slinging in my threads, miss CathJ.

I enjoy differing inputs as it makes me rethink ideas that I previously considered finalized. The fact that so many women lately object to it makes me realise* that I am indeed missing the severity of it.
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You're always very respectul to the ladies, Voicy.

I notice and I commend you for it.
 
Wife can keep her surname, but kids go by my surname. no questions asked!
 
CathJ said:
So are you prepared to change your name to your wife's? Since it's not important? :D
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Don't see why not. It would certainly make the issues with our kids having different last names to us go away .... good idea actually.
 
My missus is keeping her surname as Dr Franken is just SO much rarer than Dr du Plessis and I really don't blame her for it. Our kids are getting my surname though.
 
A cousin of mine married a girl with the surname "Grotendorst".

Being the heavy social drinker that he is he said he thought about changing it to F*kkendorst and then taking her surname.
 
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