AcidRazor's Intervention

SoulTax said:
Of course it is about her. When he says, "The one thing I want, I will never have" he means her, or the abstract end result of her, being a family and loving wife.

Losing the woman you love can easily make you feel like you have also lost all the things that you abstractly connected to her. How you go about that is up to you. You are the one that has connected these ideas to her exclusively. So it is you that must disassociate them from her.
You can attain them, but you need to rip her away from the idea of them. Realise that you can get them elsewhere.
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Nothing is permanent--including pain.
 
SoulTax said:
sigh, not the best line of reasoning to follow in an anti suicide thread. :erm:
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Love that Carbide...just got one myself but the 500r :D. Why it took me so long to get a Corsair case I can't figure out now. Thing os beauty.




Anyway.... Acid lemme tell you something man. Before I met my wife, I was SUPER hung up on someone else... for like 2-3 years. That messed me up no end. Eventually I just realized it was going nowhere and cut it off, felt horrible but I made that decision and walked out of it. At that point I was relatively older, like 28, and hadn't had much relationship experience, and pretty much felt like well maybe it's just not gonna happen for me now, but that's ok rather have nothing than be in that screwed up situation again.

10 months later on I was engaged, and now we're nearly 6 years happily married with kids. It happens when you don't expect it to; you stop looking and you make yourself open to whatever (in my case) the Lord puts in your way. It's independent of your personal failings and impermanence. And you now want to toss away your life because you don't think you can have it? Man, you just took the first necessary quite brave step to finding happiness.

Anyway I dunno if that helps. But what I'm saying is, life changes on you very quickly, and things happen that you can't foresee when you're down.
 
blunomore said:
How does that tie in with OP ?
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doobyscoo said:
Furking hell I don'tknow, probably didn't help the situation though.
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Did you read it? The guy who I quoted stated that it is completely pointless to kill yourself out of misery and if you are going to top yourself at least do it while you are on top of the world and have done everything your heart has desired.

That kind of outlook will do more good than anything else. If you ain't done schit how can you be done with life?
 
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cerebus said:
Anyway.... Acid lemme tell you something man. Before I met my wife, I was SUPER hung up on someone else... for like 2-3 years. That messed me up no end. Eventually I just realized it was going nowhere and cut it off, felt horrible but I made that decision and walked out of it. At that point I was relatively older, like 28, and hadn't had much relationship experience, and pretty much felt like well maybe it's just not gonna happen for me now, but that's ok rather have nothing than be in that screwed up situation again.

10 months later on I was engaged, and now we're nearly 6 years happily married with kids. It happens when you don't expect it to; you stop looking and you make yourself open to whatever (in my case) the Lord puts in your way. It's independent of your personal failings and impermanence. And you now want to toss away your life because you don't think you can have it? Man, you just took the first necessary quite brave step to finding happiness.

Anyway I dunno if that helps. But what I'm saying is, life changes on you very quickly, and things happen that you can't foresee when you're down.
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So if you lost your wife right now you would easily just meet and marry someone else? Each to his own I guess.

I meet (on average) 0.0004 people a day. That's about 1 person every 7 years if your math is out. Like I said, I'm not the "ha lets go out and get wasted and meet random girls" type guy.
 
blunomore said:
Nothing is permanent--including pain.
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I beg to differ, Blu. The pain of losing a loved one is permanent. As time goes by, the pain changes. There are days it's lighter and there are days it's so deep that you feel it was just yesterday they left. I've lost a brother...I know how it feels. My mum lost one of her sons...it's been fifteen years...there's not a day that goes by that she doesn't hurt. Acid needs to realise how many people he will hurt if he does this.
 
AcidRaZor said:
So if you lost your wife right now you would easily just meet and marry someone else? Each to his own I guess.
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How did you extract that interpretation out of what I said? The situation I was in before was nothing like the relationship with my wife. I couldn't replace mrsc; I don't even know if I could find my own socks :o

I meet (on average) 0.0004 people a day. That's about 1 person every 7 years if your math is out. Like I said, I'm not the "ha lets go out and get wasted and meet random girls" type guy.
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And you think I am that kind of person? I was a church youth worker at the time. Poor as a dormouse. Just happened that she also was. Going out and getting wasted to meet random girls is the last of all possible ways to find the one; you'd have better luck finding your soulmate on Mybb.
 
