Why Dating Today Is Nearly Impossible

[airborne]

If you need tattoo's to show you're chilled out (whatever the f**k that means), you're a doorknob.

The only thing they're a harbinger of is the need for external validation or an unhealthy focus on one's looks and how others perceive you.... there is no ifs and buts about it. And while anyone can struggle with that at some point in their lives, not realising that and etching it into your skin is low IQ and embarassing.

Luckily, the tides seem to be turning on that with the newer generation so I don't have to convince anyone, they're seeing it for themselves by looking at the current crop.

If by this late stage in life you don't understand what being chilled means then you have issues far more serious than someone who just has a few ill conceived tattoos. But don't worry you'll easily find a compatible mate to hook up with, shallow uptight judgemental, there are plenty of your type in the world #blessed

 

[RaptorSA]

If by this late stage in life you don't understand what being chilled means then you have issues far more serious than someone who just has a few ill conceived tattoos. But don't worry you'll easily find a compatible mate to hook up with, shallow uptight judgemental, there are plenty of your type in the world #blessed

There's not nearly enough of us truth tellers.
Not even close to it.

The supposed conservative "manosphere" bullss**t in recent years have taken hold of the discussions about these topics I just leaned into, that's as good as it's been for a while, but all it's doing is politicising reality and I can't wait for this whole thing to die so we actually talk about reality.

There are some deep problems in the west we need to talk about that's been panning out in the real-world that cannot be ignored forever, problems I shrugged off as generational issues, no they're not.

 

[Benedict A55h0le not]

My sugar babies are not even half my age and they always tell me how crap the men their age are. They tried dating on dating sites but it is never a good experience for them. Now they have me, an old man, and they seem very happy. They are not even trying to date anymore. I also do have a humongous schlong, which helps.

 

[TofuMofu]

My sugar babies are not even half my age and they always tell me how crap the men their age are. They tried dating on dating sites but it is never a good experience for them. Now they have me, an old man, and they seem very happy. They are not even trying to date anymore. I also do have a humongous schlong, which helps.

 

[RaptorSA]

My sugar babies are not even half my age and they always tell me how crap the men their age are. They tried dating on dating sites but it is never a good experience for them. Now they have me, an old man, and they seem very happy. They are not even trying to date anymore. I also do have a humongous schlong, which helps.

6 inches in length and circumference being called "humongous" is apparently a thing now... (don't ask).
I have to wonder, is the water, maybe, actually, turning the frogs gay?
To be clear, I don't care, even if it's made mostly out of micro-plastics, enough inches is still enough inches.... until it's not?

 

[Tim_vb]

I dunno... dating up till two years ago seemed really easy between apps and friends of friends, all you have to do is not be an insufferable, red pilled member of the manosphere . Now that i'm married I agree it's become difficult ... not worth it really

 

[Jet-Fighter7700]

one question ive always had is how do you approach somebody new without knowing if they are married/in a relationship/BF looks like Hercules and will rearrange my face for talking to his Chick.

I'll be really honest here, wanted to try my hand at the dating apps, lurked about the tinder thread, was never sure if its for me,
got some on again off again relationships with Women, never went further than 1st/2nd date,

then in my particular case there is the whole religious/nationality aspect, I mean Id date a fellow Jew quite happily
where would I start, and conversely, somebody here in CPT who absolutely hates Jews and Israel, how will I deal with it.

 

[3WA]

one question ive always had is how do you approach somebody new without knowing if they are married/in a relationship/BF looks like Hercules and will rearrange my face for talking to his Chick

You don’t open with “Hey, I want to date you”. Try opening with “Hey, my reaction score on Mybroadband is over 20,000”. The conversation will flow from there.

Or, high risk, high reward, “This turtle don’t need no hood” while waving your penis at her.

 

[EthanMH]

one question ive always had is how do you approach somebody new without knowing if they are married/in a relationship/BF looks like Hercules and will rearrange my face for talking to his Chick.

I'll be really honest here, wanted to try my hand at the dating apps, lurked about the tinder thread, was never sure if its for me,
got some on again off again relationships with Women, never went further than 1st/2nd date,

then in my particular case there is the whole religious/nationality aspect, I mean Id date a fellow Jew quite happily
where would I start, and conversely, somebody here in CPT who absolutely hates Jews and Israel, how will I deal with it.

Bar Refaeli
Gal Gadot
Natalie Portman

Wtf do you want with hamas supporters?

 

[Benedict A55h0le not]

6 inches in length and circumference being called "humongous" is apparently a thing now... (don't ask).
I have to wonder, is the water, maybe, actually, turning the frogs gay?
To be clear, I don't care, even if it's made mostly out of micro-plastics, enough inches is still enough inches.... until it's not?

I don`t know, my sugar babies always tell me "it is HHHUUUUGGGEEEEE!". I never really care how big my schlong is, but when I look down I can see their mouths are stretched to the max, and they try to force it in but it never goes in more than half way. A sugaring session always starts like this:

Sugarbaby: "it is HHHUUUUGGGEEEEE!"
Me/daddy: "you always say that...."

