As the title says.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 weeks now, yes quite a short time but things have moved really quickly. Within a few days of meeting each other, we started spending almost all of our time with each other. I sleep over at her house almost every night now.
Anyway, things have been going great, until recently. She seems to have become comfortable with me putting most of the effort in. I drive her around, I go to her house, I make plans only with her, we watch the TV shows she wants to watch, I remember to lookup things on the internet that she mentions in passing, I always make her tea in the mornings and sms first every day. Suffice to say, its becoming a bit one sided and I'm getting sick of it. Why is it, when you treat a girl nice, she becomes bored? Stops bothering to put effort in. What the hell? Now I need to scale back, even though I want to see her, just so that she will start to take more of an interest again and putting more effort in.
Before you ask, I understand the confidence thing. As a matter of fact, I'm very confident. She even asked me, when we started dating, how I got so confident (that sounds like a boast but its not meant to be, its just there to illustrate a point). I know girls want men with a backbone, and I have no problem with that. I do have a backbone. The thing is, up until now, I was doings the Man Way - simple and direct. I want to sms you, so I sms you. I want to see you, so I see you. It turns out that because we get on so well, I want to sms or see her pretty much all the time. But me doing that meant she started putting in zero effort.
So now I need to start doing things the female way. I need to avoid seeing her even though I want to see her, to get a point across. You cant imagine how much it irritates me, not being straight with someone, just so they wont get bored with me and find someone else. So now I dont know whether to tell her I dont feel appreciated, which might make her run for the hills anyway, or carry on holding back to see if she gets the message.
So why are women like this? Why do they want to be treated badly at least some of the time? Some, or most of the time, a girl will want to be treated like a princess. The rest of the time, she wants to be treated like dirt. The thing that gets me, is that no girl will admit to wanting to be treated like dirt. But treat a girl too nice, and she will lose interest and disappear. Guaranteed.
Look at this for a good explanation. Earlier on in that thread are some posts by me on the subject.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 weeks now, yes quite a short time but things have moved really quickly. Within a few days of meeting each other, we started spending almost all of our time with each other. I sleep over at her house almost every night now.
Anyway, things have been going great, until recently. She seems to have become comfortable with me putting most of the effort in. I drive her around, I go to her house, I make plans only with her, we watch the TV shows she wants to watch, I remember to lookup things on the internet that she mentions in passing, I always make her tea in the mornings and sms first every day. Suffice to say, its becoming a bit one sided and I'm getting sick of it. Why is it, when you treat a girl nice, she becomes bored? Stops bothering to put effort in. What the hell? Now I need to scale back, even though I want to see her, just so that she will start to take more of an interest again and putting more effort in.
Before you ask, I understand the confidence thing. As a matter of fact, I'm very confident. She even asked me, when we started dating, how I got so confident (that sounds like a boast but its not meant to be, its just there to illustrate a point). I know girls want men with a backbone, and I have no problem with that. I do have a backbone. The thing is, up until now, I was doings the Man Way - simple and direct. I want to sms you, so I sms you. I want to see you, so I see you. It turns out that because we get on so well, I want to sms or see her pretty much all the time. But me doing that meant she started putting in zero effort.
So now I need to start doing things the female way. I need to avoid seeing her even though I want to see her, to get a point across. You cant imagine how much it irritates me, not being straight with someone, just so they wont get bored with me and find someone else. So now I dont know whether to tell her I dont feel appreciated, which might make her run for the hills anyway, or carry on holding back to see if she gets the message.
So why are women like this? Why do they want to be treated badly at least some of the time? Some, or most of the time, a girl will want to be treated like a princess. The rest of the time, she wants to be treated like dirt. The thing that gets me, is that no girl will admit to wanting to be treated like dirt. But treat a girl too nice, and she will lose interest and disappear. Guaranteed.
Look at this for a good explanation. Earlier on in that thread are some posts by me on the subject.
