You have issues...

Nope not involved and i cannot see that i will be again, i enjoy my own stuff too much and i am 31 now, i did the clubbing thing and going out thing from 18-25 which was cool but it was a haze of alcohol and drugs and honestly that is not something i want again. All i want now is too work get home and enjoy myself. Perhaps further down the line i might meet someone and i may change my mind but for now life is great. Work hard and do things i love doing is the way for me :D and for the first time in my life i am happy because as mentioned i have come to terms with who i am and i am happy being who i am and i realize i can't have the family everyone wants if i don't actively seek it.

I still go out once in awhile but i generally leave within a couple hours, once everyone is getting wasted it is game over because they just look idiotic when you are not on the same level :D.
 
Hey Stuart. Have you considered going through a battery of psychological evaluations? This will help pinpoint the underlying disorder/condition plus any co-morbidity(ies) that are latent. Heads up though, psychoanalysis requires that the subject want positive change for it to be beneficial. Secondly, prescription drugs are amazing (dangerous, but amazing nonetheless) as a treatment modality - keep the dosage and ingress schedule properly.

Btw, you are a dick, or at least acting like one. Psycho-emotional disorders that cause ourselves, and especially others, unhappiness is something that needs treatment and correcting. Good luck bro.
 
killadoob said:
Nope not involved and i cannot see that i will be again, i enjoy my own stuff too much and i am 31 now, i did the clubbing thing and going out thing from 18-25 which was cool but it was a haze of alcohol and drugs and honestly that is not something i want again. All i want now is too work get home and enjoy myself. Perhaps further down the line i might meet someone and i may change my mind but for now life is great. Work hard and do things i love doing is the way for me :D and for the first time in my life i am happy because as mentioned i have come to terms with who i am and i am happy being who i am and i realize i can't have the family everyone wants if i don't actively seek it.

I still go out once in awhile but i generally leave within a couple hours, once everyone is getting wasted it is game over because they just look idiotic when you are not on the same level :D.
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I have never done the clubbing thing, it is not me... I cant stand the crap people listen to.
Haha I work, go to the shops to get food, get home, have a drink, relax and maybe do some gardening or photography.

I am looking for the 'cable-girl' who can come fix my antenna connection, haha I know they do not exist.
I like your optimism, it is a great sign that this is not the last stop on this road.

And yes drunkards look like fools when you are the sober one.
Works with stoners too, they took look stupid when you are the sober one.
 
Rubbish, if people don't enjoy things other people do it doesn't mean they need drugs and psychoanalysis.

Granted it depends on the person but way too many people are put on drugs for disorders they do not have.
 
Yeah I am not too sure I really needed these pills, I just went to see a doc to see what he though and straight off the bat he said 'yes'

So I am taking them now, if I do not feel a difference within another two months I will wean off them.
 
ITCynic said:
I have a technique called "Just listen" to de-stress and makes getting through the next day easier ..... easy and do it before you go to sleep at night.

I have explained the technique to quite a few people and they tell me it works for them as well after a few evenings. You need to do it a few times to see if it can work for you.

1. In the dark with the windows in your room open.
2. Clear your mind of all thoughts and try not to think of anything and close your eyes.
3. Concentrate on what you hear and on what you smell. The cooling night air seems to make it easier to smell the different smells in your neighborhood and to hear all the noises around you. Only concentrate on those noises and smells, nothing else.

In other words ..... just listen and do nothing else.

Try it a few times and see if it helps you in any way. Does not cost you anything and what have you got to lose ?
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You'll like this. :)
http://diydharma.org/listening-sound-silence-ajahn-sumedho
 
killadoob said:
Nope not involved and i cannot see that i will be again, i enjoy my own stuff too much and i am 31 now, i did the clubbing thing and going out thing from 18-25 which was cool but it was a haze of alcohol and drugs and honestly that is not something i want again. All i want now is too work get home and enjoy myself. Perhaps further down the line i might meet someone and i may change my mind but for now life is great. Work hard and do things i love doing is the way for me :D and for the first time in my life i am happy because as mentioned i have come to terms with who i am and i am happy being who i am and i realize i can't have the family everyone wants if i don't actively seek it.

I still go out once in awhile but i generally leave within a couple hours, once everyone is getting wasted it is game over because they just look idiotic when you are not on the same level :D.
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I can relate. Somewhat of a loner too with the exception that somedays I do want that human interaction and I find the human psyche very interesting therefore need to roam in their natural habitat to observe them :D But there are many days that I'd be perfectly fine not seeing anybody.

