Morning folks.
I will try and keep this as short and sweet as possible in order not to bore anyone to sleep. Any advice/comments about this matter will be highly appreciated as it is a bit of a tough one and my wife and I are in need of some good, solid pointers so we can do the right thing.
My wife and I are unofficial foster parents to a child which comes from within our family, and we've been looking after her for the last 7 years from an age of 3 months old. She knows us as 'mom' and 'dad', even though she is fully aware that she does not technically come from us. My wife is in actual fact her aunt as the little one is the biological child of her older brother.
Said brother is a 48 year old tik addict who doesn't work lives in a garage on the same premises as we do. To support his habit he manufactures tik 'lollies' in exchange for his 'hits'. Since we have started looking after and caring for his daughter he has fathered a boy of 5 which lives with them in the garage, and we were horrified to find out a couple of months ago that his 'partner' has now yet again fallen pregnant, and is probably due to pop in January, with yet another child left stranded. She is also an addict which suffers from TB due to the drug abuse, and like her partner has little if any regard for the children they are so carelessly bringing into this world.
The brother was given a place to stay (by my mother-in-law, who owns the premises) when the birth of the child my wife and I have been looking after was imminent, and has been living here ever since, rent and responsibility free. He is abusive. He is violent when he hasn't had his fix. He DEMANDS food and money from his mother on a daily basis, and uses his children to blackmail my mother-in-law into giving him what he wants. Of course, she is a feisty old lady and doesn't simply give in, but eventually she does give in, if only to have some semblance of peace during any given day. She is 68 years of age and has to look after a frail husband of 74 which suffers from vascular dementia and is probably on his last legs, with perhaps another year to live. All this in between abuse, threats of violence, demands for money and food.
My wife and I have decided to say in a granny flat on the premises in order to be able to protect my mom-in-law from this piece of scum, because without us he would simply barge into her home and probably kill her, given half a chance. The only person he has a modicum of respect for is myself as I have had to take him down a couple of times, one of which landed me in court in front of a judge. I am actually an old-school boer and have to do everything in my power NOT to take this guy out when given the chance.
My wife, myself and mom-in-law look after the kids. We pay their schoolfees. We feed them. We clothe them. We bath them. We teach them the ways of decent people. In short, we do EVERYTHING for these kids, with not a single dead cent received from the parents as a contribution. Yet, the first thing that comes out of this abusive, obnoxious pig's mouth when he doesn't get food or money from his mother is that he will 'take his kids and line.' This has been going on for years, and while there are no more bricks flying through windows or bricks landing on roofs or backdoors being broken, the verbal abuse carries on and, to be honest, all of us are absolutely GATVOL of this guy.
As if this is not enough, being who he is he brings the dregs of society onto the premises to come and buy their lollies or swap them for a hit, and this on a Sunday afternoon when you are trying to have a good time with a child that isn't biologically yours and gets exposed to this kind of crap and abuse on an almost daily basis. It is sick and unacceptable.
My wife and I are expecting our first biological child in April next year, and we are torn between moving away from here to spare our newborn the abuse and staying here to protect my mother-in-law, who is getting on in age and has very little chance of fending for herself in our absence. To give you an idea, the situation is so bad that whenever the cops are called up to come and sort this guy out there is a collective rolling of eyes when they hear the address which they are to go to.
Our plan is to legally get rid of this idiot in a bid to afford my mom-in-law some semblance of peace in her last couple of years on this earth. We are however very concerned for the kids, especially our foster daughter, whom we've come to love and protect as our own, and we fear that the likes of welfare will simply take her away, or - worse - hand her over to her biological parents, with whom she's had absolutely zero contact, despite living on the same premises for years, and with whom she would most likely me whored out for a fix or three, the though of which is too much to bear.
If there is anyone out there who can point us in the right direction to get this situation sorted without harming the kids I would be very grateful for your advice. We want to get the ball rolling on getting rid of this bastard and we don't quite know where to start. We have approached welfare on numerous occasions, but despite promises of a visit to the premises they simply never pitch up and we are at wit's end as far as they are concerned. My wife and I want to be legal parents to her niece, who is an amazing little child, and we want to save the boy and the coming baby from the atrocious existence they are experiencing at present.
Any advice would be much appreciated. God bless you all.
