Anorgasmia

I can actually kind of vouch for the BDSM things as well. clearly it requires you guys to talk about it first.

again, she needs to figure out what works for her first, then tell you, then you work on that together.

again bondage might not be right for you guys as a couple. she might want to dominate you instead of being dominated, you dont know what is going on in her head.

but I seriously think the solution lies in communication more than anything else. and weird thing, if you do sit down and have a serious talk about it, do not do it in the bedroom, do it somewhere where its clear that your goal is to help rather than to get laid. do not bring it up in the bedroom, because then it looks like what you are after is your own pleasure rather than, well, her pleasure.
 
Ockie said:
I would say encourage her to masturbate. She needs to explore herself to know what she likes. If you are not comfortable to masturbate on your own there is a mental block in my view. Masturbation for men and woman are normal. She is going to have to get over that. Once she knows what she likes and what gets her there, then she can show you.

That, or there is physically something going on, and open cards is going to be required with her GP or vagina doctor.

Oh ... regarding the pee thing. Tell her to relax. Reassure her. Dont now about woman, but with anal, if you put pressure on the prostate, it also can feel like you wanna pee. And so what if a little comes out. A little bit of urine never hurt no one. Giggle about it after, put the sheets in the washing machine and have a shower together.
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A good way to gauge where somebodies tastes lie is to find out what they are interested in terms of erotica. Which is more difficult than it sounds when there are guilty feelings involved.
 
Ockie said:
Ok ... will shut up then. You guys can figure vagina's out on your own.
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I think you have been spot on. with your advice.
its because Women speak to the Gay guys about everything and you just sat there taking notes and shared them with us here.

Double agent Ockie stealing info from one sex and selling it to another....
 
Ockie said:
Did you not read the OP? She has a problem with toys and does not feel comfortable pleasuring herself for goodness sakes. HTF do you think she is going to react when her husband starts bringing whips and paddles into the room one night and tell her she is going to get a spanking she will never forget? Come one man. Her vagina will close up shop FOREVER and OP will have to invest in a fleshlight.
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This is the same woman who said she also doesn't flick the bean? Come on Ockie ...

I think she's shy of opening up to him. Both of you should just put all your fears and pleasures on the table, fiddle around with them till you find something you both like. She's not being open and honest with you. All women just like Men get them selves off from time to time. If she says she doesn't, she's lying.
 
skeptic_SA said:
Awwwwwwwww.... :(
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Besides. Aint a clit just a under developed cock? Yea you burly men. When you play with your lady's pleasure button or licking it ... yip .... you licking cock ... and who are the best cock suckers here? Yip, you guessed it! The gays. But whatever. tsk.

Anyway, I hope these two makes some progress.
 
Baxteen said:
I think you have been spot on. with your advice.
its because Women speak to the Gay guys about everything and you just sat there taking notes and shared them with us here.

Double agent Ockie stealing info from one sex and selling it to another....
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Coffee meets keyboard
 
Ockie said:
Besides. Aint a clit just a under developed cock? Yea you burly men. When you play with your lady's pleasure button or licking it ... yip .... you licking cock ... and who are the best cock suckers here? Yip, you guessed it! The gays. But whatever. tsk.

Anyway, I hope these two makes some progress.
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Yeah and boobs are just bags of fat.
still fun tho.
 
skeptic_SA said:
I am not cumming up for any trolls here.... BUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT... A little dirty talk and light spanking DOES go a long way. Use it. Don't use it.
One word of advise: Now that youve taken the leap of exposing your SO as orgamically challenged and gotten all this sage advise from the studs on MyBB avoid at ALL costs getting home this arvie and laying all the advice on her. The less of an issue you make it... The easier her transition into "that place" will be. NO PRESSURE is key.

If on the other hand she ASKED you to get advice from THIS forum... You may have a totally other issue on your hands :wtf:
All the best of luck OP. We all hope a solution cums quick.
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thanks for this, will most definitely not bombard her with all this info.
 
smallearth said:
I've had this situation before. The girl concerned was guilty about her very BDSM fantasies, and she found it very difficult to find pleasure in normal sex. So I speak from some experience.

So, I'm being serious. I'm not trolling. I'm merely pointing out a possibility.

But, it's a journey, and a long one. And starts with communicating, not bringing toys into the room.
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thanks for this. We are most certainly going to have a sit-down and put everything on the table. She might be guarded due to having some really off the wall desires, and feels guilty about it. I need to rule that out.
 
50CentShort said:
thanks for this. We are most certainly going to have a sit-down and put everything on the table. She might be guarded due to having some really off the wall desires, and feels guilty about it. I need to rule that out.
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If she does .... will you be open minded? You have not told us how sexually open you are?
 
50CentShort said:
thanks for this. We are most certainly going to have a sit-down and put everything on the table. She might be guarded due to having some really off the wall desires, and feels guilty about it. I need to rule that out.
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Just take it very very easy, make it as non-threatening as possible. Good luck.
 
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