 

[RaptorSA]

one question ive always had is how do you approach somebody new without knowing if they are married/in a relationship/BF looks like Hercules and will rearrange my face for talking to his Chick.

I'll be really honest here, wanted to try my hand at the dating apps, lurked about the tinder thread, was never sure if its for me,
got some on again off again relationships with Women, never went further than 1st/2nd date,

then in my particular case there is the whole religious/nationality aspect, I mean Id date a fellow Jew quite happily
where would I start, and conversely, somebody here in CPT who absolutely hates Jews and Israel, how will I deal with it.

You're a Jew, I'd ..... give it ................. a "few" years...................................this current "Jewish"/white European dichotomy we're finding ourselves in isn't working out that well.
Something is not lekker.

 

[TofuMofu]

one question ive always had is how do you approach somebody new without knowing if they are married/in a relationship/BF looks like Hercules and will rearrange my face for talking to his Chick.

I'll be really honest here, wanted to try my hand at the dating apps, lurked about the tinder thread, was never sure if its for me,
got some on again off again relationships with Women, never went further than 1st/2nd date,

then in my particular case there is the whole religious/nationality aspect, I mean Id date a fellow Jew quite happily
where would I start, and conversely, somebody here in CPT who absolutely hates Jews and Israel, how will I deal with it.

I wonder who's fault that is? The eternal victim of course.

 

[SauRoNZA]

Jirre ouens.
With most movies these days being as k@k as they are, I find myself scrolling through Tinder sometimes while some woke trash plays itself into uncaring fulfilment in the background. Obviously it's just for entertainment, dating apps are cancer if you actually think you're going to get something out of it.

But, I just need to get this off my chest:

Girls, the mad rush in the past ~20 or so years to stamp and trace the living "individual" sh*t out of yourselves really did a number on you. Fashion-trending your f**ing skin with tattoo's was the ultimate k@k idea.

Dearlord, these women look utterly atrocious now, even the good-looking ones who thought it was a fantastic idea to turn themselves into multicoloured clowns by stamping trends, thoughts, patterns, ideas, memories and godnows what else into their skin permanently... and it doesn't take much time to realise you're kinda f**ed now, especially when they hit their 40's, there must be a reason every second one is covered in bumper stickers and still single, even if they're attractive. The causation/correlation argument isn't even relevant, the tribe has spoken, or at least, many of us are, you'll find us swarming under that rock you're not strong enough to lift, even with all those masculine tats (yes, it includes the f**ing butterfly and the Ivy leaf)

No decent guy looking for anything other than a cheap low-resistance f**k is going to go all-in to win some leathery sleeved boss b**h who looks like she spent her 20's leopard crawling through an oil spill to rinse off that bukkake, and you just know when you see them their financial situation, or lack thereof, correlates closely to the fuzzy edge dissipation on those black skidmarks.

I took a massive societal knock on occasions over the past 25 years because I always told people, friend of girlfriend, what I thought about their tattoos or their idea of getting them, and dear lord, do people get upset when you're being honest on this topic (Typical case of "don't ask me if you've already decided what you want me to say" situations).
But, I was always wondering when this day would come and for me, in my middle age, it's finally here, I now get to see the regret and fallout play out in real-time and the only occasional frustration I have, other than sexual, is not getting that "told you so" moment.

I'm actually seriously considering telling my nephew I'll sponsor him an interest free loan so he can start a tattoo removal business as a sideline thing so he can pay me off and shove me a small revenue percentage in future on the financial killing he's likely to make, the amount of regret money on the table in the coming years is going to be insane.

Haven’t met a tattoo’d girl who wasn’t made hotter for it.

Contrary to your statement they are pretty much always married or as good as being in long term relationships.

I honestly don’t understand where this hatred of tattoos stems from. Must be from the same pit that wants to marry virgins with no experience or test drives beforehand which is a terrible gamble to take in life.

 

[Tim_vb]

one question ive always had is how do you approach somebody new without knowing if they are married/in a relationship/BF looks like Hercules and will rearrange my face for talking to his Chick.

I'll be really honest here, wanted to try my hand at the dating apps, lurked about the tinder thread, was never sure if its for me,
got some on again off again relationships with Women, never went further than 1st/2nd date,

then in my particular case there is the whole religious/nationality aspect, I mean Id date a fellow Jew quite happily
where would I start, and conversely, somebody here in CPT who absolutely hates Jews and Israel, how will I deal with it.

type in your tinder profile bio "Hello I'm Jewish looking for a Jewish partner"

 

[SlinkyMike]

somebody here in CPT who absolutely hates Jews and Israel, how will I deal with it.

Although I can't say that there aren't extremists in the world I think this is either overblown or you're rocking up to dates waving an IDF flag. Very few people hate "ze Jews" it's more about ethnonationalism, something we should as South Africans be keenly vigilant of. I say this as a Jewish person: decrying the apartheid state of Israel is not antisemitism.

