Wife cheated

James 77 said:
Exactly, I told her she cheated, she immediately insisted on the divorce.

I can’t say forsure, but I think she realised too late what we/she had. And that I’m moving on without her. And that there’s another girl potentially (will take a break first) who is very attractive.

I told her we can’t go back. She knew what she was doing, she lied to my face and she has zero respect for me, herself and our marriage.
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James 77 said:
Exactly, I told her she cheated, she immediately insisted on the divorce.

I can’t say forsure, but I think she realised too late what we/she had. And that I’m moving on without her. And that there’s another girl potentially (will take a break first) who is very attractive.

I told her we can’t go back. She knew what she was doing, she lied to my face and she has zero respect for me, herself and our marriage.
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you gonna get another one??? Thats like buying a second mohindra
 
James 77 said:
And that there’s another girl potentially (will take a break first) who is very attractive.
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If you want a lasting relationship, you gonna have to think with your brain and not your hormones. Unless you planning to just mess around to "deal" with the emotional experience you just went through.
 
James 77 said:
Exactly, I told her she cheated, she immediately insisted on the divorce.

I can’t say forsure, but I think she realised too late what we/she had. And that I’m moving on without her. And that there’s another girl potentially (will take a break first) who is very attractive.

I told her we can’t go back. She knew what she was doing, she lied to my face and she has zero respect for me, herself and our marriage.
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Reading your comments and the story, I think you sound like you are in a much better place than she is. I mean, you would think that the person who cheated, is the one who already has one foot out the door to something bigger and better. But she doesn't.

If I'm going to use my super psychic powers, I'll say that she has been unhappy for a while, and is still unhappy. This affair provided some excitement, but definitely didn't make her happy. Now she realises that the risk was not worth it, and things are worse than they have ever been, and this is definitely not making her more happy.

She realises that, while you are incredibly hurt, you'll move on quicker than she will, and you'll bounce back faster, because you have more going on in your life in the first place. She won't bounce back fast, because she wasn't happy or well adjusted to begin with.

She needed counselling like two years ago, to stop things getting as bad as they are. To face up to it and admit she has a problem.
 
What you should do is pop it in the poopah of both hers and the principal to assert dominance.

He scratched in your ssalad, it's about time you toss his salad :thumbsup:
 
Ninja'd said:
Why would I? He's already made an ass out of himself.
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I don't know, but everytime you see someone mentioned arseholes you get very excited, I just guided you to this one to get it over with quickly.
 
James 77 said:
I believe in second chances, but not for cheating. One of the kids parents saw them at a guest house.
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Serious question: how do people find the time fior this schit?

I mean, a guest house?

I don't have time to visit the freaking crapper most days.

Were I to check into a guest house for a pomp there are at least 5 people who would be wondering where the fsck I am... I cannot imagine how people are pulling this stuff off.

Not that I envy them, it must be awful really but just ...how?
 
RedViking said:
If you want a lasting relationship, you gonna have to think with your brain and not your hormones. Unless you planning to just mess around to "deal" with the emotional experience you just went through.
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I agree. Thinking with my brain from now on
 
SlinkyMike said:
Serious question: how do people find the time fior this schit?

I mean, a guest house?

I don't have time to visit the freaking crapper most days.

Were I to check into a guest house for a pomp there are at least 5 people who would be wondering where the fsck I am... I cannot imagine how people are pulling this stuff off.

Not that I envy them, it must be awful really but just ...how?
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I fully agree. Seems like people make time for cheating and gossip as well
 
Ancalagon said:
Reading your comments and the story, I think you sound like you are in a much better place than she is. I mean, you would think that the person who cheated, is the one who already has one foot out the door to something bigger and better. But she doesn't.

If I'm going to use my super psychic powers, I'll say that she has been unhappy for a while, and is still unhappy. This affair provided some excitement, but definitely didn't make her happy. Now she realises that the risk was not worth it, and things are worse than they have ever been, and this is definitely not making her more happy.

She realises that, while you are incredibly hurt, you'll move on quicker than she will, and you'll bounce back faster, because you have more going on in your life in the first place. She won't bounce back fast, because she wasn't happy or well adjusted to begin with.

She needed counselling like two years ago, to stop things getting as bad as they are. To face up to it and admit she has a problem.
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Thank you, I am definitely. And I will be as well.

You are spot on, she says she thought she’d be happy and that she wanted to move to her parents. But she said she realised what she had, and that she doesn’t want to move to them anymore as they have their own lives, and that her life is good.

for us it’s too late though. It always happens that you realise what you had when it’s gone.
 
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