I will try and keep this as short and sweet as possible in order not to bore anyone to sleep. Any advice/comments about this matter will be highly appreciated as it is a bit of a tough one and my wife and I are in need of some good, solid pointers so we can do the right thing.
My wife and I are unofficial foster parents to a child which comes from within our family, and we've been looking after her for the last 7 years from an age of 3 months old. She knows us as 'mom' and 'dad', even though she is fully aware that she does not technically come from us. My wife is in actual fact her aunt as the little one is the biological child of her older brother.
Said brother is a 48 year old tik addict who doesn't work lives in a garage on the same premises as we do. To support his habit he manufactures tik 'lollies' in exchange for his 'hits'. Since we have started looking after and caring for his daughter he has fathered a boy of 5 which lives with them in the garage, and we were horrified to find out a couple of months ago that his 'partner' has now yet again fallen pregnant, and is probably due to pop in January, with yet another child left stranded. She is also an addict which suffers from TB due to the drug abuse, and like her partner has little if any regard for the children they are so carelessly bringing into this world.
The brother was given a place to stay (by my mother-in-law, who owns the premises) when the birth of the child my wife and I have been looking after was imminent, and has been living here ever since, rent and responsibility free. He is abusive. He is violent when he hasn't had his fix. He DEMANDS food and money from his mother on a daily basis, and uses his children to blackmail my mother-in-law into giving him what he wants. Of course, she is a feisty old lady and doesn't simply give in, but eventually she does give in, if only to have some semblance of peace during any given day. She is 68 years of age and has to look after a frail husband of 74 which suffers from vascular dementia and is probably on his last legs, with perhaps another year to live. All this in between abuse, threats of violence, demands for money and food.
My wife and I have decided to say in a granny flat on the premises in order to be able to protect my mom-in-law from this piece of scum, because without us he would simply barge into her home and probably kill her, given half a chance. The only person he has a modicum of respect for is myself as I have had to take him down a couple of times, one of which landed me in court in front of a judge. I am actually an old-school boer and have to do everything in my power NOT to take this guy out when given the chance.
My wife, myself and mom-in-law look after the kids. We pay their schoolfees. We feed them. We clothe them. We bath them. We teach them the ways of decent people. In short, we do EVERYTHING for these kids, with not a single dead cent received from the parents as a contribution. Yet, the first thing that comes out of this abusive, obnoxious pig's mouth when he doesn't get food or money from his mother is that he will 'take his kids and line.' This has been going on for years, and while there are no more bricks flying through windows or bricks landing on roofs or backdoors being broken, the verbal abuse carries on and, to be honest, all of us are absolutely GATVOL of this guy.
As if this is not enough, being who he is he brings the dregs of society onto the premises to come and buy their lollies or swap them for a hit, and this on a Sunday afternoon when you are trying to have a good time with a child that isn't biologically yours and gets exposed to this kind of crap and abuse on an almost daily basis. It is sick and unacceptable.
My wife and I are expecting our first biological child in April next year, and we are torn between moving away from here to spare our newborn the abuse and staying here to protect my mother-in-law, who is getting on in age and has very little chance of fending for herself in our absence. To give you an idea, the situation is so bad that whenever the cops are called up to come and sort this guy out there is a collective rolling of eyes when they hear the address which they are to go to.
Our plan is to legally get rid of this idiot in a bid to afford my mom-in-law some semblance of peace in her last couple of years on this earth. We are however very concerned for the kids, especially our foster daughter, whom we've come to love and protect as our own, and we fear that the likes of welfare will simply take her away, or - worse - hand her over to her biological parents, with whom she's had absolutely zero contact, despite living on the same premises for years, and with whom she would most likely me whored out for a fix or three, the though of which is too much to bear.
If there is anyone out there who can point us in the right direction to get this situation sorted without harming the kids I would be very grateful for your advice. We want to get the ball rolling on getting rid of this bastard and we don't quite know where to start. We have approached welfare on numerous occasions, but despite promises of a visit to the premises they simply never pitch up and we are at wit's end as far as they are concerned. My wife and I want to be legal parents to her niece, who is an amazing little child, and we want to save the boy and the coming baby from the atrocious existence they are experiencing at present.
Any advice would be much appreciated. God bless you all.
