Wife issues [Solved]

Anti-Chris said:
Or just ignore the thing and hope that it will go away on its own... Either be a wuss and accept that she will be banging the x sooner or later, or sort it out now...
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But run the risk of making a small non event into a very real much bigger one.
 
The other issue is my eldest son he is a bit Asperger's and to have something like this, might. Affect him drastically.

He struggles a lot at school already and I just feel so bad to put him through anymore
 
OP, don't admit to snooping. Like a master strategist, you must sow chaos in your favour.

Sit down with your wife and tell her you have something to discuss. She'll ask what. Tell her that (ex's wife) messaged you on Facebook and you thought that was strange. Say you thought she seemed troubled and wanted to reach out but she didn't seem to get to the point, and you didn't respond cause you thought it was strange. You also deleted the message.

Your wife will immediately notify ex that his wife may be aware. Boom - you ruined that dude's marriage before he could ruin yours.

Of course, once ex's marriage is in tatters, he'll have more time to mack on your wife. Again, if you play your cards right there, you'll be able to work that to your advantage (I don't have time to write out the plan for that phase right now).
 
Anonymouse123 said:
The other issue is my eldest son he is a bit Asperger's and to have something like this, might. Affect him drastically.

He struggles a lot at school already and I just feel so bad to put him through anymore
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dont bring your son into this ...

dont emotionally blackmail us ...

we want pics of said wife so we can evaluate your life
 
Anonymouse123 said:
The other issue is my eldest son he is a bit Asperger's and to have something like this, might. Affect him drastically.

He struggles a lot at school already and I just feel so bad to put him through anymore
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I think you need to switch your brain off and stop imagining things.

The something is hardly an anything at this point.

You are getting way ahead of yourself and worrying about stuff that potentially doesn't even need worrying about.

Just talk to the woman. One would hope you have more things you agree on than you disagree one and when you total it all up the result is positive.
 
SauRoNZA said:
Can you honestly even say that has possibly happened after a conversation of a few minutes on Instagram?

Really? In that case...**** me sideways.

The truth of the matter is an affair is a prolonged and dragged out thing with many points of failure the other party has crosses to repeatedly keep themselves invested on the other side instead of their own relationship.

Can you honestly say that is the case here? You don't even know if she would have followed through with meeting up with the guy.
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It wasn't a few minutes. Started in July last year. Most of the talk in march
 
SauRoNZA said:
Oh, I have no issues there.

I just always ponder how we got here and if it could have been avoided by simply being a bit more open and allowing people some space.

Deceit is a very strong term though.
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In the context of marriage, where you playing dice with the emotions of various innocent parties, you can't call it anything else.

OP could just leave it as is and watch in shock and awe how everything unravels - late night appointments, erratic behaviour, disinterested in sex and the list is endless.
 
Anonymouse123 said:
It wasn't a few minutes. Started in July last year. Most of the talk in march
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Now why didn't you say that in the bloody first place.

Now we have a real drama!

Just talk to the woman tonight and get off the internet now, it will do you more harm than good.
 
3WA said:
OP, don't admit to snooping. Like a master strategist, you must sow chaos in your favour.

Sit down with your wife and tell her you have something to discuss. She'll ask what. Tell her that (ex's wife) messaged you on Facebook and you thought that was strange. Say you thought she seemed troubled and wanted to reach out but she didn't seem to get to the point, and you didn't respond cause you thought it was strange. You also deleted the message.

Your wife will immediately notify ex that his wife may be aware. Boom - you ruined that dude's marriage before he could ruin yours.

Of course, once ex's marriage is in tatters, he'll have more time to mack on your wife. Again, if you play your cards right there, you'll be able to work that to your advantage (I don't have time to write out the plan for that phase right now).
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No. Stupid strategy...

Take screenshots, send it to yourself.
Tell wife that someone forwarded you a cropped screenshot so that it seems like the Lawyer dude is spreading things on how to ruin a marriage.
This automatically puts him in the red and if he denies it then how is it that someone sent you a copped image?
Done.
 
@I.am.Sam

You keep on asking for pics. If you want to rub one out then I'll give you a pic of Mandy. jinne tog
 
CamiKaze said:
No. Stupid strategy...

Take screenshots, send it to yourself.
Tell wife that someone forwarded you a cropped screenshot so that it seems like the Lawyer dude is spreading things on how to ruin a marriage.
This automatically puts him in the red and if he denies it then how is it that someone sent you a copped image?
Done.
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Meh, wife will catch on instantly that he snooped.

It's hard thinking up a plan. What about a surveillance robot installed in ex's house?
 
3WA said:
Meh, wife will catch on instantly that he snooped.

It's hard thinking up a plan. What about a surveillance robot installed in ex's house?
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My strategy is sound.
 
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