Why do people cheat?

I am in an open relationship and i often discuss partners with my partner. I haven't vetoed someone yet, but i have told her who i didn't like or thought would mistreat her.

Some of the mongomous guys can be just as big a douche canoes as the guys who see an open relationship as a sexfest
 
Rouxenator said:
That said, it is still possible to cheat in an open relationship if you are not honest about what you get up to.
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A couple I knew broke up because of this. They had a open relationship....but would only play together. Then the one guy found IM's or emails or some form of electronic communication between his boyfriend and a guy he did not know. All hell broke loose and he kicked his partner out the very next day.
 
Robocop said:
Where is ninja'd now..... he will tell you that there is no such thing as cheating. People just do what they need to do.
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1) I appreciate being name dropped
2) I never said that here. Only thing I remember was encouraging zululami cause he was in a tight spot.
3) I feel like you actually know me irl and saw me this past weekend so please don't snitch. It's still early days.
 
I guess people get tired of eating at the same place all the time. Sometimes an alternative meal seems enticing.
 
Random Hero said:
Why do people in seemingly happy relationships cheat?

I wonder if its psychological to be so deceptive...

What's your opinion?
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Because they seem to be happy but they are really not.

Read this on FB the other day:
It is considered "responsible" to seek another job while you already have one, it is considered cheating to seek another GF while you have one.
 
ShaunSA said:
rofl :D

Always amazes me when someone thinks his/her partner won't cheat. Meantime said partner is shagging half the world and its dog.
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Thing is a relationship is usually built on trust, and a few years ago I would have defended that position, but sadly I've seen much evidence to support what you say. You can trust no one completely , but yourself. People who don't cheat are those with integrity, and that's something that is sorely lacking in many people.
 
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My current partner won't cheat and that's a fact. He's trying to get a start-up off the ground and he simply doesn't have the time. :D

My previous partner though, eish. He cheated from the get-go and I never realised it because I naively wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. In his case he wanted to make himself look like a player in the eyes of his peers. Meanwhile he's got a terrible reputation around town for being horrible in bed and people were laughing about him at a function he attended just before we broke up, because he was running around like a rabid weasel looking for someone to **** and nobody was interested.

Sometimes people are very, very weird.

CamiKaze said:
Read this on FB the other day:
It is considered "responsible" to seek another job while you already have one, it is considered cheating to seek another GF while you have one.
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Maybe not cheating, but if you're actively looking for a new partner while you've got a partner then you're probably in relationships for the wrong reason.
 
ok. so I am that ass that did cheat. a lot. and even though I am not proud of it, I dont mind talking about it.

when I was in Uni I cheated for the rush. I was the bad boy that every girl knew would break her heart.
and they still tried. every girl thought they could change me. every girl failed.

I wanted to get caught and see if I could talk my way out of it. and I did on both accounts.
it was all about the conquest of it.

then I got into an open relationship. if i want another girl now, all I need to do is discuss it like an adult with my SO.
because of this I have not cheated in 5 years. and I doubt I will.

tell someone they are not allowed to do something and what happens? thuy do it. I was told I am not allowed to cheat, so I did.
 
Baxteen said:
then I got into an open relationship. if i want another girl now, all I need to do is discuss it like an adult with my SO.
because of this I have not cheated in 5 years. and I doubt I will.

tell someone they are not allowed to do something and what happens? thuy do it. I was told I am not allowed to cheat, so I did.
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I just want to clarify.

Because you now can if you want to you don't pomp other chicks, aka "cheating" is now replaced with "pomping" or you still do it now but it's just not called cheating?

Just trying to understand the point you are making as it can mean two very different things.
 
Baxteen said:
ok. so I am that ass that did cheat. a lot. and even though I am not proud of it, I dont mind talking about it.

when I was in Uni I cheated for the rush. I was the bad boy that every girl knew would break her heart.
and they still tried. every girl thought they could change me. every girl failed.

I wanted to get caught and see if I could talk my way out of it. and I did on both accounts.
it was all about the conquest of it.

then I got into an open relationship. if i want another girl now, all I need to do is discuss it like an adult with my SO.
because of this I have not cheated in 5 years. and I doubt I will.

tell someone they are not allowed to do something and what happens? thuy do it. I was told I am not allowed to cheat, so I did.
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Sadistic, Selfish, Sociopathic bag of douche, why deliberately break someone heart? who are you ****in Taio Cruz... Its saddens me that you have this selfish view of life.. you pretty much wrecked people who could have given more to someone who deserves it. now they are probably in such an emotional state that they turn into a sadist like yourself and creates a cluster **** that grows like a pyramid scheme... great job dude

Maar onthou...

Die wiel, hy draai.

ShaunSA said:
rofl :D

Always amazes me when someone thinks his/her partner won't cheat. Meantime said partner is shagging half the world and its dog.
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Something tells me that you are in a dark place and that you have been wrecked by someone? probably one of baxteens previous rushes
 
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