Haven’t met a tattoo’d girl who wasn’t made hotter for it.

Contrary to your statement they are pretty much always married or as good as being in long term relationships.

I honestly don’t understand where this hatred of tattoos stems from. Must be from the same pit that wants to marry virgins with no experience or test drives beforehand which is a terrible gamble to take in life.

Look at his post in totality, movies suck, women suck, tattoos suck... Dude is like MyBBs Hamlet - "...man delights not me, nor woman neither". I can just see him parked on a bench outside the Ster-Kinekor lamenting: "what is this quintessence of dust?" as he checks out the Now Showing posters.

 

[Smiggles]

Most have tattoos nowadays so you're SOL.

 

[RaptorSA]

Haven’t met a tattoo’d girl who wasn’t made hotter for it.

Contrary to your statement they are pretty much always married or as good as being in long term relationships.

I honestly don’t understand where this hatred of tattoos stems from. Must be from the same pit that wants to marry virgins with no experience or test drives beforehand which is a terrible gamble to take in life.

Nope. Not a chance.
I just have to open Tinder and immediately this is proven wrong.
This looks ridiculous and if you think it doesn't then good on you, I guess.

Imagine being married to this, each time you wanted to look at your wife's cleavage your brain first has to decipher some serpent snake medusa looking thing staring back at you. She even calls herself Medusa, how many things had to go wrong in this person's brain to think that's a good look and image to put out into the world, for the rest of your existence. Imagine her being 55 or 60 years old looking like this and having to keep up the edgy medusa thing. Her unhappiness is guaranteed, and no person would convince me otherwise.

Oh, and you know she's dated tons of men in the past, each and every one of them guaranteed to be some low IQ a-hole with a RAP sheet and a job that pays cash unde the table. This a masterclass in how to make sure your existence is not guided by what you do or who you are, but by a momentary decision you took when you were younger and surrounded by people who didn't have the balls to criticise your decisions.
Society need to stop infantilising and validating these women

 

[rh1]

Haven’t met a tattoo’d girl who wasn’t made hotter for it.

Contrary to your statement they are pretty much always married or as good as being in long term relationships.

I honestly don’t understand where this hatred of tattoos stems from. Must be from the same pit that wants to marry virgins with no experience or test drives beforehand which is a terrible gamble to take in life.

Fair enough, I myself have always been turned off by women with tattoos.

Since I am atheist its not religion, it just I dont find it attractive.

But I am married, so it does not bother me, since I am not looking, so I treat them the same as I treat any other person.

But if I was dating, I would avoid women with tattoos.

 

[Cius]

Tattoos were always a big turnoff for me. One of the biggest players I knew (hundreds of one night stands) went out looking for girls with them to tumble. He specialized in targeting girls with daddy issues and apparently tattoos were one of the no 1 signs of that in that era. Not sure if still true as back then (late 90's early 2000's) tattoo's were still something most dads would disapprove of.

Anyways, to each their own, very much a personal choice. Just understand that not all of us see the appeal and while I am happy for you to do what you want with your skin it would be a turn off for me and many others. I also think its long term consequences are poorly understood by those doing it the moment. Considering how tacky tattoo's look 20 years later once you have picked up weight, and the ink lines start to get fuzzy and less clear as you age meaning they can start looking worse over time. I also think employers should not be called discriminatory for requiring no tattoos in certain client facing roles. If you are a hotel who regularly caters to traveling Japanese tourists (a place were tattoo = yakuza generally) you can't expect them to hire a person transforming themselves into a tattoo canvas. It would cost them business.

 

[RaptorSA]

Tattoos were always a big turnoff for me. One of the biggest players I knew (hundreds of one night stands) went out looking for girls with them to tumble. He specialized in targeting girls with daddy issues and apparently tattoos were one of the no 1 signs of that in that era. Not sure if still true as back then (late 90's early 2000's) tattoo's were still something most dads would disapprove of.

Anyways, to each their own, very much a personal choice. Just understand that not all of us see the appeal and while I am happy for you to do what you want with your skin it would be a turn off for me and many others. I also think its long term consequences are poorly understood by those doing it the moment. Considering how tacky tattoo's look 20 years later once you have picked up weight, and the ink lines start to get fuzzy and less clear as you age meaning they can start looking worse over time. I also think employers should not be called discriminatory for requiring no tattoos in certain client facing roles. If you are a hotel who regularly caters to traveling Japanese tourists (a place were tattoo = yakuza generally) you can't expect them to hire a person transforming themselves into a tattoo canvas. It would cost them business.

...and the thing is it's not about forcing people to conform. It's about setting some societal standards to protect most people against their own bad decisions, or at the very least, add some friction to life altering ones.
If these were edge cases it wouldn't be something I'd bother with, but it's not, it's become a massive thing affecting about 30% of the population and that's a level of pending misery that will affect many more people as time goes by.

The time has come to see this for the momentary fad that it was and start discouraging people from doing it.