AcidRaZor said:
So if you lost your wife right now you would easily just meet and marry someone else? Each to his own I guess.

I meet (on average) 0.0004 people a day. That's about 1 person every 7 years if your math is out. Like I said, I'm not the "ha lets go out and get wasted and meet random girls" type guy.
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come to cpt ... :D

people are friendly ..just yesterday i met datura on the road ...

adn the other day i met abzo at the shelter

dont get caught up on someone ...you just need time to get over her and everythign will fall into place

we all have a road that will take us somewhere
 
dendens said:
I beg to differ, Blu. The pain of losing a loved one is permanent. As time goes by, the pain changes. There are days it's lighter and there are days it's so deep that you feel it was just yesterday they left. I've lost a brother...I know how it feels. My mum lost one of her sons...it's been fifteen years...there's not a day that goes by that she doesn't hurt. Acid needs to realise how many people he will hurt if he does this.
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The pain doesn't go away. One just learns to handle it better.

It's like a wound that heals. But the scar will always be there to remind you.

@Acid. I think the point cerebus was making is that how you feel today is not necessarily how you will be feeling a month from now, a year from now, ten years from now.
 
cerebus said:
How did you extract that interpretation out of what I said? The situation I was in before was nothing like the relationship with my wife. I couldn't replace mrsc; I don't even know if I could find my own socks :o
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ShaunSA said:
@Acid. I think the point cerebus was making is that how you feel today is not necessarily how you will be feeling a month from now, a year from now, ten years from now.
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Hence why I asked him if he'd be able to easily replace his wife at a drop of a hat. I didn't extract anything out of the interpretation and I get what you guys are saying, but how can you let go of someone THAT easily.

This **** aint puppy love. I'm not a kid anymore. And I'm not going into the details of this anymore.

It's not just about her. The same way you can't blame 1 falling stone for a rock slide.
 
AcidRaZor said:
Hence why I asked him if he'd be able to easily replace his wife at a drop of a hat. I didn't extract anything out of the interpretation and I get what you guys are saying, but how can you let go of someone THAT easily.

This **** aint puppy love. I'm not a kid anymore. And I'm not going into the details of this anymore.

It's not just about her. The same way you can't blame 1 falling stone for a rock slide.
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time heals all wounds buddy

right now no one out there is like her ...but in time ..tons will be better

remember this post :)
 
Acid - One of my mate's is ADHD & he used to get some pretty bad downs,see if some of this doesn't make a bit of sense.

ten rules for being human.GIF
 
AcidRaZor said:
Hence why I asked him if he'd be able to easily replace his wife at a drop of a hat. I didn't extract anything out of the interpretation and I get what you guys are saying, but how can you let go of someone THAT easily.

This **** aint puppy love. I'm not a kid anymore. And I'm not going into the details of this anymore.

It's not just about her. The same way you can't blame 1 falling stone for a rock slide.
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Something I have learned in my extensive bout with love. Each girl that I loved was the most intense pain when we broke up. But the next girl was more perfect and I loved her more. That happened over and over and over again. Eventually I realised that if the next one will always be better, there is no point in feeling sad over losing the last one.

You complain about how few people you meet. Then get out more. You don't have to go out drinking to meet people. If you are unhappy with the amount of new people that you meet each day, then change it.
 
"get out more" is one of those nice generalized "get over it" type of advice.

I do hear what you guys are saying. I appreciate the input.
 
For what it is worth: God loves. He understands what you are going through. He knows who you are. And accepts you just as you are.

But He did not create you to feel this way, to live this way. He created you for a purpose and has plans for your life.

He cares about you and desire to give you the peace you so dearly desire. So approach Him in the name of His Son, Jesus Christ, and humbly and devotedly ask: Father, please accept me in the name of Jesus Christ; give me peace and remove me from the hell that I am in. Through Jesus Christ make me a new person and let me live life to the fullness of the potential with which you created me.

Make the prayer your own. Be humble. Be sincere. Beg if you have to. The peace of God is worth it.

You've got nothing to lose. Why not risk being faithful? Why not risk being a fool? Go on your knees and try it.
 
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