Why does she do this...

[STS]

When she eventually sms's you back, ignore it.
When she calls you after that, be friendly as you were originally but cut her off mid conversation and tell her you will call her back, don't.

Carry on like that for a few weeks then ask her if she would like to meet you for drinks, get there 40 minutes late (or just don't go).

Eventually she will want to shag you out of insecurity. Do it and treat it as a one night stand then block her number.

She is destroyed, you can carry on with your life.

this will be her facial expression forever

http://media.giphy.com/media/1bffEtmXGc8Ny/giphy.gif

 

[FrankCastle]

You never under any circumstances use the word "soothing" with a woman.

Now she thinks you're a freak who needs therapy.

 

[AstroTurf]

Jeez, and you say women are vindictive and spiteful?
You've been doing well aside from the blip. Treat is at one and move on. Don't respond to messages or calls from her.

Did that sound vindictive? I thought I was being playful After all she can take what she gives right?

 

[GforceD]

Of course there is always that one girl, who's totally your kryptonite! *sigh*

 

[Eskomisaloser]

I did read you messege and it make sense to me but the computer nurds on the website learn you the wrong stuff evans though they dont know of girls. the other messege you did get is from her friend who did want you to back off so she or he did sent the messege when your girlfriend did past out from the wine so the friend did take her phone to send the messege

 

[Nerfherder]

When she eventually sms's you back, ignore it.
When she calls you after that, be friendly as you were originally but cut her off mid conversation and tell her you will call her back, don't.

Carry on like that for a few weeks then ask her if she would like to meet you for drinks, get there 40 minutes late (or just don't go).

Eventually she will want to shag you out of insecurity. Do it and treat it as a one night stand then block her number.

She is destroyed, you can carry on with your life.

Sad thing... it will probably happen like that.


Just make sure you are strong enough to be that cold.

 

[D3nz]

I did read you messege and it make sense to me but the computer nurds on the website learn you the wrong stuff evans though they dont know of girls. the other messege you did get is from her friend who did want you to back off so she or he did sent the messege when your girlfriend did past out from the wine so the friend did take her phone to send the messege

Mushroom!!!

 

[Celine]

Mushroom!!!

exactly - the cuteness is back

 

[Spontaneous Interruption]

Mushroom!!!

I'm with you on this. That's a special kind of special.

 

[ShaunSA]

Mushroom!!!

exactly - the cuteness is back

Craziness

 

[RandomDesign]

So I dated this girl for 4 years.. It was quite deep, we already discussed things like marriage, kids, our home... Everything.
then we broke up earlier this year. actually we broke up twice then I left.

Wednesday:
So anyway. I completely ignored her and went on with my life, haven't heard from her in about 5 weeks.
Then she Randomly calls me to tell me about her new job which is closer to where I stay, I was brief because I had a meeting with a client and the MD. It was weird that she called me because just the day before I started to think about her a lot. Later that day MISTAKE #1 I texted her and said MISTAKE #2 it was great to hear her voice again and she replied similarly.

Friday:
2 days later MISTAKE #3 I called back because I was so brief on the phone when she called. just talked for a bit. Then after the call she texted me to say thanks for the call and she really enjoyed hearing my voice. and then I said MISTAKE #4 something like "I love hearing your soothing voice too"

Saturday Night between 20:00 - 00:00:
She texts me and says Text 1:"Im glad you enjoyed hearing my voice and that it is so soothing"
Text 2:"My voice belongs to my boyfriend" and I reply with "oh and who is he?" (I thought she meant me and was just flirting). But the next day when I sobered up I realized it was probably a new BF or she is trying to make me Jealous.

What do you make of this? why would she call me and text that, and then mention she has a boyfriend?

a spot opened in the FriendZone team and your name came up. you applied for the position and were successful.

as one random guy to another, get back to getting on with your life.

 

[Zewp]

Did that sound vindictive? I thought I was being playful After all she can take what she gives right?

It does sound very vindictive, plus it has a chance to backfire on OP. Best to just ignore her. That's likely to piss her off just as much. Ego-centric people like her usually don't like it when they're being ignored.

 

[SauRoNZA]

Skip the soapie, find someone else.

If they can't be direct and get to the point they aren't worth the effort.

 

[bokdrol]

On the other hand, maybe she is the ONE. It seems you do love her. Which successful relationship has not had its ups and downs? My hubby and I broke up 33 times when we were dating. We have now been married over 20 yrs.

Why did you break up in the first place? Perhaps she contacted you because she misses you but is too proud to admit it?
Anyway, the only thing you can do now is move on and see what happens. Good luck.

 

[Random Hero]

When she eventually sms's you back, ignore it.
When she calls you after that, be friendly as you were originally but cut her off mid conversation and tell her you will call her back, don't.

Carry on like that for a few weeks then ask her if she would like to meet you for drinks, get there 40 minutes late (or just don't go).

Eventually she will want to shag you out of insecurity. Do it and treat it as a one night stand then block her number.

She is destroyed, you can carry on with your life.

This... Thank you sir. But I think I'm just going to go on with my life.
Thing is I think I am going through a lack of confidence dip. In university I was somewhat of a Rasputin, then started dating her... fell in love, wires got all mixed up.. and now this shiiiiity feeling...
Its strange actually I have been meeting girls through friends and randomly the last couple of weeks. but it seems as though I have become a bore.. or maybe because my confidence has been taking a couple of stabs to the gut with like a sword.

On the other hand, maybe she is the ONE. It seems you do love her. Which successful relationship has not had its ups and downs? My hubby and I broke up 33 times when we were dating. We have now been married over 20 yrs.

Why did you break up in the first place? Perhaps she contacted you because she misses you but is too proud to admit it?
Anyway, the only thing you can do now is move on and see what happens. Good luck.

We broke up because She lives in JHB and I live in PTA, and we do not see each other enough and I got frustrated.. the distance never bothered me, but her family is also like weird... parents are divorced, and weird environment... We haven't seen each other because of her studies and I started working this year.
We broke up in February because I wanted to see her and she said she wanted to study and rest the weekend, then some photos got posted of her at some party... left her because of the lie. she came back and said "I'm sorry, I'd do anything to get back". I forgave her.. we were together still didn't see each other between March and May. Then it was a horse slowly dying... then I left. and then everything in the initial post started happening.

I really did love this girl. I felt married to her in my heart already, we had deep conversations, planned our future together, dreamed together. But I think she changed in the last two years... Maybe I became to available? ...I don't know...

 

[AlphaBravo]

You can marry her or you can't, if you do you know that you settled, if you don't you can choose another life partner. Life goes on regardless of what you think is the end all and be all right now. Whatever you decide just stick with it and know your reasons why. If you ask yourself 5 years from now why did I marry her/not marry her, you will know it was the right decision at the time with the info you had then. Then get on with it, time is only on your side for so long...

 

[Nick333]

On the other hand, maybe she is the ONE. It seems you do love her. Which successful relationship has not had its ups and downs? My hubby and I broke up 33 times when we were dating. We have now been married over 20 yrs.

Why did you break up in the first place? Perhaps she contacted you because she misses you but is too proud to admit it?
Anyway, the only thing you can do now is move on and see what happens. Good luck.

The ONE. The one he's very likely to end up divorcing in 5 to 20 years?

 

[Skywalker786]

Message her back and say your left-overs belong to her boyfriend too :twisted:

bwhahahahahahah

 

[bokdrol]

The ONE. The one he's very likely to end up divorcing in 5 to 20 years?

What can you do? It's love......
20 years is a good innings nowadays.

 

[Nanfeishen]

Just make sure you know the difference :