Why Dating Today Is Nearly Impossible

Has anyone actually watched the video in the OP? What does it say? I’m afraid to watch it in case the algorithm starts recommending incel stuff to me.
 
SlinkyMike said:
There are also loads of guys in their late 30s - early 40s, out of shape and expecting to hook up with 20 year old gym bods. They get seriously uptight if you point out that it ain't gonna happen and even more so if you point out that it's a little gross.
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They actually can hook up with those types- but only the types who are just looking for a "blesser" or someone to support them and give them expensive gifts. I'd advise against it though because it will be a parasitic relationship.
 
I have a "friend" who was looking for a girlfriend for a long time. Years. He was fat, depressed and insecure. He doesn't have a lot of money and doesn't drive a nice car.

Just after covid he started jogging, gym, strict diet and work on his mental state. Looked and sounded like a completely different person. A year ago he got married to a pretty, independent, intelligent and nice lady.

So start taking care of yourself and work on your mental and physical condition, and the right person will cross your path, maybe even someone you haven't noticed before.
 
SlinkyMike said:
This is accurate to a degree. I think that most people also just want to get through the day though which is what makes the office a terrible place to try and hook up.

Let's do a thing:

Imagine the least attractive woman in your office.

Imagine you are there chipping away at some spreadsheet and a couple of times a day she distracts you to try and hit on you in a semi-playful 'aint we just fun co-workers (but also let's bone)' kind of way.

You're annoyed and probably kind of put off (I don't know what you're into bro).

Now imagine a moderate to very attractive woman in your office and realise that there is a very high likelihood that she sees your advances as you see those of the less attractive woman.

Even if you are decent looking, well dressed and charming the decent thing to do is to avoid thinking with your piel at work and if you really must schit where you eat then do it at a social not by her desk.

Jim from The Office is an absolute creep in real life. Know that.
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SlinkyMike said:
Yea spot on. A lot of SA males tend to think they can pull whilst cruising around in a PT pant and flip flops.

There are also loads of guys in their late 30s - early 40s, out of shape and expecting to hook up with 20 year old gym bods. They get seriously uptight if you point out that it ain't gonna happen and even more so if you point out that it's a little gross. Men tend not to be able to do that little role reversal exercise: imagine you're 22 and theres an out of shape 40-something woman acting like you owe her a pomp, fun hey?

Just be realistic, be clean and decently turned out (if you don't have an eye then do this: chinos, a shirt ((with buttons)) and a pair of Stan Smiths, nothing could be easier), and don't wear hiking boots as casual wear.

Also, and this is the outlier part: if you are naturally confident and funny it doesn't matter what you look like. I've see some Shrek looking mofos with attractive partners, you ask yourself how and then after a beer and ten minutes straight laughing with the guy you realise it's just plain charisma. The dude is genuinely likeable and that's hard to beat.
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Your hypothetical has a fatal flaw, in that woman's brains work very differently from men. If the guy comes with the right energy despite his looks and what he's dressed like he's in with a chance for at least a one time pomp
 
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SauRoNZA said:
Caveat here…dress for what you want.

If you are looking for a Barbie you need to look like Ken.

If you are looking for a goth girl, you need to look like Dracula.

If you wear hiking boots as casual wear…then you attract hiking boots as casual wear and shouldn’t be at all surprised if that’s all you get.

Somehow guys seem oblivious to the above and want to put in zero effort but expect to attract Barbie.

Also, unless you are Ken and high maintenance yourself…you really don’t want Barbie.
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Wow you seem to be an expert on this matter, I thought you were married?
 
Avbob se stoep said:
what does 24/155 mean. Is that her rating? Imagine the dad is telling you she is a 2/10, which he rates as fair, and she has a MBA, so she's smart hahahah.
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Skin tone. She's light skinned.

But yeh... not the weirdest ad out there
Groom-wanted-for-marriage.png


But no, the original ad is for a 24 year old, 155cm fair skinned woman.

As for weirdest marriage customs. Bangladesh gets close...
www.thetatva.in

Mandi Tribe in Bangladesh practices father-daughter marriage

The Mandi tribe, who are mostly found in Bangladesh, have been following this practice for a very long time.
www.thetatva.in www.thetatva.in
 
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SauRoNZA said:
You want a date?

Take a baby to a wedding expo.

It will literally be dripping everywhere and you’ll need protection to get out of there alive.

Honestly I don’t know how it works but as a married man with a kid you are far more marketable somehow, maybe because it shows that you can get the thing done.

If I wanted to date it’s as simple as dropping my kids off at school and chatting to the nearest hot mom, they don’t even need to be single half the time.
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So the easiest way to date is to get married and have kids? Dunno, seems like a lot of effort for a date.
 
Sepeng said:
So the easiest way to date is to get married and have kids? Dunno, seems like a lot of effort for a date.
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Oh I didn’t say it was the easier way…just for some bizarre reason it allows you to pull like never before in those situations.
 
SauRoNZA said:
Caveat here…dress for what you want.

If you are looking for a Barbie you need to look like Ken.

If you are looking for a goth girl, you need to look like Dracula.

If you wear hiking boots as casual wear…then you attract hiking boots as casual wear and shouldn’t be at all surprised if that’s all you get.

Somehow guys seem oblivious to the above and want to put in zero effort but expect to attract Barbie.

Also, unless you are Ken and high maintenance yourself…you really don’t want Barbie.
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The tl/dr version. People are superficial. Dress nicely and everyone will buy into your act
 
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Lets face it.

Marriage and dating is a financial transaction between two parties.
1. Easy girls are those with no real money, most just want a blesser or so. If they have good looks then they may have a chance.
2. Most better quality girls, you need to bring something to the party. If you dont have money then they most likely wont bother. Why should they spend money to dress nice and look nice, while the guy cant even afford to take them to a nice restaurant.
3. Super Rich girls? You wont meet them on a dating app. Most are matchmaker styles. Ie arranged marriages. Its not about love as much but about expanding the family wealth.

This may be a funny commercial but its so true in Asia. You will be measured based on your family name and history, how much money you have, where did you study, how fancy your house is, etc


Engagement in Asia you have to bring a lot of gifts, and its a combination of the two families. If you dont have money you probs wont fit in.
 
ShaunSA said:
The tl/dr version. People are superficial. Dress nicely and everyone will buy into your act
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Dont be like the dumb idiot and drive with a Golf GTI but when you take her back home, your home is a dump, or worse you are an adult but stay with your parents still and havent moved out. Thats a big no no.

Unless your parent is Bill Gates.
 
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