I hate going to family gatherings, just cause its so boring then I'm seen as being anti-social if I bring a book or my ipad.

I've never been much of a social person but I do try and make an effort to experience new things. Even with my weird experiences in online dating, they still make good stories. So Stoner, go for it. Meet ppl where you feel comfortable.
 
StonerStuart said:
I have never done the clubbing thing, it is not me... I cant stand the crap people listen to.
Haha I work, go to the shops to get food, get home, have a drink, relax and maybe do some gardening or photography.

I am looking for the 'cable-girl' who can come fix my antenna connection, haha I know they do not exist.
I like your optimism, it is a great sign that this is not the last stop on this road.

And yes drunkards look like fools when you are the sober one.
Works with stoners too, they took look stupid when you are the sober one.
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Dude, you're a classic introvert feeling abnormal in an extrovert dominated society. Relax.
Go to http://reddit.com/r/intp and have a look around. I think you'll see what I mean.

Also, if you're into the whole personality thing, look at enneagrams types.(don't worry, not some weird Zenu stuffs :D)
I'm guessing you're type 5 or 6.
 
Geriatrix said:
Dude, you're a classic introvert feeling abnormal in an extrovert dominated society.
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Yeah, I feel the discrimination on a daily basis, we should demand our civil right to be anti-social and for it not to be questioned!
 
_Hecate_ said:
I can relate. Somewhat of a loner too with the exception that somedays I do want that human interaction and I find the human psyche very interesting therefore need to roam in their natural habitat to observe them :D But there are many days that I'd be perfectly fine not seeing anybody.

I hate going to family gatherings, just cause its so boring then I'm seen as being anti-social if I bring a book or my ipad.

I've never been much of a social person but I do try and make an effort to experience new things. Even with my weird experiences in online dating, they still make good stories. So Stoner, go for it. Meet ppl where you feel comfortable.
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Yup i also am seen as anti social because i don't like braai's and family gatherings, i better get a head doctor to fix me o wait.... maybe some drugs to make me magically enjoy stuff that bores me. Hmmm maybe rit will work, i can snort it again hahahah.

The way i look at life now is i am only here once, so why must i spend my short life doing shyte other people want me to do. Yes that is selfish but when i die i want to die knowing i was not bored out my mind doing shyte to make everyone else happy.

My best mate is getting married in july and i have to go away for the weekend but you can be sure i will make it the best time ever because i know it's important to him and i am one of the best men, so i am not totally selfish i just don't get why braai's and gatherings are seen as things people have to do or they need to get put on anti depressants :D
 
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Hi. I don't understand. Does it bother you? If not, then it's not a problem. Right?

I've been told that i'm a depressed miserable wretch many times but I've become so used to feeling this way that it's normal for me now.
 
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Aqua_lung said:
Yeah, I feel the discrimination on a daily basis, we should demand our civil right to be anti-social and for it not to be questioned!
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Yes! Force everyone to go to clubs, talk sports around the cooler and go out and have endless meetings. None of this reading, reflecting and alone time crap!
 
Geriatrix said:
Dude, you're a classic introvert feeling abnormal in an extrovert dominated society. Relax.
Go to http://reddit.com/r/intp and have a look around. I think you'll see what I mean.

Also, if you're into the whole personality thing, look at enneagrams types.(don't worry, not some weird Zenu stuffs :D)
I'm guessing you're type 5 or 6.
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Love it!!!!! i am an introvert that felt abnormal but not anymore now i feel normal and i am super happy :D.

Yes aqua we need rights, i am tired of this discrimination we have to suffer :p
 
Stop worrying about what other people think about you.
If they dont like you, or accept you, so what !
People have issues, fact of life. People often project their own issues onto other people.
Some people are extremely good at this until one often feels that one has the issues in question. They play the blame game or the hurt game or the guilt game so insiduously that after a while you actually begin to believe it.
Had that for a couple of years in a relationship, until luckily i realised that it actually wasnt me with the issues after all.

We also unfortunately live in a society that has become obsessed with the word "social", everything is about social this or social that, its F-ing annoying to the point of nausea.
Some people are just not social, some people enjoy their own company, some people enjoy privacy and a bit of space, some people just arent interested in socialising or feel the need to do so.
Doesnt mean that you have issues, it others who take issue with your difference from the herd.
 
killadoob said:
Yes aqua we need rights, i am tired of this discrimination we have to suffer :p
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Yeah I went for a job interview and the HR agent asked me why am I so quiet... I felt discriminated! probably why I never got the job, since they liked my work but I just won't "fit in".
 
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